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I just dont know what to do? ...... bit long sorry

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Mosschops30 · 20/09/2005 16:07

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katymac · 20/09/2005 17:38

Just say to her that you have found something else more conveinient.
I'd go with you instinct - I think

HellyBelly · 20/09/2005 17:07

Agree with batters!

HellyBelly · 20/09/2005 17:07

Just read your next post. You shouldn't have to say you feel uncomfortable, it just shouldn't happen.

Sorry, just my opinion!

batters · 20/09/2005 17:06

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HellyBelly · 20/09/2005 17:06

Hi. I am a childminder and would NEVER leave my ds (2.6) or mindees of that age with an 8 month old. The number of children is fine (I have my own ds and 2 other toddlers) as you are allowed up to 3 under 5's however I'm very surprised she left those ages all together. I know from my ds and the mindees I have that children of 2/3 have lots of energy and wouldn't know how careful they would need to be with a younger baby. Even if they are so good that they do know to be careful, I would not be happy about them being able to pick a younger child up like that. I've never gone in a different room to do contracts but am not saying this is really bad. I do however think she should have let you have your baby with you as 8 months is too young to be left alone (my own ds started crawling at 6 months and 1 day old and was into EVERYTHING so I'd say best to be with an adult at all times!!!

As for Fennels comment 'And you expect a childminder to be more cautious than a parent not less. I suspect the childminder isn't being careful enough.' - I totally agree. I don't neglect my own ds (promise!!) but I feel a duty to watch other people's children even more carefully!

I'm sorry to say that I'd go with my gut feeling.

Hope you sort something out!

As for the charges for holidays, I'm afraid that is quite normal as she'd loose a lot of income otherwise. If you want term time only care, I'd contact your local CIS for a list of childminders who offer this.

Mosschops30 · 20/09/2005 16:59

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Fennel · 20/09/2005 16:52

I'd agree with Mud, i wouldn't leave my own 2 and 3 year old with my own 8 month old, and I'm not that paranoid - but they are not responsible enough. And you expect a childminder to be more cautious than a parent not less. I suspect the childminder isn't being careful enough.

3 pre-schoolers is normal for childminders, I wouldn't find that a problem in itself. but I'd say the baby needs to be looked after carefully and never left with the others.

batters · 20/09/2005 16:50

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Mud · 20/09/2005 16:49

would not trust anyone who leaves a 2 and 3 year old alone with a 8 month old unless theuy are all siblings

aloha · 20/09/2005 16:45

aargh, trying to find childminder for my baby too and know I feel ambivalent about anyone - I want someone perfect, and am not sure they exist (and have a vacancy and want to have my dd two-three days a week!)

aloha · 20/09/2005 16:45

aargh, trying to find childminder for my baby too and know I feel ambivalent about anyone - I want someone perfect, and am not sure they exist (and have a vacancy and want to have my dd two-three days a week!)

Mosschops30 · 20/09/2005 16:19

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stripey · 20/09/2005 16:13

sorry don't want to make you paranoid but I would definitely have a problem with somebody looking after a 2 & 3 year old and a baby. Does she have other help? How can she supervise all 3 while cooking, using the bathroom etc. Maybe I am out of touch as I have never used a childminder but it would worry me.

auntymandy · 20/09/2005 16:10

It is hard to let your child be looked after by anyone. I think it is common to be asked to pay ha000lf for hols. Can you not find a trm time only minder?
Her children are probably used to babies and pick them up always. not a comfort I know.
Will her children be there when your baby is there?

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