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According to my DD, she spends the whold day watching TV at her childminders!

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mummyloveslucy · 17/06/2011 21:01

Hi, my 6 year old daughter is home educated and has recently started going to a child minder one day a week. I asked on facebook if anyone knew any good CM's and a friend of my husbands family mentioned her daughter, who used to be a nursery nurse. She's only in her early 20's but I didn't feel we could really say no, so we though we'd give her a try. I sent my DD with a big bag of things to entertain herself, eg pens, paper, puzzles, books etc. When I picked her up she was asleep on the sofa. The CM said she'd been good etc. When I asked her what she'd done, she said watched cbeebies and a DVD. She didn't do any drawings or play with any of her things either. I noticed that the TV has been on every time we've visited, and if it's on, DD will watch it. She has an 18 month old daughter who DD has become very fond of, but no other CM children.
I'm not sure wether to say something very tactful to enquire about what she's been doing there, just carry on taking her, or what? I find these things really awkward! I don't mind her watching a DVD or some TV, but 6 hours worth is just too much. She goes on a day that's usually a chill out day, but even so, I usually encourage her to play games, read to her and involve her in what I'm doing.
Am I asking too much though?

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lisad123 · 17/06/2011 22:23

My understanding of home ed is that the LEA cant force you to do anything with your child. I could pull my girls out of school, tell the LEA Im home eding them and then spend all day visiting friends, sleeping and doing bugger all! shocking.

amistillsexy · 17/06/2011 22:23

OP, I'm more concerned about how you are managing to home-educate your DD, who obviously requires more than the usual attention (and most 6 year-olds require alot of attention!) when you work nights?
Surely you need to sleep during the day? Who is educating your DD then?
Hmm

BooyHoo · 17/06/2011 22:22

quite honestly mummyloveslucy, i would run far and fast from you aswell. you dont seem to give a fiddle who looks after your child. convenience matters to you and that is all. i am a mother of two exceptionally happy boys, owner of one dog and two cats, all extremely well cared for and loved and i have taken names from so many families already wishing to use my services when i do become registered. you opinion of me based on the fact that i have pointed out YOUR mistake matters not a jot to me. good luck. take care of your DD the way she deserves to be taken care of.

clemetteattlee · 17/06/2011 22:22

How many childminders are qualified to educate 6 year olds? Nursery nurses don't study the needs of school aged children

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mummyloveslucy · 17/06/2011 22:20

Her needs cannot be met at school. Her needs are met at home!!

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clemetteattlee · 17/06/2011 22:20

Have you checked with the LEA that this will be accepted as part of her home education?

NonnoMum · 17/06/2011 22:18

And it seems you have no idea how unregistered CMs are illegal...

Why didn't you start the thread saying...

I sent my SEN child to an unregistered CM one day a week. She sat in front of the TV all day. Should I be concerned that Ofsted might be interested in the alternative provision I am providing for my child or should I just accept that I made a mistake in not sending her to school and need to bite the bullet and seek out a school where her needs can be met?

Just a thought...

lisad123 · 17/06/2011 22:18

girls with ASD are hughly effected by anxiousness, and it takes over in a way that is just too much to cope with. :(

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mummyloveslucy · 17/06/2011 22:18

BooyHoo- are you a child minder?? If so, I'm sorry to say, I wouldn't want to looking after my dog, let alone my child! You seem like an angry nasty piece of work to me. I've been very open and honest and have admitted I made a mistake, yet you're still being a bitch!
Boy, I really will have to be careful who I chose!

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mummyloveslucy · 17/06/2011 22:13

Thank you lisad123- My dd is being assessed for ASD too. She is actually willing to socialise with her HE friends at the groups far more than she did in school! I think she feels more secure knowing we're there if she needs us, she's vernturing out of herself much more.
I hope HE goes well for you too. Smile

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lisad123 · 17/06/2011 22:13

NonnoMum, its not about being calm sat infront of tv.
School is aalot of noise, a lot of personalility, social understanding, my girls certainly struggle alot and require alot of imput to manage a standard day at school.

BooyHoo · 17/06/2011 22:11

" It seems obvious you don't have any idea about how some SEN's can effect some children,"

Confused

well why would she have any idea how some SENs can affect some children? we dont get a handout in the maternity ward of how every type of SEN affects every type of child you know!! what a silly thing to say.

lisad123 · 17/06/2011 22:10

to those other posters, 1 hours of 1-1 home ed is proven to be as good as 6 hours of school in a class of 30.
My girls who both have autism will be home schooled after year 6, they wont manage senior schools at all, especially the eldest

lisad123 · 17/06/2011 22:08

she would need to be ofstead and CM registered. Yes she may have been a nursery nurse and CRB checked but she'll need a new CRB to be registered.

Go and meet some child minders, ask what they do all day. You may be hard pressed to find one willing to take a 6 year old all day as most of them would have babies in the day, and 5+ afterschool, so maybe think about 2 afternoons rather than 6 solid hours if you can.

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mummyloveslucy · 17/06/2011 22:06

She's not sat in front of the TV all day at home!!! She gets far more one to one time than she would at school. It seems obvious you don't have any idea about how some SEN's can effect some children, she is a very complex charactor.

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BooyHoo · 17/06/2011 22:02

also, if she is unregistered, she wont be paying tax on what she earns. ok i know she wouldn't anyway on what you are paying her but if she takes on more chidlren she may meet the tax threshold but not be declaring it.

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mummyloveslucy · 17/06/2011 22:02

I see. I'd better let her know. I'll be far more careful next time.

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NickNacks · 17/06/2011 22:00

That is all fine to work in a nursery but a CM is a different 'job' if you will.

OFSTED reg CM's and they do reference checks, medicas, CRB on CM and all adults in the house, safety of the house, ensure paediatric first aid, child protection are all up to date, check CM is providing varied and stimulations activities,,,,,i could go on! Also it is a requirement that to hold PLI!

NonnoMum · 17/06/2011 21:59

Well, we'd all be a lot calmer if we sat in front of the TV all day.

But - the stimulation of school is too much? I don't get it. I'm off. Ignore me.

BooyHoo · 17/06/2011 21:59

her home must be registered for her to use it to CM in. her qualifications are fine but if her home isn't registered she cant use it. it is a safety issue.

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mummyloveslucy · 17/06/2011 21:56

Do you meed registered as a CM or with ofsted, or both? She is a registered nursary nurse. She has all her child care quallifications and is CRB checked.

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mummyloveslucy · 17/06/2011 21:55

I just felt very on the stot! I didn't know what to say or ask. I felt comfortable that we know her and we went to see her with our DD in her house and our DD loved her baby, and was looking forward to going there. We told her all the relavent info and what she likes to do etc. I felt happy that my DD was so relaxed there and seemed very keen to come again.

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harecare · 17/06/2011 21:54

It is unlawful to use unregistered care.
If she wants to babysit free of charge and sit her in front of tv all day that's fine, but if she receives any sort of reward - even a bunch of flowers, she MUST be registered.

NickNacks · 17/06/2011 21:49

you're welcome!

BooyHoo · 17/06/2011 21:49

"When she was at school, she was a nightmare! She came out of school ready to explode! Since she's been at home she's like a different child. She's happy, calmer and far more relaxed. She's also comming along very well accademicaly and socially."

well in that case i actually cant believe you put so little effort into finding the right care for her!! i am actually shocked that knowing how school affected her you simply handed her over to the first person that was suggested to you, without checking her qualifications, her references, how she was with your DD, asking what she would be doing during the time she was there. i am totally stumped by this one.

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