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urgent help needed my son refuses to go to childminder

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slavetomyson · 29/07/2011 13:05

I'm in a real dilemma, my son is refusing to go into the childminder's house this week, he went in on tuesday for an hour but was crying so much I had to pick him up. so we agreed to try again this morning, and he refused and screamed and wouldn't even get out of the car. I couldn't just drag him in as other parents were dropping their children off and it was pretty much a full house with little ones and I felt too guilty about putting childminder in a difficult position. Myself and childminder can't think of a reason why he's suddenly refusing and getting upset. It's a difficult situation because I know he's just trying to get his own way, but it puts the childminder in a difficult situation because she doesn't want to see him upset, or have him upsetting the other children in her care. Switching childminders is not an option at the moment. I need her help on tuesday so i can go to work, but if he creates and screams so much on tuesday morning she won't want to have him there (understandably) and then i'll be in huge trouble with work if I can't go in. Need advice from mums in the same position or childminders also. My child is 4 and a half and his behaviour in the school holidays so far has been appalling. I really don't know what to do.

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triskaidekaphile · 29/07/2011 13:24

Are there any playschemes locally that he'd prefer?

triskaidekaphile · 29/07/2011 13:22

Agree with bribery in the shorter term if it might work! Is there any affordable toy he really really wants that you could agree to buy him if he behaves for a few days on the trot incl @ the cm's? Otherwise any chance that a grandparent or trusted relative could step in on tues? Do you have a partner who could book a day off?

slavetomyson · 29/07/2011 13:18

I've offered him incentives and he just doesn't care! today I told him if he doesn't go in he would have to come home and stay in his room, which he has done all morning. He doesn't understand how important it is being 4 and all, thanks for your reply but I don't think it will work

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smupcakes · 29/07/2011 13:13

As a short term measure - if you really need him to go I'd offer him an incentive. "After CM's today we will go out for ice cream"...