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Childminders/Nannies - Would you tell a parent about a child taking their first step?

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nannynick · 07/03/2011 19:46

I know, you are probably reading this thinking that I'm mad - why would a childcarer tell a parent about the 'first' things a child does.

However just been watching Parents Under Pressure on BBC2 and on that a parent was saying that their childminder told them about their child's first step. The parent was upset about that. I agree, it's not right for a childcarer to mention a child doing something for the first time.

Do you agree? Or are you finding that things like doing daily diaries now means that parents do get to hear about a first step, before they see it for themselves?

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rubyslippers · 07/03/2011 19:56

My nanny told me lots of firsts that my DD has done

When I see it, it's the first time Smile

I would be more upset if she didn't tell me

Grabaspoon · 07/03/2011 19:55

Depends if it's in a 7-7 position where the parent's don't see the children as their in bed/going to bed and the walking starts on a monday morning then you can't hide it until the weekend. Otherwise I do as Rita said.

cat64 · 07/03/2011 19:53

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RitaMorgan · 07/03/2011 19:51

Definitely wouldn't say anything! Might say they looked close to taking a step though.

WishIWasRimaHorton · 07/03/2011 19:49

err - i would DEFINITELY want to know if my child did something for the first time when i wasn't around. i wasn't around when DS said his first word (tractor) but my mum phoned me and told me and i was all Grin.

if my exH had been with the kids when they did something for the first time, i would have wanted him to phone and tell me, so the same would apply to someone else caring for them who witnessed it for the first time. for me anyway.

KnitterInTheNW · 07/03/2011 19:48

I saw first steps with a couple of my charges, I just told the parents that the child was so so close to walking, and to keep a close eye on them!