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bit odd but could do with some advice

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MilkNoSugarPlease · 15/02/2011 20:37

Right, about 7m ago I met a mum at a stay and play (am a nanny) we ended up going to various groups together etc and she said she was looking for a nanny. She then told me she had found one and mentioned a couple of things about her that would identify her if I saw her iygwim

Haven't seen her for about 2m, today me and charge were at a stay and play when her daughter (13m) came in with a young woman, who is her nanny-from what she (mum) told me.

Thus woman spent the entire time calling the baby her "daughter" and "mummys clever girl", saying "oh mummy loves you" whilst hugging her...then wad talking about her not sleeping through the night etc....and nurseries she eats her to go to....she never once said anything about the fact she's her nanny not mum, or made it seem as if she was her nanny

The whole thing made me incredibly uneasy, I bloody wish I'd said something to the nanny

Do I tell her mum?

I don't have her mums number anymore but so have her address

Tia

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Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 16/02/2011 05:17

I think Sonic has a good idea, there. That way you're establishing that you know she's the nanny, you can see how she reacts to that, and she might just dial down the behaviour.

This is really odd, though.

SonicMiddleAge · 16/02/2011 04:48

Could you go up to the nanny in the playgroup say something like "oh it's so nice to see (baby's name) again, I lost the mum's phone number, can you please pass mine on? Or given you must only just have missed the birthday post the baby a birthday card, say you'd like to stay in touch and give your number/email address. Once you've reestablished ocntact then you can have the rest as a phone/f2f chat.

SnapFrakkleAndPop · 16/02/2011 03:37

Weird, weird, weird.

I'd call up the mother, if you can get her number, and see if you can pop round on some pretext so you can double check. Are there any mums at the same group who were more friendly with the mum in question and might have her contact details?

It sounds like you're pretty sure though, and if you've seen photos and they were mummy/daddy/baby then it's more than likely this is the nanny.

ThatScrotumCat · 16/02/2011 00:21

Did the original mum talk about her daughter`s father?

Just to put another angle on it I know a lesbian couple & their daughter has two mummies.

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MilkNoSugarPlease · 16/02/2011 00:04

Um unless the nanny was in the delivery room, flat on her back with a brand new baby...it was NOT the nanny

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Teenybitsad · 16/02/2011 00:01

Just because the Mother took you "home" it does not mean it was her home...it could STILL hav been the Nanny acting like her place of work was her home.

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MilkNoSugarPlease · 15/02/2011 23:54

Moon, I've also found that, BUT this was bizzarre, this was way more then trying to fit in....way way more

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MoonUnitAlpha · 15/02/2011 23:51

Sounds weird BUT as a nanny I have found sometimes mums blank you/won't be friendly when they find out you're just "staff", so is it possible the nanny was trying to make friends or fit in by being a mummy?

Blondeshavemorefun · 15/02/2011 23:46

Creepy -def like the hand that Rocked the cradle

'shudders'

You have to tell the mum

If need be pop in one evening and tell her in
Person what you saw and heard

menee · 15/02/2011 23:20

Wow yes you must tell her x

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MilkNoSugarPlease · 15/02/2011 23:10

I can't find her number in the local directory thingy (She leaved near me)
Any other way to find it?

Don't think a letter would be a good idea tbh

Saying that, what IS a good idea to say your nannys a fruit loop?

Am absolutely 100% sure that I heard what I heard and that she is NOT the mun and I do know the baby

It is really scary tbh

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StarExpat · 15/02/2011 22:16

Ah, just seen strix has written the m word, too. Now I don't feel badly. Sorry for hijack!
Tell that mom mum! Grin

StarExpat · 15/02/2011 22:15

Sorry movie film
I read on MN a little while ago that this "Americanism" is not well liked. Blush

StarExpat · 15/02/2011 22:14

Yes strix I was thinking that but couldn't recall the movie title.
Tell her asap

Strix · 15/02/2011 21:47

Eek. Reminds me of Hand That Rocks the Cradle (movie). Definitely tell the mum if you are sure of what you saw/heard.

Dozer · 15/02/2011 21:47

Weird, you should defo tell the mum.

FortunateHamster · 15/02/2011 21:46

I would want to know if it was my child and I can't see how the mum could possibly be annoyed with you for raising the issue. Best of luck!

StarExpat · 15/02/2011 21:33

Creepy.

RealityIsKnockedUp · 15/02/2011 21:10

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Hardandsleazy · 15/02/2011 21:09

Royal mal website will find you postcode if put rest of details in

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MilkNoSugarPlease · 15/02/2011 21:07

Know address not postcode though, can I still find the.number from that?

Her mum is absolutely her mum, we've been to theirs and three are pictures of mum and baby everywhere

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Hardandsleazy · 15/02/2011 20:52

In which case it is still all very odd

purepurple · 15/02/2011 20:51

What if the original woman you saw with the baby was not her mother but a nanny?
She could have been pretending and the part about looking for a nanny was all false.
The woman you saw with the baby could be the child's mother.

apotomak · 15/02/2011 20:50

Gosh this is odd ... I would definitely say something as the obviously has some mental issues ... how worrying .... it would make me sick as a mum.
If you know her full address and name just check her number in a phone book.