Parent already getting shifty on my fees.

Sorry that looked a bit . I would have returned the you had DS not damaged the packaging. Or paid for it if that's what they wanted. I think when I reread it sounded like I only rectified the situation because he chewed on it

Shoplifting could it have been some horrible mistake??? Once I walked out of M&S and was nearly home when I noticed ds playing with a toy that we had not purchased!! He was 13 months. I went straight back and paid for it (as he had chewed the packaging) and they didn't call police or anything but could it have been something like that?

It is embarrassing for both parties to have to get to a situation where payment needs to be asked for. That's appalling. Can you say you'll only take direct debit (pre-tax salary sacrifice vouchers are all DD as well, aren't they?)

Ok, in light of your recent post, she should be paying you that and more and definitely not expect to not have to pay when she decides not to send him.

People never cease to amaze me. What cheek!

Had a feeling you meant they DO come but didn't want to pay because they were choosing not to for some days! You are soooo cheap in the hols!!!

Pleased you got it in the end :) Sorry I didn't come back last night but my bloomin internet kept dropping and I gave up (I didn't realise it HAD actually posted my last message!)

Oh I'd never expect her to refund me anything for it. I'd just hope she could get a bit extra from it! Glad to hear that it's possible (given the market).

Ok, I get it. see, I wasn't thinking from a "normal" perspective... As a teacher, I didn't even think about that - that most kids who are in school typically would still need all day care during school holidays. That makes sense, then if that is how contracts for school aged children are normally arranged. I get it now - I'd like to say that alcohol was my reason... sadly, it's not .

If your DS attends 8 hours anyway then I'd charge you the same. But say 3 hrs care wouldn't be the same in the hols. As for not being able to fill holiday only care, what i mean is if there was no call for holiday only care, i'd want a full time (i.e. not term time only contract) where they come for longer hours in the hols (like all mine do).

She MAY be able to fill the space, depends on demands where you are. If she was able to then yes she could take it as not actually over her allowed numbers, but if that was me and that happened, I'd refund you what you paid for that day. Does that make sense? (sorry, I'm on the beer!)

Along the same lines, we never send ds during our holidays, but do pay for them and the space is there for us. If I say, we won't send DS, can she fill his space during hols with another under 5 mindee for holiday only? Or not since DS is technically still paying/space available? Just wondering how this works. I was hoping that since we promise never to send him during that time, it would mean she could take someone else... now I'm not so sure this is possible after reading this.

I think I understand now.
But I do pay for holidays that I take. All 21 weeks per year of them. Same amount as term time. DS attends 8 hours/day and we pay for that every week regardless of term/holiday. I'd be really if my cm started charging me more than double for the holiday periods... I pay the same amount as always - steady income.

If the child doesn't come in the holidays but she keeps paying the same amount as always, it's not losing her anything, right? Unless she could fill the space with another mindee.... but if the area doesn't have a calling for holiday only care, then she won't be able to fill the space anyway, right? Or is it because she wants to fill the space but can't since he's on her books and she could get someone to come and pay for 10 hours instead of 5? I have no idea about limits of numbers for over 5s/8s...

Sorry, not meaning to be argumentative, I'm just trying to understand it from your POV more clearly.

Star, I totally get what you are saying but the reason for not charging just for those hours at school is because no one else would be able to take the rest of the hours place. Why would I want paying for 3-5 hours when I could potentially be paid for 10 hours. As I said earlier, I'm not saying what's right or wrong, I'm explaining that many of us factor in being full in the hols as our overall income.

Luckily I don't need to be like that in my area but if you came to visit me wanting just term time and i knew i couldn't fill the hols, as nice as you are (and I know you are from here :)) I'd have to turn you down. It's about supply and demand and some areas just don't have any call for holiday only care.

I understand if the child normally does go in the holiday time. I also totally understand charging a retainer... but what I don't understand is charging a retainer that costs more than normal hours. I would agree to pay 100% of the normal hours costs but certainly not more as a retainer.

I also understand that cms need to charge what they need to charge for their own salary. But surely, that doesn't mean charging parents more than double for a school holiday ... If my contract was 7.30-8.30am and 3.30-6pm, and I paid for those hours for term time, I'd also expect to pay those same hours, the same amount during holiday time (as I do - diff hours though) if he was to keep the same hours, or not attend at all... I wouldn't expect the cm to charge me for a full day during hols if he didn't normally attend a full day out of hols. That doesn't make sense. It does make sense for the cm to charge the same rate as usual for the same hours even if he doesn't attend. Then she is receiving the same income and not losing out. However, if he is attending a full day in the holiday, then she should pay for that!

Also, if she's choosing not to pay just because she's taking holiday - that's taking the piss and totally not on.

I'm sure there are parents who can afford and will pay loads. I wish I could do that, and I know many who wish they could as well. I love my cm. Sadly, if she did this, I'd have to change cms and it would break my heart... but I guess she'd just be for those lucky parents who could afford it to pay so much extra during these periods :(

Having said that, £26/day sounds like a real bargain to me and nothing to moan about! I'm assuming this is far away from the SouthEast because I haven't seen anything like that around here. And I agree that £16/day wouldn't be worth it to a cm... even £26/full day seems ingly inexpensive.

Oh and going back to affordability - you'd be surprised what some would pay. I have a 3 and half year old mindee who started with me at 8 weeks old and mum really wanted one to one care but also wanted me as her childminder. I explained that I couldn't afford to provide one to one care unless she paid double (I laughed and said 'but of course yoou won't want to do that') and she said yes please to paying double for it!!! Obviously that was in the early days and over time, things changed and I was allowed to get another mindee :)

I also read it that the child does normally go there but mum doesn't want to pay when she decides not to send. I may be wrong though.

Still.......I've NEVER charged a retainer however I do understand why people need to charge one. For me personally, if I never got holiday only requests but plenty of full time requests and then got a request for Term Time only, I'd have to say something along the lines of 'sorry, I am unable to offer term time only contracts as I need to maximise my income I'm afraid. The only way I'd be able to help you is if you paid a retainer over the holiday period, in order to keep your space open for when they're back at school'. Them being over 8 doesn't change the fact my car is a 7 seater so the ratio thing doesn't change anything for me personally.

The reason for charging more per week in the hols than in term time is because they'd be with me for 3-5 hours a day during term time and up to 11 hours in the hols.

Star - I totally get YOU couldn't afford to do this but also some childminders can't afford to have days unfilled. So IF I was unable to do term time only, I'd have to say that I was very sorry you couldn't afford it but that's my rates and I hope you manage to find someone suitable. This isn't being greedy and luckily I DO get holiday only mindees, I'm just trying to explain the maths/finances and why some people have to charge retainers. :)

thehairybabysmum - I charge £4.30 ph regardless of age so if a child is with me 10 hours, that's £43 per day! Our local holiday club is also much cheaper but I've got people who come to me after pulling them out of the club and people who just prefer my set up of going out and about every day than the club set up. Everyone is different but I certainly have no problem at all filling those spaces. If I was to charge £16 per day, I'd hardly make anything (after all the food they eat through the day and entry fees into places, resources for them to make things etc.)

OP - I'm now curious as to whether this child is or isn't with you ever in the hols

Really?! It's £2.60 an hour for a 10 hour day. A nanny would cost you at least 3 times that.

School holiday clubs also don't have the flexibility a CM does, nor are they necessarily there all holiday. Those things are a premium you pay for.

£26.00 per day seems a lot for the svhool holiday days for a school age child though...the holiday club at my school is £16 per day.

That's how I read it!

How do we know the child never goes full days?

The info given is that the rates in term time are £45 a week presumably regardless of whether the child is there or not, in holiday it's at least £26 per full day regardless of whether the child is there or not.

The issue is that the mother doesn't want to pay for days that she isn't working but nowhere does it say she doesn't work holidays....

Basically the issue is should parents pay for days they're not using because they've chosen to take holiday when the setting is still open, and the answer (IMO) is yes, they should.

agree with starexpat

Ohhhh, or wait... I think I understand now! He is going to go full days during the holidays? But the mom isn't going to send him on some of her days off (which aren't all of his holidays?)?