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Crying siblings, help!!!

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Kingzog · 25/03/2011 10:16

Have been looking after siblings aged 1 & 3 for 3 months now, once a week full day. 1 year old cries all day unless being held or eating. But today 3 year old has been crying, wanting mummy!! I'm at the end of my tether, in tears myself & wanting to give notice!! I've tried everything!! Why do children cry so much??? What is the psychology behind it?

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Danthe4th · 26/03/2011 10:30

As you don't go to the group anymore are you staying in the whole time?
If you are you need to get out, put them in a buggy and head out taking snack time with you.
Try putting some double sided tape on a sheet of cardboard and seeing what you find on the walk, it will turn into a huge collage or start a big picture that can be added to the following week ask mum to involve the older child in bringing collage material from home, magazine pictures to cut out etc

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Kingzog · 25/03/2011 15:56

Parents just keep saying they'll get used to it - they got used to her mum (their granma) eventually! Aren't concerned about it at all.

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Kingzog · 25/03/2011 15:54

I've tried taking them to play group 3 year old was fine 1 year old cried the whole time haven't been back since. 3 year old cried/screamed all the way to school drop off this morning, took them for a walk & they both weren't happy. Sigh.

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HSMM · 25/03/2011 12:50

I find a brisk walk with a double buggy often helps all concerned feel a bit better, otherwise you could have the 1 yr old in the buggy and do a nature walk with the 3 yr old. Take a bag to collect rubbish exciting obejects in. Maybe stick them on to something when you get home.

You may note my outdoor theme ... it's my favourite place :)

If they really don't settle, then you need to have an honest talk with their parents about the way forwards.

compo · 25/03/2011 12:25

Do you take them out to activities? To the library etc? Are they tired? What do the parents suggest?

PositiveOutlook · 25/03/2011 10:49

I don't think 1 day a week is enough at that age, if they haven't settled after this amount of time then maybe it is time for you to give notice.

I have a 9 month old 2 days a week a nd she is always tense on the first day and visibly more relaxed on day 2, luckily from mid April she will be with me 4 days a week.

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