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Dilemma: verbally offered nanny position to one person; now met far more suitable candidate

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PacificDogwood · 04/10/2011 21:41

This is the first time we have interviewed for a nanny.

Met 8 candidates, our first choice then pulled out and position was offered to second choice first reserve.

I was no longer actively looking for further possible candidates, but have been unable to pull my Gumtree ad (don't ask; Gumtree will not talk to my computer apparently), so had a late reply who lives around the corner from us, well qualified for the job, nice, sounds reliable (I've not had time to check references yet).

The person I have offered the job to has been slow in providing references, seems oddly hesitant about the job and I just find myself not 'gelling' with her.

How big a complete cow would I be if I withdrew the joboffer from Nanny1 and offered it to Nanny2? Jobstart is the 1.11.2011.

Please be brutally honest.

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annh · 04/10/2011 21:50

When you say "slow" in providing references - how slow exactly? Have you received any of her references yet? Are they written or verbal? No excuse for not providing phone numbers really.

How did you feel about her when she was your original, albeit, second choice? Were you always a bit unsure about your choice or, hand on heart, is this only since you have found a potentially better option?

Sam100 · 04/10/2011 21:50

I think you should chase up nanny 1 to check she does actually want the job. Be nice and say - look, getting mixed signals here, job offer is conditional on references - if we don't get them then we will consider withdrawing. It could be you are her second choice too and she is waiting to see if another opportunity pans out.

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