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really fed up

31 replies

blondehelen · 13/11/2005 20:49

My cm had major surgery 5 weeks ago which she gave me a weeks notice about. She did find me an alternative cm which was great and she was lovely and ds really liked her. Anyway, spoke to her once in the 5 weeks cos she ended up having more time off than she had planned but other than that didn't speak to her. Ds is due back to her tomorrow so I phoned her tonight cos I am off to a conference tomorrow and not back til Wednesday. So dh has taken 3 days off and the plan is for dh to take ds to playgroup and then cm to pick up so dh can decorate while I am away. When I spoke to her she was a little offish that I hadn't been round to see her while she was ill, telling me that all the other mums had been round. Well I bearly get enough time phone my own parents let alone phone or visit my cm. Then she asks what time dh will be picking ds up and I said probably usual time but I would get him to ring her. She said well all the other mindees will be gone by 4.30 or 5pm so that would be good for her. FFS I pay her from 7.30 til 5.30 and she isn't picking ds up til 12pm then wants him picked up early!! Also her dp has taken 3 weeks off to help her because she still is not able to lift and I'm not sure if she is able to drive, but he is not registered. So surely she shouldn't be taking mindees again until she is fully fit? Or am I overreacting??

Phew.... feel better now!!

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katymac · 13/11/2005 20:59

Her car insurance should be business use and I would have thought her DH would be insured for the car - the insurance is for the car rather than the person driving (iyswim)

blodwen · 13/11/2005 20:59

I think I would be rather hurt and disappointed if I only had one phone call in 5 weeks from a parent I minded for if I'd had major surgery. Did you ds make her a get well card? One weeks notice doesn't seem much, but maybe that's all she had too. It was good that she found an alternative childminder for you where your ds has been happy. If her husband is able to take 3 weeks off work to help, he doesn't need to be registered in his own right. He will have been police checked anyway, and if his wife is always there with him, it shouldn't be a problem. She probably can't afford to have any more time off!

katymac · 13/11/2005 20:58

As long as she is there (and awake) there is no problem with her DH being around (he will have been police checked)

Whether or not she is ready to return to work is a decision she will (probably) have struggled to make.

However when I returned to my job after (reasonably minor) surgery, I was allowed to ease in gently with shorter hours.

Obviously as a self employed person this may not be necessarily practical, however you may feel a little leaway may be necessary.

Good luck - if it's a major problem for you, you may have to find alternative childcare as if you aren't happy.

blondehelen · 13/11/2005 20:58

So is her dp insured to drive my ds and look after him as she is not fit

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HappyMumof2 · 13/11/2005 20:57

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goosey · 13/11/2005 20:52

Yes you are totally overreacting.