I am lucky enough to be able to stay at home to look after my children and we attend a number of playgroups each week. Here we always encounter many childminders and nannys often bumping into the same group several times a week. Whilst the majority of them are really great with the children in their charge, there is one lady in particular who I have am concerned about
Over the months there have been many incidents that I have raised an eyebrow about but have brushed aside as we all have different methods of parenting and disciplining. However a few weeks ago one of the little boys she looks after who is 12 months old was repeatedly ignored, pushed past and shaken off by this woman, who commented to her childminder friend "hes doing my head in following me everywhere" The child screamed for the entire hour, lifting up his arms to be picked up. At one point he was picked up, plonked in the corner with a jigsaw and left, still sobbing. I went over with my 20 month old son and was immediately reprimanded and told not to "give him any attention cos thats what he wants" (is this not what all babies want)
This week at playgroup a little girl she was looking after cried all the way through story time (as my own have sometimes) and the childminder repeatedly put her hand over the babys mouth to stop her. I and others who had seen this were horrified!
What should I do? I am torn! I just keep thinking if this was my baby I would be distraught.