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having cross cultural name crisis, please help!

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AisieSusie · 31/01/2010 16:13

just a month to go til my due date, and NO names on the short list! here is the problem, I need to find a name for a boy that works well in UK [classic brit name?] and in Palestine [arabic names].

I really want a name that sounds familiar and has british/ english connotations, as I love words and meanings and history BUT my DH really wants a name that sounds familiar/ has meaning in palestine.

Its becoming rather an issue as its showing up all sorts of cultural tensions I never knew existed between us, and i had thought that maybe naming him something that didn't sound too 'christian' would be enough, and follow up with a arabic second name, esp. because its already palestinian tradition that one of the second names is his fathers, but my DH is adamant that the baby must have a name that sounds/ is arabic so his side of the family feel like the baby is part of them, and also so the baby doesn't feel like a foreigner when he visits palestine.

[tbh this last point is a bit academic given how unstable the region is, visiting a war zone isn't exactly likely to happen soon]

and just to balance the needs of this name... i don't want my baby's name to sound alien to me either, and my parents are getting really upset as they feel any non-brit name is some kind of exclusion for them...

so in short, I need to get this whole name issue dealt with before it becomes a divisive and political/ racial nightmare for me, husband and our families - as these things escalate so quickly!

Reluctantly I do agree that a child should have one name and one identity, particularly important not to feel like he has to chose between 2 cultures and 2 self identities... especially given the tensions between our two countries... but this is nigh on impossible! NB reluctant as i can't find any names that do this, not cos i am mean or anything.

so here's the challenge, do any of you lovely people know names that could work across the brit/arabic cultures [and sound nice!]?

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mumofsevenplusfour · 31/01/2010 16:59

i know a Yusef half palestinian half irish which seems to work for both sides of the family

Winetimeisfinetime · 31/01/2010 16:59

I had a look on one too, MadamDs and came up with Basil { same in Arabic and English } and Zak { Zakariyya, Zaki or Zakir in Arabic }.

I feel your pain op as my dh is Indian and we had similar problems when naming our ds. Especially as in my dh's culture the mil normally gets to do the naming - we ended up giving him an extra middle name for her as she didn't like the other 2 we had chosen.

Missus84 · 31/01/2010 16:59

That's a tough one, much easier for girls!

I second maybe Sami/Samir and using Sam.

Or maybe Joseph/Yusuf?

Zakariah?

MadamDeathstare · 31/01/2010 16:53

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AisieSusie · 31/01/2010 16:47

am loving rafi, had suggested this, but got into difficulties as then suggested Rafe/ Ralph as related names that could go on birth certificate, and then call him everyday 'rafi'... DH said no he wants something written that works in arabic too...

i don't know, does Rafi have any brit connotations?

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FreakoidOrganisoid · 31/01/2010 16:26

Ummm

Do any of the Aadam, Aaron, Sami, Rafi type names work?

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