What I mean is, what did you do with your first child? How did things work out with you?
I have 3 realistic options but I'm not keen on any of them, so I'm interested to hear of anyone else has been in this situation and how they handled it.
I think my best case scenario is for my CS to be after 9am on a Monday or Tuesday so that we can drop toddler off at nursery and spend the day together with the new baby before DP picks him up and brings him in to meet his sibling then takes him home for bring and repeats the process for the 2/3 days I'll likely be in. It's not ideal because it would mean doing the nights alone and I was off my face after the first CS so I'm not sure how safe this would actually be either.
But if course I'm very aware that they could book me in for 6am towards the the of the week and then we'd be really screwed.
Just for information, my three options (and my issues with them) are:
- Get my mum to move in for a few days to take the toddler to nursery etc. However, she is very overwhelming and all consuming. She never stops talking and everything is about her and her feelings. She interferes with absolutely everything and has really poor boundaries and it doesn't matter how many times I've spoken to her about it, it's in one ear and out the other. I just don't want to deal with that on top of everything. It is very draining.
- Get my friend to move in for a couple of days to help with the nursery run. 6 months ago this would have been my preferred option; however, she is going through a really difficult time (ex is having a baby with someone else after they broke up because he "wasn't ready" for marriage and children) and I feel like this is asking too much, given what she is going through.
- Hire a nanny? I wouldn't even know where to begin with this one or if you can for a short period of time.
All our other family live too far away, including abroad, to feasibly be of any help.