Caused family upset by boys name choice - Help pls!!

Our surname is similar to yours and although I've always loved the names Isaac and Zachary (aka Zach/Zack/Zak) we felt they didn't work with the surname, especially Isaac. I think Jesse is a brilliant name (Gabriel, Jude, Nathaniel and Reuben would be my other suggestions).

With regard to your mother, it does sound like she's using your father's ill-health to try and dissuade you from using Jesse. If your dc turns out to be a boy and you do go for Jesse you could always suggest they use his middle name if they really can't bring themselves to respect your choice of first name.

My SIL called her son Phoenix.
I have a Felix.
I look after Phoenix from time to time.
I hate the name Phoenix (but I like Felix weird only one sound different)
People give me weird looks when I call for Felix and Phoenix like I couldn't think of another sound to use for my second boy.
I think Phoenix is a girly name for a boy. (not that this matters)
He is 2 now
I still hate it for above reason.
It prevents me using his name in public.
She has told me there is no nn that I am allowed to use.
I call him baby( except he isn't anymore)
Listen to your family.
Its a long time to live with it.
If they are just not keen then thats one thing but if it causes them embarrassment thats another. You need to make a judgement about that.
FWIW I like Jesse.

I don't think Zac Asher sounds worse than Jesse Asher TBH. Certainly neither are less sneeze like than the other.

I think calling someone a jessie is very much an old fashioned insult.
Its a good name, if you both like it then do it!

My Grandma is always critical of baby names. She said I named my DS after a dog and still rarely calls him by his name.
When I told her my DDs name (Elizabeth) I thought she wouldnt be able to complain about that, but no she replied with "ohh I hope you're not going to call her Lizzy" with a horrible grimace on her face. Gah! cant win!
She's never had an "episode" about a baby name but I wouldnt put it past her in the future!!

I think your Mum might be laying it on a bit, too - one could be tempted to say that your Dad is a bit of a jessie for reacting so to a name, but I won't since he is recovering from an op, and clearly not himself.

I do think they are being very unfair though.

my dd wants to call her baby OAKLEY but my parents do not like it, but all i can say is your baby your choice.

Zach sounds great, Jesse not so sure - it lends itself to being called a big Jesse in later years.

Am in Leeds and have rarely heard "jessie" used as an insult here so think he will be fine - if it is a he. My mum hates my ds's name and I am expecting all sorts of ridicule and nasty comments from her when we announce dc2's name (due in May) so I feel your frustration!

Is it possible for a name to produce a funny turn?

Jeez, I thought my mum was bad enough-when baby was born and we told her the name she outright said she didn´t like it!

No,mum, we´re not asking your opinion,we are introducing your grandchild to you.

Then of course, the first person she told-oh what a lovely name, how unusual.

So she did like it afterall

Well,I think it´s a great name, and if you love it, use it.

Agree with Hildegarde. Think your mum is being really manipulative about this - I really can't see how it's such an offensive name that it would actually affect someone's health.

I wouldn't worry about the teasing aspect, but if it's really playing on your mind why not give him a middle name - then if your DS turns out to not like being called Jesse for whatever reason then he's got a second option.

Forgot to say MIL didn't like one of our DDs names (we still used it) and my mum/sister really didn't like one of our DS names. It put me off abit and made me abit uneasy and question it but we still went with it and they have got used to it now. No regrets.

Stick with what you like. I do like zach though, Zach Asher sounds fine to me.

Jesse Jackson
Jesse Owen

lol at "I'm in Scotland, and calling someone a "Jessie" is a bit old fashioned. If someone wants to insult you here you're much more likely to be called a fcking cnt TBH!"

Makes me think of Jesse James, the King of the West - hardly a big girls blouse.

tbh I don't think it's very polite of your mum to lay on a guilt trip... it's not like you're naming your son Beelzebub, so it seems harsh to make out that it's giving your dad funny turns at a time when you are already naturally worried about his health. apologies if it's really the kind of thing that would affect his health, but it sounds like your mum is exaggerating a wee bit because she doesn't like it herself! again, sorry if this isn't the case, no disrespect intended.

If you and dh are convinced that the name won't cause any trouble for your little boy, then I don't see why you shouldn't use it. Unless your family have got any better suggestions! I do think it's best to run names by close family just in case it turns out to be - for example - the name of someone's first husband who nobody talks about, but equally, as long as it's not going to scar the child, I think family should allow for differences in taste.

I'm in Scotland, and calling someone a "Jessie" is a bit old fashioned. If someone wants to insult you here you're much more likely to be called a fcking cnt TBH!

I really wouldn't worry about it. Your parents will get used to it, your kid, your decision. If your dad hates it so much he keeps having funny turns when he hears it, he needs to get over himself frankly!

Personally I think it's lovely, even though it reminds me of the tragic (but thoroughly lovable) character Jesse from the TV show Breaking Bad.

Fact is that people will always find a reason to pick on someone's name if they want. DH is called John, the most innocuous bland name ever, but is from the US where his name is also a euphemism for the loo. Despite this there are still plenty of Johns in the US.

I too think it's an older generations insult (excepting in Scotland, it seems)

Stick to Jesse - it's the coolest boy's name ever. My youngest would have been a Jesse (and we had the same concerns as you - also in The North!)

Do you actually know the baby is a boy? Could be a moot point if you're having the pink variety!

But to answer the actual question - stuff them. Up to you and your DH, they will get used to it.

If you and your DH are sure it is the right name for you then go for it.

And don't mention it to anyone until after the baby is born.

They will get used to it.

Central Scotland and Jesse would be a big no.

As an aside, I wanted to call DS Cosmo - DH's comment was along the line of "I have been a boy in a playground in Scotland and KNOW what that name would mean." Hence no Cosmo!

They'll just have to get used to it, in my opinion. They'll soon change their mind when the baby's arrived, anyhow.