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am not referring to any particular thread here, but what if....

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lilolilmanchester · 15/01/2010 19:26

... you really, really don't like any of the suggested names? Do you stay off the thread (which I do currently) OR do people really want to know whether you like it or not??? Or should people make that clear in their post?

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MamaLazarou · 16/01/2010 16:53

Depends, really. If I strongly dislike all the names on a list, I will say 'Don't like any of them, sorry'. If, however, someone is asking me to choose between, for instance, James, Joshua and Jack, then I won't post anything, because these names all seem exactly the same to me and so I wouldn't be able to favour one above the other.

FlightAttendant · 16/01/2010 09:56

True Belg

belgo · 16/01/2010 09:54

Flight - I think D'artagnan is more likely to get a positive response on mumsnet then Trevor!

5inthebed · 16/01/2010 09:53

FA

Trevor

FlightAttendant · 16/01/2010 09:50

what does everyone think of 'd'artagnan-roger' ? our surname is Flake.

[silence]

'bump'

[deafening silence'

'Ok then we'll stick with trevor'

tartyhighheels · 16/01/2010 09:49

I have just experienced just this dilemma. Someone has asked for opinions on a boys name which is just fucking dreadful and massively chavvy (well it is round here anyway) but I got half way through typing and deleted it.

FlightAttendant · 16/01/2010 09:47

On the 'letting my silence speak' note I would be so so happy to see a thread asking about a truly diabolical name completely ignored by the whole of MN.

FlightAttendant · 16/01/2010 09:46

I'm not entirely sure why people even ask.

I think they feel satisfied in their choice probably and want to gather at least ONE positive vote in order to cement it

If I had chosen the name i would be pleased with one 'yes' and not at all bothered by the 'bloody hell' votes

but then I am quite used to being pilloried about anything really so it kind of washes over me.

I tend to be honest but polite on the baby name choices, tis hard to know what is best. I'd never say 'fecking horrible' though. That's just being rude.

Alicetheinvisible · 16/01/2010 09:36

I think it depends how they ask iyswim? Also depends on the name. Previous poster (sorry can't remember who) mentioned Holly. I wouldn't think it needed someone saying something negative about a more traditional name, simply because no one in RL is going to say something. But if they were asking for honest opinions on, say Shiney then i think it is perfectly acceptable to say what you think.

ps, if this makes no sense, please ignore i am struggling this morning (more of a grimace really)

belgo · 16/01/2010 09:34

I try and be polite. It's not always easy though!

ilovesprouts · 16/01/2010 09:32

i once ask ppl on here what they thought of my kids names my ds2 has a chav name ,but im not botherd what ppl think i like them thats all that matters ,my dd is pg and i once askes what ppl thoughtof the names she chose and i got a lot of so called jokes

DiamondHead · 16/01/2010 09:32

I think it depends on what the op writes.

If they say what do you think of Satine-Sky, I'd say it mings.

If they write a shortlist and I hate them all I wouldn't comment - clearly we have very different tastes so my opinion wouldn't matter.

AnnieBeansMum · 16/01/2010 09:30

I give a very softened version of how I feel. I have seen names on here that absolutely shock me and actually make me feel slightly sorry for the child. But my standard response remains the same - "not to my taste sorry".

MrsvWoolf · 16/01/2010 09:28

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JamesandHisFlamingSword · 16/01/2010 02:06

I alsways say if I don't like them, but very apologetically.

Don't ever rouse a Katie ....

differentID · 15/01/2010 22:13

Shiney-there's always the small chance she could revert in a few years

RumourOfAHurricane · 15/01/2010 21:49

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differentID · 15/01/2010 21:45

Shiney- I never said that!

it was based on how they screeched the name after their little darling was wrecking the joint!

SqueezyB · 15/01/2010 21:21

whenever I have posted about names on here it's because I want an honest answer, especially if it's a slightly unusual name - I figure MN is probably a good cross section of the general public. So I figure that's what other people want too, otherwise what's the point of posting?!

Obviously you can be honest without being rude though!

Francagoestohollywood · 15/01/2010 21:21

I often need to sit on my hands to avoid posting.

RumourOfAHurricane · 15/01/2010 21:17

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gerontius · 15/01/2010 21:13

Mamazon, how does your silence do the talking? Surely that would mean that everyone who hadn't posted didn't like the name, which would be almost all of MN?

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lilolilmanchester · 15/01/2010 21:12

yes, I would definitely say why I didn't like something if I were to post, but even when people ask for opinions, I am really not sure they want you to say that you really hate it, even if you can back that up with reasons why, iykwim

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Botbot · 15/01/2010 21:08

I try to say why I don't like it - the associations the name has for me ? rather than just say 'that is shit'. After all, it's all pretty subjective isn't it?

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lilolilmanchester · 15/01/2010 21:07

so, is it better / more helpful to say "I really, really don't like that name"/ "don't give your child that name unless they are going to Eton cos they'd get their head kicked in round here " OR do you just politely not post on the thread?

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