Need a night nanny

wow I cant believe some of the things I am reading!! I am a maternity nurse and actively encourage mums to breastfed if they want to but of course also support mothers who bottle fed and I have never known a 8 month old to still need a feed how ever big they are!!!
I am looking after 8 month old breastfeed fully on solids twins now and they are sleeping from 7am to 7pm.
There is no right or wrong with the advice given on here as everyone has their own way and style BUT my style would absolutely no way be to feed a 8 month old baby in the night!! Most of my baby's sleep from 10:30pm to 7am by around 6 - 8 weeks some occasionally take a little longer.
Its like a jigsaw puzzle you have to fit all the pieces together for it to work. If you don't have the day right the night wont be right
Also I have my own way of doing things but I am more than happy to adapt my approach to how the mum wants but I am not sure if I could stomach feeding a 8 month old in the night!!!
Anyway just wanted to give my opinion!!
Peace and love.

Can I just explain that calling Ali an ungrateful cow was indeed out of order and I had no idea that her abrupt post to me was because of the shitty time she is having of it or that she did not want advice. I thought she was just having a go at people who were taking the time to post advice.

When I realised the full story I apologised. Ali accepted that graciously. I didn't think I deserved to be subject to other little digs telling me how out of order I was. And the contacting me personally is preferable to making public digs at me. That is all.

Hope that's cleared up.

its fine - the regulars on here know not much offends me :)

Ahem .. bli-ush was supposed to be

Blondes, my last post may have come across as a dig at you (wrt CC). It absolutely wasnt, it had taken me so long to write as I was feeding DD, your reply to the OPs last post was far quicker than mine & I hadn`t seen it [bli-ush]

Ali - My only other suggestion is to try swaddling him as soon as hes fed. I know it might seem strange to swaddle an 8 month old but sometimes it works & they drop off after a quick rock. Ive recently started doing this with DD using a flat sheet folded in half (making a triangle). It really seems to soothe & settle her. It`s worth a try at least.

no its fine - not abrupt to me :) - i was curious thats all - you do what YOU are happy with

I am a little late to this, glad that you`re feeling a bit better Ali & managed to get a lie-in.

Please ignore the comments suggesting your eight month old baby should be night-weaned by now. Absolute tosh. Many breastfed babies still need a night feed at that age, enforcing a daytime sleep routine/own room/water wont necessarily change that. Hes also too tiny for any form of controlled-crying, he doesnt know how to manipulate & if anything he would learn that theres no point crying as no-one will come to him

I know this isn`t an answer to your original question but have you considered co-sleeping? He could latch on without you physically having to get up. Being so close to you might be the comfort he needs & may actually encourage his to night-wean himself.

By the way I am a qualified maternity nurse/nanny with almost 20 years experience, I stopped maternity nursing as my approach became more baby-led. I BF my 2.5 year old until he was almost two & my 5 month old is currently EBF (& Im on ML). You dont need to steer clear of agencies, you just need to be clear about what you need. Perhaps someone who is newly qualified, not so set in their ways & willing to listen to what you need.

Hope it works out.

can i ask ali, why you dont want to wean off night feeds?

i know you say you have tried everything and that ds screams for hours etc but it takes time - tbh about 2 weeks of hell for cc/weaning off night feeds/cold turkey etc

so yes dh and you may feel totally drained those 2 weeks but things WILL improve

there hasnt been a baby that i havnt re trained yet and within 2 weeks

just curious, thats all - not a dig or anything x

I for one did not think you were talking rubbish RhubarbO, Just thought calling somebody an ungrateful cow was really harsh.

I only meant this thread I have never come across you on another thread, should I have said posts, sorry my mistake. Rather school playground stuff suggesting I contact you personally.

Ah who gives a toss what you think eastnorth, some people obviously just like to have a go. Ali has forgiven my mistake and that is all that matters. I don't spend my life on Mumsnet. I try to help where I can, I give opinions (nothing wrong with that) and I try not to upset or insult, if I did MNHQ would delete my comments I am sure, but they don't tend to. If you have a problem with me then I suggest you contact me personally to sort it out.

I'm off to read dd a bedtime story. Let us know how you get on Ali. You sound tired and fed up and I wish you all the best as I can remember that feeling very well.

You're following me? Bringing in other threads onto this one? Why?

I made a mistake on this thread, I apologised. What is your point?

Wow rhubarb look back at your threads and see how bolshy you come across.
People are giving their opinions on your comments same as what you did.

I think other people got their point over a lot nicer than you.

Hi Ali, Depending whereabout you are in hants you are. I would be happy to help. Have lots of experience as a maternity nurse and have a child of my own. DH is home on leave so am able to travel.

I would try night nannies, eden or howabout family match in Winchester.

Hope you get some sleep soon.

What area are you in Ali?

Sorry, hate to come back on and this is nothing to do with you Ali. But which part of sorry do you lot not get?

I apologised - twice. I said I did not know this thread was NOT for advice, I just saw it in active convos.

Thanks for telling me that I know nothing about breastfeeding. You know, I'm a mother too and I had eaten humble pie already. How nasty of you to rub it in with your unnecessary comments directed towards me.

Some qualified night nurses have already said on this thread that weaning might be a good idea, so I'm not talking complete bullshit. However thanks for your snide remarks after I had apologised. You could have just carried on with the thread and given the OP the information that she wanted, but instead you thought you'd have a go as well.

That's to zimm, redglow and Taptap.

Sorry for the hijack Ali, I just couldn't let that stand without challenging it. Hope you've found someone who can help.

Hi Ali, just wanted to ask if your dp is on board with settling your ds back to sleep? Out of interest do you think your ds will settle for a night nanny if he wont for your dh? Only asking as my dd was the same for dp and she was bfing all night until about 6 weeks ago. (she is 13m now) We tried a softly softly approach to night weaning and DID offer water first but if she refused it was no biggie!
Dd wouldnt settle at all without being fed to sleep so we started trying to crack the bedtime feed first with dp settling her at bedtime after being fed and then if she woke dp would try tosettle her but if it didnt work then I would feed her then give her back to dp to settle and after a while she associated us both with sleep and wasnt waking to look for a feed. She still co-sleeps after about 3am. Like you I dont agree with cc and tbh 8 months is still quite small, its entirely possible that he is hungry and bfing is much more than just food anyway! Have you read the no cry sleep solution by elizabeth pantley (sp?)? I know its not really what you were asking for but just thought I would share my experience as I was in a similar situation to you just a few weeks ago hope everything gets a little better for you soon!

Just to say Ali I'm still giving DS a night feed if he needs one, and he's 14 months old. He was a terrible sleeper but got better on his own. He now sleeps through four or five nights a week and the other nights he only wakes once and I feed him right back to sleep. I figure he'll drop those feeds when he's ready, just like he did the others.

We tried night weaning when he was seven months old and he still woke up every 2-3 hours. It made sod-all difference to how well he slept.

Just wanted to post in case it gave you some light at the end of the tunnel. Hope you get some sleep soon.

I used nightnannies.

Where abouts in hants are you?

Alibaba you could just ring up your lacal nanny agency. I have got jobs like this eventhough I am not a proper night nanny but done lots of overnight work. Its not easy and I was still breastfeeding my DC long after 8 months in the night. People can give you all the advice in the world but every child is different and you know your child.

You did not nearly need advice that you did not ask for.

Should read 'should not be used'. Sorry.