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Double Barelled Names

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GinaFB · 18/11/2009 14:11

My DP and I have discussed the possibility of a double barelled surname combining both our names for DC #1.

Has anyone else done this and if so what was the procedure? Can we just specify this on the Birth Cert?

Thanks for your imput!

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RubysReturn · 18/11/2009 18:41

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Squishabelle · 18/11/2009 18:30

I really dont like all this double-barrelling. What will happen when the double-barrellers have children of their own - quadruple barrelling? Why dont people just choose one name and be done with it?

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CuppaTeaJanice · 18/11/2009 18:07

DS has both surnames, but they aren't hyphenated. People sometimes assume the first surname is a middle name, but it hasn't caused much confusion really.

You just tell the registrar what names you want when you register the birth, it's not complicated.

posieparker · 18/11/2009 17:55

All my dcs have my surname as another middle name....

mathanxiety · 18/11/2009 17:17

LOL, Posieparker, I think one of the reasons my ex MIL hates me so much is that I still have the same surname she does . And the name is one she worked long and hard to get her hands on, while I could blithely dump it any time I choose

cyteen · 18/11/2009 16:55

We were going to double barrel our surnames for DS but when the time came we just couldn't do it to the poor boy (both are 3 syllables, lots of Ns and Ls). So he has DP's as a middle and mine as the surname.

DP and I are getting married next year but I'm not changing my name, it's way too cool!

posieparker · 18/11/2009 16:46

I have a double barreled first name and surname, I loathe my MIL and so didn't want to be Mrs DH, but now I apologise for my name all of the time.

birdofthenorth · 18/11/2009 16:37

My lovely stepson has his dad's surname (my surname now too) and his mum's as a middle name. In think this is kinder in his case as double-barelling would have made a long surname that would have sounded odd together (ItalianName-VeryEnglishName). I think it does depend on how long each of your surnames are and whether they flow together.DSS has a normal middle name too before his mum's name as his second middle name.

On big advantage of double-barrelling however is that if you just give DC or DP's surname nursery and school staff etc sometimes fail to make the connection betweem you and your child. My DH's ex sometimes meets with confusion when she rings the school etc because her own name does not automatically give away which one her son is.

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GinaFB · 18/11/2009 14:47

mathanxiety thats exactly why!

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mathanxiety · 18/11/2009 14:39

Having the double barreled name, even if it's long, is a help if you're ever traveling with your child, and also in school bureaucracy situations. It will come in handy if you're not taking your DP's name for whatever reason. The db name is a link to both of you for your child, which is nice.

DownyEmerald · 18/11/2009 14:35

We used my surname as the middle name.

I really wanted my name in there but didn't want to do the double-barrelled thing.

Notice that both sets of gps have taken to writing it on envelopes as a double-barelled name tho!

Also not married - though plan to.

Fruitbatlings · 18/11/2009 14:31

I'm just looking at it from my DC's point of view, they will hate having to write their long surname and have only just realised now I have it!

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GinaFB · 18/11/2009 14:26

Thanks Fruitbatlings!

We are not planning to get married much to my mothers horror! (also I can't stand his surname!) I wanted my DC to have both our names not just his as it just seemed to make sense!

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Fruitbatlings · 18/11/2009 14:14

yes, just put it on the birth certificate.
It's soooo annoying though.
Having just got married, I now have the same double barrelled surname as my DC's. Every time I write my name, I'm cursing under my breath. Such a long winded name!
My Mother would be so disappointed if I didn't keep my maiden name and I wanted DH's name so it had to be double barrelled

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