is this parent asking to much? or am i getting it wrong?

OMG greenbananas! 6 am starts????!!!! That means you must be up at 5 am when they do that. Hope you charge them anti-social hours wages to go with it.

Marypoppinsmagic - I would explain that you take the other children to playgroup and their parents are ok with it and you cannot possibly go to the other places as they are not in the area and it disrupts your routine. They forget we cms need adult company, it can be a really lonely job if you don't get out to tots groups. I came up here to Manchester from the Midlands 21 years ago, didn't know anyone and had to make friends at tots groups otherwise I would have gone stir crazy at the MIL's. Most of my friends are cms apart from at church and at my ds's football club.

I'm a new childminder too, and still incredibly anxious to please. I have taken on two children whose parents work crazy, unpredictable shifts, sometimes starting at 6am! However, both families seem very lovely and the children are great. I feel sure that I can work with them.

OP, even though I find it hard to turn down work, I really would not dream of continuing to work with a mum as scary, bizzarre and unpredictable as your new client sounds. She would drive me to a nervous breakdown! Hope you find some lovely children with more reasonable parents very soon. Good luck with your business.

SSD indeed - tho through the nanny grapevine - certain parents are blacklisted ..........................

Sounds like she needs a nanny, not a CM.

What a loon for so so many reasons.

On the most basic level, I've never used a cm but even I can work out that, generally, my child would fit into the activities of the group as a whole and that, if necessary, that would include every day odds and sods that the cm needs to do.

bloody hell! get rid now

what makes me sad is she'll get some young girl and bully her into doing everything she wants

as a former nanny and childminder, I've often thought we should be able to get references from the parents, we must supply references, childminders are ofsteded up to their eyeballs, but parents come to us and we have no idea of their background.

its pitiful sometimes

She gets worse. She seems to think you are her slave or something. Bizarre!!

You're well out of that! What a nightmare!

Aren't you glad you got rid! I left nannying cos of mad parents. Shame, I lived the kids and job

she clearly has not got a clue, try and laugh about it, you are miles better without her custom

omg

she sounds like a total nutjob, get rid immediately.you sound like an ideal sort of childminder (my DD's favourite activity is a trip to the suoermarket ) i think you need to stop being so hard on yourself and accept that building a business takes time. keep going to coffee groups (how about going to some more baby focussed ones in the hope you'll meet mums there who are soon going back to work and might be keen to send kids to you?).

you are se as a cm therefore you are the boss and YOU decide what you do/go/happens

if she wants to be bossy dictate then she needs to find her self a nanny

though tbh she wont be keeping any she hires with that attitude!!!

you will probably bump into this mother taking her son to the shops and the supermarket and letting him run wild eg. doing all the things she forbade you to do (not that youd let him do the running wild bit!!)

she sounds the sort of woman who employs a childcarer and has vastly overblown and unreasonable expectations of what she thinks she can demand as she is paying you

most mums are delighted to find someone they can trust who looks after their kids well and keeps them safe, and involves them in day to day things which kids enjoy

but a few think a nanny/childminder should be doing all the stuff they wouldnt dream of doing them selves, stuff that is totally ridiculous

I once worked as a nanny to 2 yr old twins, they were lovely kids but a real handful. The mother instructed all their food must be organic and freshly made every day, I really struggled with this as they wouldnt give me a minute to cook from scratch. But as the mother wanted this of course I did it. And did it for months and months. Till one day I was home (I lived in) on a Saturday lunchtime, usually I was out then, but this lunchtime I walked into the kitchen to find the mum microwaving frozen tesco value fishfingers for the kids lunch, I nearly fell on my arse.......

good luck op!

I`m a nanny and I doubt that she would keep a nanny either with her attitude .I agree with ssd terminate now ,just in case she does turn up next week.

op, you wrote "She didn't like any of it and I'm pretty sure she isn't going to use me after friday, well we will see!"

stop thinking the decision is hers to make, you are self employed and choose your own clients

you make the choice to terminate the contract, you dont wait to see if she'll use you after friday....

good luck, deep breath and tell her you have stopped the trial and wont be taking her and her child on any further, you dont need to make an excuse, google the polish word for no and leave it at that

Mary, you and your dd are worth more than this wack job mother, agree with Flisspaps

Then I'd call her and end the trial period today. That's what it's there for - if not for your own sanity, for your DD's!

well done, it sounds like she wants a nanny for a cm wage. Lets hope she does not get some poor aupair.

well done !!! x

wave good bye love.. she wants a slave not a cm.

Good for you, well done!!!!!

I can't see any other CMs putting up with her nonsense either, and when she starts working out the cost of a nanny for just one child she'll quickly realise that she doesn't actually have a lot of choice....