That's MY baby name!

Oh bless you!

When i was 38 weeks pg we had decided on a name for our little boy.

A phonecall came from my mother telling me that her sister had had a baby and called it MY BABIES NAME, she did not know and i balle dmy eyes our for an afternoon!

Nooooo how could she? I then came to realise that the name we had chosen was VERY popular and we reverted to dp's choice. I am now actually VERY happy i did that as i love my ds's name now more than i could ever of imagined. My Aunty now calls her baby somethign completely different day to day as said 'that name' does not suit him (rolls eyes)

If you love a name, go for it, nobody 'owns it', they are not pg, and by the time they are 'that name' may not be the one the choose.

Both my dd and my ds do not have 'MY BABIES NAMES'

nobody owns a baby name,my 3 dcs ds1 name dont hear much of now dd1 names popular and ds2 name, not heard anyone else by that name

Sounds to me like your friends need to get over themselves. Friends of mine have had children with names I had previously considered but it would never have even occurred to me to have attempted to veto their choices. You just discount it and move on.

Frankly, I'd be tempted to go ahead and name the child whatever you most like and, if it happens to coincide with one of their choices and they remind you of the conversation, blame pregnancy brain or claim that DH insisted on it.

But didn't your friends totally nick those names off Angelina Jolie? So fair game!

yeah, i was joking too! but the fact is, if I called my child a name which ranked number 417 or something, and then my friend announced that out of all the gin joints in town she liked the same name,,,,, i'd be a little

so perhaps the issue isn't ownership of the name, the issue is whether you are embarrassed about appearing to show a lack of imagination/or shameless copy somebody else's style.

Obviously it doesn't apply to names like isable and james and charlie and Emily.

This is why you should never ever discuss names with anyone ever .....

Oh good grief! This ripped my knitting when I was expecting. I never subscribed to then and I don't now. How very DARE they, tell them tae get tae. Honestly..

no one steals a name.your friend's are being daft and precious.and frankly you dont need to ask permission either

dulcie is names in public domain and fair game to be used.published in books and internet lists

what is the name missyTequila. seriously. don't torture me. I need to know

Cool. Very impressed. If you have a name like Dulcie you can afford to get the serious arse if somebody pinches it!!!

missytequila It's a free country, you are about to produce a baby, which is no mean feat! You and your dh can choose to call it whatever you like. You are not stealing anything from anyone and your friends should understand that. If I were you, I would just say you have not decided yet for sure, and you don't know the sex (if you don't) and that when it is born you will just see what name the baby looks like. Then when you have brought this miraculous new life into this world you and dh can choose what to call it and no one should be able to say any complaints at all. Please do tell us what you do!

If they were pregnant it might be different, or if they'd said first 'so long as you don't pick xxx' then it would be more understandable, but seeing as you showed them a list that you made independently, you're not stealing theirs.

Like you say - they may never have a daugher anyway. Or they might totally go off it in a couple of years! Also, are they married yet because it might be the surname they end up with doesn't go at all with the name (I had to give up my absolute fave name from when I was younger) because it doesn't match my married name.

The only person I prob wouldn't mess with is my sister - in fact we each picked 5 names when we were about 10 years old, that the other person wasn't allowed to use, and I still wouldn't dare stray onto her list!!

Anyone else though, I think is fair game - you're having your baby first so it's your right to pick first!

How old are you and your friends??

I'd ignore them and use it. No one owns and therefore no one is able to 'steal' a name.

I don't get it though - why do they get the name, and not you? Are they more important than you? No!

I don't understand why you're the one who has to give the names up, especially considering you're pregnant and they're not!!

They're being completely and utterly unreasonable. Fact.

I love the name Vivienne, for the record.

There were three Nicolas, three Gillians and three Sarahs in my year at school. Gosh their mothers must have all stolen each others' names! Or rather, chosen names that were popular at the time. Don't worry about it. By the time they have (girl) babies there will be another batch of fashionable names.

You might have to fight Angelina for those two!

But no, seriously, I wouldn't worry. They might never have a girl, or if they do, their other half might absolutely forbid their preferred name. Or their tastes might change; they'll hear something new they like. etc. It would be different if they were pregnant and had already decided on the name (with their husband/partner) for definite, but that's not the case.

My mother in law stole our baby name. Granted this was way before we started planning a family, but when SIL was pg we said we loved Chloe for a girl and Jack for a boy and those were the names we wanted for our future kids. SIL has boy named something else, all fine. Then when DNephew is 2 months old MIL decides babies are so cute that she just had to have another one and we hear she's going to pick Jack for a boy or Chloe for a girl. I was really upset at the time, I felt that if she'd spoken to me about it I would have been ok, but she ignored everyone reminding her that we really liked those names.
ANyway, she has a son called Jack and I got off my high horse and couldnt care less now. Jack is a gorgeous name, but if we have a son we have an even better name picked out that no-one will steal! That being said, DH still loves the name Chloe, although our DD is something else because I went right off it after name-gate!

Wow, long ramble, sorry. Anyway, we had a huge list for boys and girls names, but kept our favourites a secret. When DD was born everyone asked is she a, b or c and we said d, which was a nice surprise for everyone

Gasp! Just realised your friends aren't even bloody pregnant!! So they might end up having 6 boys each!

Give 'em what for, Missy!

They are being ridiculous. Tell them to fuck off that no one can bagsy names. And besides even if all three of you had dds with the exact same name, would it really matter?

Perhaps pointing out that you are in a better position to them for claiming a name, you like the names now as do they, who knows if they'll even like the names still when they are due to pop!

Have you pointed out to them that they are being ever so very slightly ridiculus?