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'Unregistered' childminding.

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MittzyTheVixen · 28/09/2011 19:54

I have been asked to do some child minding as a 'friend', as I know the children and their situation.

I did a small amount a few years ago and rang SS who said at the time that you could do up to 2 hrs a day as an unregistered minder, and plan to ring again.

I do not actually want to do it as the whole situation is putting me in a difficult position, but would also like to have a 'legitimate' reason for terminating their request.

I said yes to one term, as the 'friends' were in a tight spot, but suspect they are hoping I will extend it, I am a bit crap at explaining that I simply don't wish to continue as I am getting dragged into something far out of my depth.

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MittzyTheVixen · 28/09/2011 22:32

Thanks nannynick.. I don't really want to go into details because they are personal to them IYSWIM..

No, I shouldn't need anything to back up my reasons but I am a bit spineless, when I expressed my initial reservations I was politely 'talked out' of them.. putting it into writing might help as I can be clear without losing the ability to speak coherently.
I do feel compromised... I should get assertiveness coaching....

Thanks though Smile

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nannynick · 28/09/2011 20:43

Assuming you are in England (if you are not, please say in which country you live)

Legislation that may be useful, or may not be useful: This one is about doing childcare for a friend
This one is about the less than 2 hours a day

Ofsted have published a factsheet:
Registration not required

Not sure if that will help with providing a legitimate reason for terminating their request though, as I don't feel you have said exactly what their request is.

Do you need e legitimate reason though... if you don't want to do it, say No. It's hard to do I know but if you are to remain friends you need to feel that you are not being taken advantage of, which is something you may be feeling at the moment.