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2 year old put in corner for 10 minutes. Right or wrong?

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chilminderdilemma · 28/09/2011 10:29

Was 2 in July. Pulled the hair of chilminders own child (aged 3). Was asked to go to the corner and say sorry. Made a noise to chilminder instead. Prompted many times to say sorry and remained there for 10 minutes until he said sorry.

Right or wrong?

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nickschick · 28/09/2011 11:00

Wrong,a 2 year old doesnt 'get' actions and consequences he doesnt really get sorry either all he knows is that whatever he did the cm found 'wrong' constant reminders and vigilance and if theres an incident the cm should apologise on behalf of the child and then speak to the child at an age level appropriate way.

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zookeeper · 28/09/2011 10:59

too long - I would say a minute per year.

booyhoo · 28/09/2011 10:58

it depends on how long he was there before being asked to say sorry. if it was after 2 minutes and he refused then it would be sending the wrong message to let him come out of the corner.

or it could have been a case of, "go to the corneruntil youareready to say sory" in which case itwas upto the child ho long they stood there,

how was this relayed to you? i assume the CM told you? what did they sayhappend?

reallytired · 28/09/2011 10:57

10 minutes is way too long. Time out should be for one minute of each year of the child's life. (Ie. 2 minutes MAX) It is wrong to add extra minutes for additional wrong doings. Developmentally the child does not understand. If a child is in a stop they need two minutes to calm down. IMHO many two year olds are babies and too young for time out.

A two year old does not have the concept of saying sorry. Many two year olds tack the speech to understand an explanation. The child probably did not understand what they were saying sorry for. Making a child stay in a corner until they say sorry is frankly bullying.

Its sounds like to be the child minder does not understand basic child development.

franke · 28/09/2011 10:54

Probably too long for a 2yo but then I'm no fan of naughty step/corner/whatever type discipline.

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chilminderdilemma · 28/09/2011 10:49

Please?

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