I am a cm and have quite a long garden with a fence at the bottom that you can see through. We have neighbours across the road who often come up to the fence to say hello to my little boy - they normally don't speak to the mindees, i assume because they know the parents aren't there to approve or not. Anyway that's what happens - they spend a few minutes exchanging loud shouts of hiya! at my 2yo, and laughing.
The thing is these neighbours are a bit sort of simple, and one is definitely special needs, and they do look a bit scruffy and sort of dodgy if you're not used to them. One of my mindees mums was there today when the neighbour came right up to the fence and shouted Hiya! before he noticed she was there and sort of ran off. She was obviously very disturbed by it, and kept saying what a wierdo he was and does it happen a lot and everything. DO I have to tell the neighbours not to do this?