AIBU to just leave NOW?

NJE · 2011-11-08T13:00:42+00:00

Just been told by the 9 year old girl I look after that I am just a stupid babysitter and that I will clean toilets until the rest of my life... I didn' even know what to say. Luckily she is on a playdate with her friend now, so I had time for a bit of a cry... Right now all I want is to pack my things and leave asap.

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eurycantha · 13/11/2011 20:53

Hi why are you giving notice at the end of November and not now .I wondered if you had family you can stay with until after Christmas,Maybe you could do some temping until you find something?

sunshinenanny · 13/11/2011 14:50

I'm not surprised this mother has a vile child. I am tempted to think she has these conversations within your earshot so she can undermine your confidence in a way that you can't defend youself as she isn't talking directly to you, please don't let iher ignorance affect you.

The thing is' Whatever your weight, It is much easier to deal with than this womans ugly personality, which sadly she has already infected her child with

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NJE · 13/11/2011 12:11

Sorry spellcheck... Mean to instead of to and shocked instead of joked.

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NJE · 13/11/2011 12:11

The mother just blamed me for her daughter putting on weight. I am not the one who buys her daughter all sorts of sugary crap sweets and overheard her having a conversation on the phone, telling whoever she spoke too that she was joked when she first met me, from the picture I send her she thought I would be slim (the picture was taken a month before I met her) and then all she saw was a fat ball that was rolling towards her.... Hilarious. Didn't talk to her this morning at all. Can't stand her anymore. If I wouldn't have so much stuff there I would leave today.

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sunshinenanny · 12/11/2011 22:53

I hope the next nanny this vile family employes will give as good as she gets!

Good luck with the London Job NJE

redglow · 12/11/2011 20:02

Good luck NJE the mother sound vile and has produced a vile daughter.

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NJE · 12/11/2011 19:02

JulesNoBrain
Yes, I have thought of that too. I am going to move my stuff bit by bit until the end of November, so I have the biggest part at my friends house, so that when I give my four weeks notice at the end of November I have nearly everything there. Just in case you know. Maybe not the greatest thing for me to do, but then they are not nice to me either.

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Julesnobrain · 12/11/2011 18:42

They sound like an awful family. If you resign are they likely to ask you to leave immediately? Might be as well to prepare for that if they do. Good luck hope you find a new nice family soon.

TheOriginalFAB · 12/11/2011 18:36

Why are you still there?

Just go fgs.

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NJE · 12/11/2011 18:34

Just had the interview and it went down well. Going to London in two weeks for a day to meet the family.

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anewyear · 12/11/2011 09:36

Go for it, good luck and good riddance ;-)

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NJE · 11/11/2011 22:38

Hi, I spoke to the mother today. I tried to make things work, but they will never work. I told her that the daughter keeps scratching me and she says: Well, if you would cut her nails every day she couldn't scratch you.

So what about the smacking and kicking bit? Shall I cut off legs and arms too so she can't hit me?

Oh, I am so angry. Have a phone interview at the weekend for a family living close to London who is looking for a German speaking nanny. Let's see how that goes. The agency told me that the family is really interested in me. Position starts in January.

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NJE · 11/11/2011 22:05

Hi, I spoke to the mother today. I tried to make things work, but they will never work. I told her that the daughter keeps scratching me and she says: Well, if you would cut her nails every day she couldn't scratch you.

So what about the smacking and kicking bit? Shall I cut off legs and arms too so she can't hit me?

Oh, I am so angry. Have a phone interview at the weekend for a family living close to London who is looking for a German speaking nanny. Let's see how that goes. The agency told me that the family is really interested in me. Position starts in January.

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anewyear · 11/11/2011 13:03

Your too nice me thinks..

McPhee · 10/11/2011 23:16

Bloody hell, it sounds like this family need to hear a few home truths

You must be a bloody saint, because I think I'd have decked the mother before now

Leave. They don't deserve you!

Blondeshavemorefun · 10/11/2011 23:07

she can find slaves nannies easily - she just cant keep them

2weeks notice is fine

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NJE · 10/11/2011 20:25

anewyear

I will talk to the mother tomorrow. I will def leave but will also leave enough time for the mother to find someone else.

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anewyear · 10/11/2011 20:24

And your still there because???

If it were me, Id have been gone long ago..

eurycantha · 08/11/2011 22:02

You ve been having problems with this lot for a while now and you have given it your best effort ,Im with everyone else that it is time for you to leave .What a little monster .

crackedblackpepper · 08/11/2011 21:47

what a little shit and what a vile mother,I think if you start arranging a job now you can explain the situation to a new family they might take you under their wing

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NJE · 08/11/2011 21:28

So, mum comes home... talks to the daughter. Daughter gets load, upset, starts crying. Mum stops. Is nice to the daughter. I then talked to mother afterwards when the girl was in bed. I asked her if the girl said something and she just said: No, but you know I tell her all the time, that if she doesnt learn she needs to clean toilets later. I never heard her saying that, though. I could clearly hear the conversation she had with her children. Her daughter said that she wants someone new. She then said: They will be all just as annoying as Dumbo. She calls me Dumbo. Great... Def not making something wrong when I leave... I have worked for many families before and although things not always worked out with the parents so great the chilren always loved me. Oh...

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Cheeseandbiscuits · 08/11/2011 18:57

Sounds awful.

Would you like a job ? You sound lovely. I am desprately hunting for a decent nanny! They are treating you like crap, having read your previous thread.
If you don't need the job / reference, I would just go. Vile child.

thebody · 08/11/2011 17:07

as blonds says ,and just to add what a vile child and stupid parents, you dont need this, leave... dont take personally they sound a horrible stupid ignorant and crass family anyway.

Blondeshavemorefun · 08/11/2011 16:13

'blondes dashes in - after being pointed to this thread'

only a quickie as need to drive the dc i have at mo

tbh i havnt been in this situation personally, but what i will say is that if you make the parents 'tell' her off then imm you have lost the fight and any respect the girl may have for you

YOU need to deal with any punishment, and tbh i would have cancelled her play date and either rang the other mum or taken her friend home there and then

this family is rude and sounds from ex nanny things were the same and wont change, so hand in notice and leave - family emergency works well in this circumstances

no point flagging a dead horse

fraktious · 08/11/2011 16:00

If they're not going by the terms of the agreement, assuming it calls you an au pair, then the Belgian authorities won't give 2 hoots whether you feel exploited or not. They're pretty hot on fake au pairs, probably for the tax implications given that APs manage to wriggle out of the eye watering taxes. That is one thing Belgium does very well.

Their attitude just sounds shocking.