It's the nanny's word vs my daughter's... WWYD?

Nope. Is simply bizarre, unless clearly discussed and agreed beforehand. I can't even remember showering during the day in my year as a live in, full time au pair with a 2 and 3 yo to look after.

Showering after swimming (if the house has it's own pool) (and copious vom) would be an exception, but most houses I've been to with pools have a set aside changing area/shower. Even if an accident with tea/vom, a shower is only useful if there is also a clean set of clothes.

True, true.

harriet - yes, people who work 7am-7pm with small children who vomit, tip bowls of soup over you or you take swimming - it's not exactly a 9-5 desk job they're showering at!

cool!

NannyL- vom is clearly 'exceptional circumstances'

when i have showered as a result of being vomited over, i have also used a squirt of their shower gel! (dont think i ever mentioned that either!)
and dont consider it to be dishonest!

(Starting to wonder if I've got hygiene issues. Just don't get this showering at work thing unless circumstances are very exceptional. People really just go round showering?)

no you come to mention it drink your milk there have been (3 times in 10 years) times when i have got covered in stuff and borrowed my bosses clothes.

one time when i was vomited all over i borrowed my bosses jogging bottoms, and washed my clothes (with all the other sicky stuff), in their washing machine then dried in tumble dryer, and then put back on later

Other times if i have got wet, i remember once, my jumper got soaked and i just tumble dried it....

not sure if i mentioned that to bosses, probably did, but im not going to walk around literally covered in sick, or an entire bowl of soup or similar, (or walk around without trousers on!) when there are clothes avaliable that fit me, and a washing machine thats going to be doing a load of washing anyway.
I would never choose my bosses bestest or favourite clothes, or new clothes or anything but an old pair of jogging bottoms.... i know my bosses wouldn't / haven't had any issues with it either

It's not dishonest of a nanny not to mention that they had a shower. Wouldn't occur to me.

Excellent timing with this thread - i am a nanny (live-in during the week) and this morning i managed to spill an entire cup of tea down myself so ended up showering with my 21 month old charge sat in my bathroom playing on my iphone. I wouldn't have thought to mention it to my boss until reading this.
If I had been live out i would still have showered, and if there was no alternative I would have used their ensuite.

"nanny looking for the brush to dry her hair after her shower"

I agree with that Bluddy! My MIL used mine once and I was almost sick

I can't believe the shock on here! The nanny had a shower...big deal! Very, very weird. The DC are 5 and 6!

Where does it say she blow dried her hair - I am more than happy to wash, towel dry and then put up in a pony tail not blowdry/straighten

and as a rule, unless i need something particular (rare) i always stay out of bosses bedroom / bathroom, and keep the children out too.

(the cleaner used to take all random stuff into their bedroom for them to sort, and many many times, she took my stuff up to my bosses bedroom too, as she thought it was theirs!.... if my stuff disappeared and cleaner had been, i always found it in their bedroom!)

Ebb.... the 5 year old i looked after projectile vomited all over me!
He was lieing on top (his) bunk bed, (had gone to rest as "tired") called me, i went in and it was like a shower of sick all over me! lovely!!!!

Just cause they are 5 doesnt mean they wont be sick on you, though im sure if that was the reason nanny would have mentioned it!

Just to add, there have been times when i have taken my GHDs to work and straightened my hair there. Clearly never allowed 3 year old to touch very hot GHD's, but have done it while he happily played in the same room.
Doesnt take long, bosses had no issues, and normally did it after swimming. (Oh and took my own hair brush etc too, didnt use my bosses!)

Shower if you're mucky but also DOING YOUR HAIR. It definitely couldn't wait to be done at home, a full on blow dry? Maybe I'm biased though because it takes me about 45 min.

And I would have been furious if there was a choice of bathrooms and the nanny had elected to use my en suite without permission.

It may not be unusual for a live out nanny to have a shower at work, but as an employer I would find it very unusual for it not to have been discussed as a likely event early on! And even more strange for it not to have been mentioned.

The examples of a sicky baby don't apply to a 5 and 6 yo.

I have employed several nannies and none have showered at my house unless staying over. It is bizarre behaviour (unless cleared as a possible activity beforehand)

I personally wouldn't have showered in my boss's en-suite ( if there was another shower available ) and if I had taken a shower I probably would have mentioned it in passing out of politeness.

Fair point ChippingIn. I wouldn't demand that an unexpected period should be recorded in the nanny diary or for her to tell me the precise details. (Although how often do periods come early and in such quantities that a shower is required? Genuine question, mine have never done that!)

I suppose I would expect a quick "I got a bit messy/sweaty playing with the DCs today so I had a quick shower - hope that was OK?" - and of course it would be absolutely fine. Ditto if she's going straight out after work.

Could be the nanny was looking for her OWN hairbrush and your DD has it a bit muddled?

What if she'd unexpectedly got her period - would you like her to put that in the diary too? Would you expect her to tell you?

I agree with everyone saying it's not unusual for a nanny to have a shower at work and it's hardly your DD's word against hers when you haven't even asked her about it. I'd consider it such a non issue I wouldn't have thought to say anything to you either if I was her.

I agree it's a bit grim she was looking for your hairbrush - but sometimes needs must I guess and hopefully she would have taken any hair out and given it a wash afterwards.