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CM pals, need a huge hug tonite.....anyone???

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underpaidandoverworked · 30/10/2010 23:46

(Deep breath)

OH admitted to hospital Thursday - because I made him go!!!- with pneumonia, taken a turn for worse, not sure if he will pull through.....

Can't cope......

Managed to cancel 1 mindee for Monday, can't get hold of other parents and really not able to do face-to-face at the moment without turning into a puffa fish Sad. Feel really bad about cancelling but can't possibly look after LO when cant look after myself. Would it be wrong to send a family member round to tell them? Have arranged cover with another cm child knows and has been minded by before.

Christ I feel shite!

On top of all this DS is 6 this wk and might not get to see daddy......

Sorry all, but at least you cant here me crying SadSad, phonecalls tonight to friends have ended in floods.

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 31/10/2010 08:20

oh no

yes, send someone round with a note

I hope he gets better very soon

[hugs]

KatyMac · 31/10/2010 07:24

Oh pet - I know exactly what you are going through.

Remember when he comes out he will need a fair amount of looking after

Which antibiotic is he on? & at what dosage?

Send someone round with a note - it's better if it's in writing

badgerhead · 31/10/2010 07:10

Just come onto this, I hope your OH responds to the treatment & big hugs to you & your ds. You certainly have done the right thing regardds to mindies & yes I would send round someone else with a message as well. My family had to let my mindies know when I was hospitalised unexpectedly 3 years ago & that was no problem.

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underpaidandoverworked · 31/10/2010 00:15

He knew daddy was poorly last wk but have just told him took daddy to hospital and the doctors are fixing him (hopefully) but it's going to take a while. He now thinks doctors are crap cos he been away a few days Hmm

When I cry he thinks I have something in my eye- have no eyelashes left as far as he's concerned now.

He did have a convo at mindee pals house where he said 'my mammy was crying today'. Mindee said 'my mammy does that sometimes - it's a girl thing'......

off to try and sleep now - thanx all xxxx

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bloodsuckingLOONEY · 31/10/2010 00:08

I can't believe it, must have come as a shock! :( Nice of your mindee's parents to look after your ds. Does he know much about what's going on? I really feel for you and wish I could make things better. Take care and we're here if you need us. xxxx

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underpaidandoverworked · 31/10/2010 00:05

Hospital not really saying much, he been on IV antibiotics for 48 hrs, morphine, any other medication they will throw at him but he not responding.

This all came on in the space of 48 hrs, mega sudden deterioration - he couldnt breath and had chest pain, had to take mindee to hosp with us because couldnt contact parents.

This mindees parents have been fab, another have taken my DS today and kept him occupied - wow!!!! I thought I was going to have a nice, easy quiet half-term week......

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HSMM · 31/10/2010 00:01

I'm sure it's fine to let someone else contact them on your behalf. Take care.

NothereisnobodylurkingbehindU · 30/10/2010 23:56

Not a childminder but you poor thing! If you have arranged cover then either send that person round with a letter or send a relative around wth a letter. Just say 'Dear x, due to the sudden and very serious illness of my partner I cannot provide care for x today. I have arranged for y to do so, as you know she is known to x. I am sory for any inconvience but as I'm sure you will understand my family circumstances are very diffcult at the moment. I will keep you closely informed of the situation. Yours etc'
Then forget about it and concentrate on your oh and ds! Hope he improves soon. Amazing things can happen - don't lose hope. I know two people who were in a very bad way with lung things - one swine flu and the other pleurisy following severe asthma and they pulled through.

MaudOHara · 30/10/2010 23:55

Not a CM but (((((hug)))))

Hope your OH responds to treatment - take care of yourself

bloodsuckingLOONEY · 30/10/2010 23:53

OMG hun, I don't know what to say but just had to give you a big {{{{hug}}}}. I'm so sorry you're going through this right now, I wouldn't worry about work and yes, of course I think it's ok to send another person round on your behalf. Anyone should be understanding and if not, aren't worth bothering about.

What have they said at the hospital?

(if I disappear, sorry, we're laying a new floor and may have to disconnect cables so may loose net)

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