what would you think if you met a boy called...

motherbeyond I am really sorry to have done this to your thread.

My post above I hope explains my strong feelings.

BTW I quite like Clark. Clark Gable was pretty tasty.

Am leaving thread now

Ha ha. It was on my husbands list but was a definate NO for me! He had Masha for a girl on the list, I let him use it for the dog so it would be ruled out for any future ds's.

Not sure about Clark BTW. How about as a middle name?

My apologies Paolosgirl.

You also put words in mine.

But am I really the only person here who thinks it's appalling to feed someone something they have told you may kill them?

I cannot overemphasise how upset I am by this.

I worry myself sick about what will happen in the future to my DS. The idea that someone will decide that he is being precious and deliberately feed him something he's allergic to in the hope of proving a point terrifies me.

arty!

Clark is great
strong handsome masculine as well as sweet

but then i always loved Clark Gable

go for it = reuben nice but popular

DS is 12 now - and at no time did I say that it's funny to put anything in someone's food, so please don't put words in my mouth.

If you're looking for something unusual how about Django?

Um sorry Paolosgirl you are grossly misquoting me!

Maggie said that her BIL claimed to be allergic to nuts and had an epipen. She didn't believe him so fed him something with nuts in.

I am saying that feeding someone something that they have told you may kill them, would be manslaughter if it did indeed kill them. Why is it so awful to point that out?

I don't know how old your DS but when he gets to school and other kids start trying to put things he's allergic to in his food "for a laugh" I don't think you'll find it all quite so funny.

Hey - no offence taken here at all! DS1 had a major anaphylactic shock to egg at 18 months of age. Incredibly scary - but not to the point of accusing anyone who makes jokes about Maxim's allergies/intolerances/whims of his mother's of manslaughter. I mean, honestly

I think this has gone a bit too far now.. manslaughter?

Maggie's apologised, I'm sure she didn't mean to offend mothers of kids with allergies. She was just descibing what sort of parents she imagined Xaviers to have.

Sadly, that is the inescapable truth here. For every child with serious, life-threatening allergies (which I don't mean to disparage at all) there does seem to be a Maxim who is simultaneously "allergic" to dairy and fond of cheese sandwiches.

Is it too late to say no to Clark?

FWIW - I did laugh (whilst fully recognising the misery that real allergies bring etc etc) at G & T Maxim and his allergies

No you didn't apologise. You said "Anyway, excuse me for trying to be funny. I failed obviously."

If you deliberately feed people food they have expressly told you could kill them and they die, you could certainly done for manslaughter. Surely you must understand that?

I know. That's true Eatingswanhorror, in rl if you make a bad joke and it bombs, people forgive you. There might be a slightly awkward silence for two seconds, and then it'd all move on. But on MN there's a court case for every careless comment.

I'd love to imagine how differently this conversation would actually have gone if everyone was sat round having a cuppa and a chat about it.

This is brilliant

balloon, he didn't have a nut allergy. He just liked talking about himself and his health, and he liked the drama of carrying around an epi pen.

I'm going to leave this thread now too, because even though you told me you imagined I was a fuckwit (lovely) I apologised to you. Now you say I could be done for manslaughter one day. [sigh]

Maggie, I was trying to stay away from this thread but:

"he was convinced he was allergic to nuts but he ate my chicken korma with ground almonds in it and lived. A big risk you might think, but I knew him and I knew he was full of munchausens."

Are you saying that you deliberately fed someone with a nut allergy a food with nuts in because you had decided that he wasn't telling the truth?

It may interest you to know that there are lots of different nuts in the world and most people with nut allergies are not allergic to all of them. Hence they are usually specific about which nuts they can't eat. Allergy testing will test for many different nuts.

Your BIL will presumably have had to convince a doctor of his nut allergy in order to supply an epipen. That's a doctor - someone qualified to make a medical diagnosis.

All your "experiment" - and I hope to God that wasn't what it was - proved was that your BIL is not allergic to almonds. Yet you see it as conclusive proof that he is a liar and not allergic to any nuts. I am profoundly shocked.

If you truly did feed him nuts deliberately you could well be up on a manslaughter charge one day. Epipens don't always work you know.

I like Clark. I suppose it depends on your surname.

But then again I DO have a Xavier, sadly no one wants to know about his bowel movements... I'm obviously not friends with the right people.

I have no connotations between Clark and shoes. I like it- I have a friend who's going to name her DS this as is her maiden name.

How do you pronounce Oisin or however you spelled it?

My son has celiac disease and I am extraordinarily careful about keeping him away from gluten and must pay exorbitant amounts for special bread and pasta, but...maggie, I know what you mean!

The secondcoming that is the type of person I was taking a swipe at. It's not just parents though, my x bil used to carry an epi pen around. he was convinced he was allergic to nuts but he ate my chicken korma with ground almonds in it and lived. A big risk you might think, but I knew him and I knew he was full of munchausens.