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Yup, Boff's got through another nanny ...

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BoffinMum · 19/05/2011 21:46

Sooooo, my latest nanny's just told me she's resigning because she doesn't enjoy looking after my eldest DC (aged 13). And she wants to go back to Turkey to be with her mum (nanny is 32).

Hand me the chocolate.

I think I am facing career death, because I can't imagine going through childcare trauma for 9 months again like last time. So I am thinking about sitting on the sofa all day watching Jeremy Kyle instead. I only make £25 a week going to work at the moment anyway. Why bother?

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nannynick · 21/05/2011 09:36

There is also no evidence that the nanny is looking for work in the UK. Sounds to me that the nannies family situation in Turkey has got to a point where she feels she has to go back to Turkey.

Having different forms of childcare may well be a possible soluition, however it could get expensive and hard to manage. 13 year old may be wanting independence yet also want help at times, transporting around, someone to play computer games.

nannynick · 21/05/2011 09:36

There is also no evidence that the nanny is looking for work in the UK. Sounds to me that the nannies family situation in Turkey has got to a point where she feels she has to go back to Turkey.

Having different forms of childcare may well be a possible soluition, however it could get expensive and hard to manage. 13 year old may be wanting independence yet also want help at times, transporting around, someone to play computer games.

NoelEdmondshair · 21/05/2011 09:36

Can your DH not do his bit?

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BoffinMum · 21/05/2011 09:03

Wise words.

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nbee84 · 21/05/2011 08:47

If a family have been through a succession of nannies it does turn on a red light and most people would wonder why and a potential nanny would be more cautious and look into why this is the case.

Mtorun has jumped in before looking into it in this case. Boff has listed her valid reasons why each nanny has left and us regulars on here have followed each saga and know that Boff has just been unlucky.

When my ds was small I went through 3 cm's in under 2 years - each of them having a valid reason for stopping cming/being unable to provide care any longer.

Laquitar · 21/05/2011 08:30

IME in most cases when nannies leave it is NOT personal, it can be genuine personal/family issues or more money/easier job, more challenging, less challenging, whatever. It is a caring proffession but it is still a job. The nanny can indeed like you very much but still has to take some decisions. In these kind of threads people are always looking for the bad guy, either the nanny is a heartless bitch or the parents are monsters. Maybe they are all nice but people -especially young people- move on.

The only thing i would say about your case boffin is that perhaps the ages of your dcs makes it a bit trickier to find the perfect nanny because some are good with babies/toddlers and others are good with older children. Thats why i think the combination childcare might be a good idea and a mature lady/mother herself might be more suitable.

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 22:44

Can I add that I worked for two years as a nursery nurse myself as well ...

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purplepidjin · 20/05/2011 22:34

From a different nanny point of view, it's a job that doesn't suit everyone. Your opinion, Mtorun, is not necessarily the definitive one just because you're a qualified nanny. It's personal, and presented in a way that is easily interpreted as offensive.

No, I don't work for Scotland Yard. Strangely enough for a person interested in nanny and childcare threads, I work in that field. And yes, I'm relatively experienced - as I said above, it's not a career that suits everyone.

Mtorun · 20/05/2011 22:30

I don't think I'm aggressive or rude. As I said before I just point out the nanny point of view that's all. I say whatever I think is right. And that shouldn't be understood in any other way. And if you are not open to critism maybe you shouldn't post? Simple.

Anyway, good night ladies. And good luck for finding another nanny boffinmum.

Mtorun · 20/05/2011 22:24

purple, what a good logic you have there. You must work for Scotland Yard. :)

purplepidjin · 20/05/2011 22:20

Ah, ok. I just couldn't think of any other reason to be so aggressive blunt rude ah feck it, can't find the word!

Mtorun · 20/05/2011 22:19

Well, I'm not here to convince you but yes I'm. I have 9 years of experience with excellent references. :)

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 22:18

She can't be my nanny because I know my nanny's not on the PC right now. Wink Plus she wouldn't speak to me like that. She is very upfront and friendly.

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littleducks · 20/05/2011 22:17

Must have misread.....but LOL at boffing

purplepidjin · 20/05/2011 22:17

Mtorun, are you actually Boffin's nanny? Because that's the only reason i can think of for the grilling you're dishing out!

Mtorun · 20/05/2011 22:16

Well actually you have 3 pages anyway so it means I have read them all :)

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 22:16

I am not sure you are really. Are you a qualified nanny?

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Mtorun · 20/05/2011 22:14

Sorry, I didn't mean to be mean. I was just looking at it from nanny point of view thats all.

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 22:11

So you didn't read the thread but you thought you would have a go anyway? Hmm

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Mtorun · 20/05/2011 22:10

I stopped reading after 3rd page so don't know if somebody already suggested. Can't you get another temp?

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 22:10

That was the only time they had between contracts. One has offered to come back if we need her again.

Why are you being so grumpy on here?

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Mtorun · 20/05/2011 22:07

"That's why two massively experienced and highly trained 30-something temps worked for me for a couple of months " yeah cause it was temporary. :)

Anyway, I hope you will find whatever you are looking for.

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 22:06

And stop calling me Boffing. It sounds like a deviant sexual practice.

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BoffinMum · 20/05/2011 22:05

That's splitting hairs and it's not what I meant. Now have you got a constructive suggestion to make? Or are you just here to insist I have something wrong with me?

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Mtorun · 20/05/2011 22:02

"I am sure it just means we are rather unlucky or alternatively terribly bad at choosing nannies." if that makes you happy. :) If you were that bad at choosing nannies you wouldn't say 'blardy fantastic' about your last nanny. :)