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OK, CM question that may be really dense, but be kind!!!....

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Becaroooo · 13/09/2011 12:50

...ds2 (3 in 3 weeks) is NOT settling at nursery at all - crying, genuine distress, waking in the night and then yesterday vomiting Sad

He was only doing 2 mornings per week and has only done 2 sessions and its a disaster.

So, am thinking maybe a CM would be a better option for him? He has 2 years til he starts school so dont think it matters that he isnt at nursery yet.

My question is;
Do CM's provide the 15 hours free care from the term after age 3 that nurseries/pre-schools do? As I said, this is probably a very dense question but I have no experience of this.

Should add that I really dont want to push ds2 re; nursery as I did with ds1 and deeply regret it.

Thanks

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Becaroooo · 13/09/2011 18:36

sorry, should also have replied to a question - he has only ever been with me (and dh and his dbro) and GPs who look after him regularly.

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Becaroooo · 13/09/2011 18:35

Thanks for your replies.

I am a sahm so no, I dont have to leave him there.

Can I ask then, IYE, what should a parent do with a child that is so hysterical they vomit everywhere when the parent tries to leave them in your care???? Also, if the same child is waking at night crying that they dont want to go???

Because to say..."oh, keep trying" seems bit simplistic to me Sad

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nannyl · 13/09/2011 15:53

agree with others... far too early to give up yet.

if anything increase his sessions to 3+ a week if you can, until he settles (which im sure he will).

thebody · 13/09/2011 14:57

am cm but totally agree with last two posts, 2 sessions isnt near enough to say he will never settle, if you chop and change now then he will learn to manipulate the situation and probably be the same with a cm.

really heard but if it was my child(been there) pesist and best of luck

An0therName · 13/09/2011 14:53

at nearly 3 I would persist with nursery -unless you don't need him to go - in that case maybe give it a break - bribes often work

minderjinx · 13/09/2011 14:03

It's hard, but two sessions isn't much of a trial - maybe he was a bit under the weather anyway. Personally I'd give it a bit longer, maybe try the bribery card - offer to take him to soft play, park, favorite lunch - whatever works for him - right after nursery, praise him to the skies for being such a big brave boy. If you can't bear to go straight back, maybe leave it a week and try again. He may also be picking up on your own anxiety or ambivalence. Is he used to having you around all the time or okay being left with friends and family? If not, settling in any other setting could take a while.

mamamaisie · 13/09/2011 13:08

Some childminders do offer it but at least in my area there are not many. The requirements for each council are different but around here you have to be graded as good or higher by Ofsted, you have to have done an NVQ3 in childcare and be part of a childminding network. I have heard that it can be quite a lengthy proces.

It is worth calling around though as you might find someone who can offer it.