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CM pals, need a huge hug tonite.....anyone???

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underpaidandoverworked · 30/10/2010 23:46

(Deep breath)

OH admitted to hospital Thursday - because I made him go!!!- with pneumonia, taken a turn for worse, not sure if he will pull through.....

Can't cope......

Managed to cancel 1 mindee for Monday, can't get hold of other parents and really not able to do face-to-face at the moment without turning into a puffa fish Sad. Feel really bad about cancelling but can't possibly look after LO when cant look after myself. Would it be wrong to send a family member round to tell them? Have arranged cover with another cm child knows and has been minded by before.

Christ I feel shite!

On top of all this DS is 6 this wk and might not get to see daddy......

Sorry all, but at least you cant here me crying SadSad, phonecalls tonight to friends have ended in floods.

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new2cm · 01/11/2010 10:48

Me too. I hope to hear some positive news soon.

Take care.

CarGirl · 01/11/2010 10:42

I hope there is some more positive news today, thinking of you.

SHRIIIEEEKPoolingBearBlood · 01/11/2010 10:21

good luck for today, hope you get some answers x
assume his family are worried and upset too, look after yourself and try to not let them get to you

ChildrenAtHeart · 01/11/2010 09:22

Didn't log on yesterday so only just seen your thread. My heart goes out to you & your family. i've nothing else I can add to the wisdom already given by everyone else and to reassure you you are doing the right things but can send lots of (((((hugs))))) and prayers for better news soon

Thegraveyardshoshe · 01/11/2010 08:15

Oh underpaid, I am so sorry to hear this, I had pneumonia last winter, was blue lighted into hospital after collapsing.

I was on IV antibiotics and oxygen for 6 days, 4 before they really started to do anything.

Dont let anybody put anymore stress on you, your OH just needs you at the moment. I know I didnt want to see anybody else but DH, not even grown up DS and DDIL.

I hope he is on the mend this morning.

( And dont worry about mindees, my Families were brilliant, they arranged all the childcare between themselves and a CM friend.)

LesbianMummy1 · 01/11/2010 06:51

Hope you have managed to get a few hours rest sending you further hugs to keep you going today sorry can't offer practical help Newcastle is too far away

StarExpat · 31/10/2010 22:25

:( I hope things improve for dh soon, underpaid. What an awful situation for you. Where are you in the country? If you're nearby and need help with anything at all, I am happy to do so.

MaudOHara · 31/10/2010 22:20

underpaid - so sorry that there is no improvement and that you are having issues with OHs family.

Please do what you can to put your needs first - you need to stay strong to get through this.

Not sure whereabouts you are but if you're near me (Northants) I will happily help out.

bumpybecky · 31/10/2010 21:49

hope things get better for you and your DH xx

LesbianMummy1 · 31/10/2010 21:48

Hope news changes for better tomorrow sending lot's of {{{hugs}}} for you and your ds. Remember to take care of yourself too put your feet up if you can and even if you can't sleep try and rest.

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underpaidandoverworked · 31/10/2010 21:44

Hi, no change, still totally morphed out and not any better. Seeing doc 2morrow so am going to get pushy and find out just why they havent done anything to progress him this weekend.

Sorted mindees for tomorrow eventually, but feeling numb tonite. Have to get back into 'normal' schoolrun mode for ds tomorrow - think he will be ok, but he very quiet tonight before went to bed.

Have reaaaallllly found out who my true friends are last couple of days and those I've 'outted' will get it full pelt when all this over!!!!!

Have probably fallen out with OH family cos had chat with him today about the circus that was round his bed yesterday and he said he didnt want visitors apart from me - his mum wasnt happy, but I don't care!!!! I want him home with me and his son and if the only way to speed his recovery is to stop them going then I will Angry

AM in full anger mode at moment, dont know if it's lack of sleep or just emotions getting the better of me.

Thank you all for your msgs and comments, have had more support from MN than from my own.....

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crace · 31/10/2010 19:11

Hope your Dh is doing better, thinking of you x

CarGirl · 31/10/2010 17:49

Been thinking of you all day x

sharbie · 31/10/2010 10:26

sending best wishes and hope things go better today xx

bloodsuckingLOONEY · 31/10/2010 10:07

:( More {{{hugs}}} xx

CarGirl · 31/10/2010 10:03
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BoysAreLikeDogs · 31/10/2010 10:03

8 round the bed is unreasonable

talk to hosp staff - ask them to police in future to take the pressure off, staff will understand

tell DS that yes Daddy is ill but you can't answer and questions as you don't know what the Drs will say, and that as he is so ill you can't say when he will be allowed home

x x x

(nb sounds like myo/peri carditis in my limited experience)

SHRIIIEEEKPoolingBearBlood · 31/10/2010 10:01

oh shit
What can we do to help?

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underpaidandoverworked · 31/10/2010 09:48

Hi everyone, thanks for all the hugs and support.

He still not responding to treatment and has had a bad night. Am on total autopilot today, need sleep but cant sleep - and DS now asking questions. Have imagined every scenario that could come of this and my head is tooootally battered. Have upset his family because have said I just want to go to see him by myself today - there were 8 round the bed yesterday Hmm.

Will be back later xxxx

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SHRIIIEEEKPoolingBearBlood · 31/10/2010 09:32

you poor thing, guessing you're at hospital today but let us know how he is when you can.

Jusyt in case you had overlooked it, Northern has given you the wording

Dear x, due to the sudden and very serious iillness of my partner I cannot provide care for x this week. I have arranged for y to do so, as you know she is known to x. I am sorry for any inconvience but as I'm sure you will understand my family circumstances are very diffcult at the moment. I will keep you closely informed of the situation. Yours etc'

(I have changed it to "this week")

At the moment, you probably don't even have time to come up with wordings fir the note

crace · 31/10/2010 09:27

Thinking of you, try to take care of yourself- CM under these circumstances would be impossible.

I really really hope your DH starts to pull through, this must be a terrifying ordeal for you. I can't imagine.

Thinking of you all, take care of yourself!!

mum2akebk · 31/10/2010 09:21

Hope you have some better news today and your oh starts to improve.

As for childminding, you have done all you can and have been kind enough to find alternative care when your world has been turned upside down. I am sure the parents will understand and be sympathetic if someone else delivers the note on your behalf. Once that has been done I wouldn't worry about it anymore.

Take care.

LesbianMummy1 · 31/10/2010 08:57

sending hugs and best wishes. Send a note to the mindee he/she is not your top priority and you have been kind enough to find alternative care.

Just to give you a glimmer of hope when ds was born and in intensive care with a lung infection my grandad got rushed in with triple pneumonia and spent 72 hours touch and go then turned the corner and went home alone. He was 78 so it can change as quick as it started.

bloodsuckingLOONEY · 31/10/2010 08:28

Been thinking of you hun, hope you managed to get some sleep last night!! I'm keeping everything crossed for you that he responds to treatment soon. Keep us posted xxx

CarGirl · 31/10/2010 08:24

Wishing all the best for OH dh had pneumonia earlier this year it was very scary and he fortunately got off very very lightly.

Huge hugs your way, if the parents don't understand then they are probably not a family you would wish to continue with. I would put "critically" ill the note so they truly do know how serious this is.

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