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Parents Would You Be Annoyed? Nannies..have you been in this situation?

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SuperNanny20 · 20/11/2010 20:36

I started my job in July and said I would stay a year..
They have had a few nannies before and really wanted someone to stay long term.

I just feel really unhappy there..I posted before regarding 4 yr old DC not sleeping..well nothing has changed still waking 3 or 4 times a night since July..I feel very sleep deprived..spoke to MB and she says " thats part of the bargin, when you live in".

Also DC grandma comes from 7.30am to 2pm..Ive said to mum maybe she could come later..as its a little to early..and maybe she could take 1yr DC while i do nursery duties..she said she would rather i went out with granny even though she is very capable.

Also, I have told her more than 5 times how the cleaners are rude and do not do a good clean..she hasnt listened when previous nannies also told her..

I just feel she doesnt listen unless she wants to listen but when im working 70 hours a week its grating on me, to the point where i just cant take it anymore as there are things that are unchangeable for example child sleeping..I ask her if she hears and she says " no, we dont hear a thing" .. I know i made a rod for my own back going into DC but it takes me 0.20 seconds to get child to settle...where it takes her 2 hours..

Also i cant choose any holiday days..at the time i didnt think of it too much but now its also a problem.

Also..finding it hard adapting to a new area..

So anyway the big question..what should i say in my notice letter and would you be annoyed..if nanny said she would stay a year? And she left 9months later (12 week notice period)

Sorry if its confusing im pretty confused myself..

Thanks for advice guys!

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lisalisa · 20/11/2010 20:43

Dearie me no wonder they can't keep a nanny! I have difficulty actually believeing this!! You are working a 70 hour week?? You are also doing the night shifts? Is this every night as if it is you are doing more than 70 hours.

Live in does not mean doing night shifts unless that is specifically negotiated - it is certainly not automatic. I have had live ins for 14 years on and off and they have n3ever ever done night shifts - when babies were very young and I needed a break I hired and paid separately for maternity nurses.

I think this family are really taking advantage of you.

12 week's notice is quite a lot. Although I'm a lawyer I'm not an emplyment lawyer so can't advise on that but you've only been there 4 months so maybe you are not even obliged to give that much notice>

If you do have to stay the 12 weeks that may make things a bit awkward as its live in so I wouldn't be too specific in the notice letter - just concentrate on non fault grounds that you aremissing family and friends too much as you are out of area etc etc. You could try putting in hte letter that the working hours in reality are longer than you had htought and see if that moves them to change your hours but quite honestly this family souns like they are taking the mickey.