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Should i just not use this name?

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PoppyIsApain · 17/12/2009 17:09

Hi i have chosen not to consider the name Caiden due to MN, and have now fallen in love with the name Charlie, when i told DH he said it is the name of my MIL's brother who i have never met and MIL and her brother dont speak very much after a family argument.
Am i being selfish to still think of using the name as my dc and i will never meet her brother anyway.
My ds name is Archie, are the names nice together or too similar?
TIA

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Ondine · 17/12/2009 19:28

If you are a close I wouldn't use it. There are names in my family's past that I wouldn't like to be reminded of, so I can understand why she wouldn't feel good about it.

Christian is lovely, the nick name Kit is fab.
Jake and Jack are so sweet.
Connor is a strong, masculine name.

MadameMoe · 17/12/2009 18:49

Oh yes do ask MIL about using Charlie, you never know! I'm generally against telling anyone name you're considering using but in this case I'd definitely check.

From your list I like Harry and Jack, although IIRC Jack is very popular in the UK ATM. Is that right?

I know a lot of people feel you should always use a full name rather than a 'nickname', but I really don't agree. DS has a 'nickname' name and we use the full version as a nickname IYSWIM. I'm assuming Archie is just Archie rather than Archibald. How about:

George
Stan (Stanley)
Wilf
Ben (Benjamin)
Gerry
Bill or Billy (William)
Ted (Edward)

CantSleepWontSleep · 17/12/2009 18:30

Jacob and Christian are nice, as is Joshua, although I think that's a very popular one, which may or may not bother you.

Hulababy · 17/12/2009 18:20

Why not ask MIL how she feels about it, and tell her you are happy to not use the name if she feels awkward about it at all.

I do like the name Charles/Charlie - my godson has this name - and do prefer it to Caiden. It s rather imilar to Archie though.

Rest of list:
Jacob - I like Jacob a lot, although less keen on nn Jake
Joshua - again like Joshua, Josh is OK but not a fave
Christian - not so keen
Jake - much prefer Jacob
Jack - I like this
Jasper - not keen
Harry - like this, also like Henry
Connor - not keen

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PoppyIsApain · 17/12/2009 18:15

That is what i was worried about, i want her to be happy too, i get on ok with her and Archie is her world. as im sure dc#2 would be.
My other serious choices are;
Jacob
Joshua
Christian
Jake
Jack
Jasper
Harry
Connor

any opinions on these would be appreciated

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MadameMoe · 17/12/2009 18:08

I love the name Charlie, much nicer than Caiden IMHO. But, if it's likely to cause upset in the family it's probably best to avoid it .

How about Stan (Stanley)?

BooHooo · 17/12/2009 18:07

I don't think you should either name

birdofthenorth · 17/12/2009 18:05

Sorry, I don't think you should use it either. You probably wnat your MIL to feel nothing but joy at her new grandchild, not for it to bring up awkward feelings.

inveteratenamechanger · 17/12/2009 17:30

Sorry, I don't think you should use it. It would be quite upsetting and odd for your MIL.

MrsMattie · 17/12/2009 17:17

Charlie goes nicely with Archie and is far nicer than Caiden. Go for it.

PixieOnaChristmasTree · 17/12/2009 17:17

Charlie sounds a bit like Archie the other way round, but not too obvious.

I'd go for it!

belgo · 17/12/2009 17:12

Charlie is a lovely name. If your dh is in agreement, then go for it.