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Nannies- playdates with mums/other nannies etc

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MilkNoSugarPlease · 09/11/2010 11:48

When arranging them, how do your MB and DB feel about them? If they don't know the mums/nannies your meeting?

My MB told me last Friday that she wants us to spend time with people she knows already

which is fine, except for the minor issues..
.1) that would cut the people we spend time with from about 14 to 4...]
2)I now feel like she doesn't trust my judgement about it
3) ive been there for 2 years and she says it now!

shes not the easiest person to talk to at times either!

Any thoughts?
TIA

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HarrietTheSpook · 09/11/2010 12:47

I would only say this to our nanny if I felt as though in some way the selection of people my children were spending time with was more about meeting up with HER friends or people of interest to her in the main rather than who I felt my children were best suited to seeing/would be good for them to get to know better based on school, etc.

It may be that she feels similarly for some reason. I doubt that it's she's suddenly lost trust in you from a safety point of view.

If you think not meeting up with these people she doesn't know will mean cutting off friendships that are important to her children, I would just explain that to her and reach some sort of compromise.

firefrakkers · 09/11/2010 12:15

I'd also wonder why?

Is it that the children are approaching school age and they're all down for the same school? Or that she wants her DCto be close to her friends' DC?

Is it a 'spend more time with' because she thinks you've been neglecting them or is it 'exclusively socialise with'?

But I don't really get why she would want to restrict the social circle like that.

How do you know these people? Local groups? Previous contacts?

drinkyourmilk · 09/11/2010 12:08

If i'd been there for 2 years already i'd ask why she's had a change of heart - and specifically if it was something that i'd done. Surely the kids have made friends with the kids you see now? Maybe she feels you are spending too much time out of the house?

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