Strongly suspect CM is mistreating DD - views please

The language would have been enough for me too, and I wouldn't have left it 6 months either. "Open your f*cking legs" is unnecessarily aggressive when changing a baby's nappy and it would worry me that if her nappy changing is so aggressive, other things would be aggressive too.

My feelings exactly puddle.

i think 3 is too young to lie

i wouldnt even talk to the cm about this, i would remove my child immediately and never send her back, making sure ofsted knew exactly what was wrong and then i might consider speaking to her (the cm)

i wouldnt doubt my child over something like this

its not worth it

as i say i had a terrible experience with a cm previously and i regret it

I would certainly take her out immediately until you can have a full discussion with the childminder. It sounds as though she's telling the truth - I would also be worried about the partner and his involvement with the children. The language would have been enough for me to be honest without the rest.

it seems pretty clear that she is pickign up the bad language from the cm's home. If you really belive that she is telling the truth about the pinched cheek then you need to remove her from there and inform offstead.

But I don't think that three is too young to lie, especally if she is very articulate. It seems a bit too coincidential that she comes out with that straight after the swearing. she might have worked out that talking about the cm is a great way to get attention. My dd lied once to the school about my dp for attention and caused no end of trouble, when she was attention seeking after the birth of my dts.

I think the best thing is for you to sit down and talk to the cm and then see where it goes from there. if she has a good record previously, and your dd is happy it would be a shame to rush into serious action if it wasn't necessary. The swearing on it's own might be easily resolved if the cm realised the children were pickign up on it and she faced gettign into trouble if it continued.

OMG get her out today and NEVER send her back

report it to ofstead and do best to ensure this child minder never gets any more children to look after again!"

Thats my opinion

Get her out now!!!!
I wouldn't need anyone else opinions.
Get onto OFSTED and create merry hell.

Feel very sad about this. Discuss with cm, but tbh I think you should remove dd, dd's account definitely has the ring of truth to it and it's not worth taking chances.

If this were my child she'd be out of there like a shot, and I'd be reporting her to whoever she needed reporting her as soon as I could.

omg lasvegas - the language alone would make me run a mile. IMO, people who have no problem with using this sort of language in front of small children - and even when addressing them ( about the baby being sworn at) will have no natural barrier to hitting when they feel like it.

I would believe your dd, she's obviously not conjured up all those f-words herself, and regarding the assaults, she'd have to have seen someone model it really for her to then make it up that it happened to her. Does she often make up stories? Children vary so much, my daughter never really made up anything like this, whereas I was nursery's greatest fibber apparently.

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Just because your DD has no bruises doesn't mean she's not being mistreated.

Take her out, pdq. And then discuss it with CM.

Your DD's heard this language somewhere and if you know the only place it could be from is the CM, then the CM shouldn't be looking after children.

Is she there now?

i would ask cm if she has been to toddler groups or anything where dd could have heard this and judge her reaction. i dont think dd would be lying at that age either

i had a really bad experience with a CM. some may say this is overreacting but im sorry, i would not take my child back to the this CM and i would report to Ofsted immediately, perhaps even the police

"open your fucking legs"????????????????

I think im going to cry or be sick

I would have her out of there pdq.