I think this name is far too old-fashioned, should I tell my friend?

What was this dogs name. We will give you our opinions.

And BTW, I think Eileen is a spiffing name!

PMSL!!
I only hyphenate when I'm in the country. It's just plain old SpankyBum when I'm in town.
Close friends call me Spanks...

My best friend told me that the name I loved was a dog's name. I felt I couldn't use it after she said she hated it, but I still love it and feel a bit

Hate Hannah and Lauren. Don't like Eileen either but it her baby, up to her.

spankybum please accept my humblest apologies.
'Twas never intended to offend. HOWEVER I belive you have read my post in the wrong light. I was simply implying that spanky-bum (please note hyphen)seemed a little posh, unless OPs friend lives somewhere noteworthy.

Thank you tearinghairout. Not everyone appreciates a good name...

She'll think less of you. Brain not in gear...

To be fair when my brother told me his newborn son's name I laughed in his face. Took a while to mend that one. If they had told me in advance I may have tried to persuade him otherwise (not SIL though. hormones. eek). It suits DN and is just his name. Best leave well alone.

you'll get used to it....
but it is old fashioned - I know two Eileen's and its not one I would expect to hear for a baby. But then, its not that long since I would have thought that about Henry, Lily and so on.
Isn't it quite popular in America?

DHs Nan didn't like DS2's name and made it very clear. I've never really forgiven her....and she has been dead 3 years!

So thats my answer....sssh!

Yes, if she loves the name & you say you'll hate it, she'll think less of her. You'll find that when you get to know the child any other associations will disappear anyway - you'll get used to it.

Spankybum is a lovely name !

I think it is a sweet name. I think you and your friends are totally out of order for even considering trying to suggest she changes her mind.

IT IS HER BABY AND HER DECISION.

Hey! There's nothing wrong with Spanky Bum drinkyourmilk

I don't think it is a dreadful name, I have a cousin Eileen (who constantly hears the prefix "come on.." before people say her name but she still wouldn't change it.) I also have a cousin Aileen.

What difference is it if your friend likes that name - live with it. I don't like Lauren or Hannah as a name but that is my personal taste and I wouldn't dream of dictating to any friend what she should name her baby. You might find yourself uninvited to any christening or naming ceremony if you make a diddy of yourself over this.

Let's say you do tell her - what do you think will happen?

Frankly I think it'll just make her feel bad (and maybe like you a little bit less).

You can't expect her to change her mind based on your opinion, that's a bit arrogant.

Well, I don't know. It would have seemed absolutely unusable to me 5 years ago... but now, although I wouldn't use it, I don't think it's the worst name I've heard.

It doesn't surprise me to hear it. It could be Isla for short. or Leena. It's not so bad at all actually.

Actually, DD was named after MY nan not her grandmother so it's even more old fashioned.

Agree with MrsMerryHenry - this is why I don't mention any baby names we're considering. It's harder for people to be rude about a child's given name.

Sing "come on Eileen" at her a bit, maybe that will put her off?
Seriously though and whilst I do agree that Eileen is a terrible choice, it is her choice to make, not yours.

Say you love the name, when the baby is born and you get to know her you will love the name. Honestly, my bf gave her daughter a name that I didn't get, but now it is one of my favourite names.

Ah I think you know what you should (not) do. While you're entitled to think what you like about the name, it's up to her. I'd only give her your opinion if she asked direct 'so do you think Eileen's a bit old fashioned?'. Then you could be tactful but honest.

But then, my daughter was named after her nan, so her name is possibly pretty old fashioned too...

of course you don;t tell your friend, you loon

Has she asked your opinion?
If she has, then tell her your views, if she hasn't, butt out.

Maybe she doesn't have friends of her grandmother that are called Eileen.
There's no reason you shouldn't say you think it's old fashioned, but maybe she likes old fashioned names - when my two were born, Lily, Ruby & Alfred were still seen as 'old-fashioned' - someone always has to be the first to revive a name.

Like you said - it's your opinion.
Unless she calls her baby 'spanky-bum' or similar then i think you should keep shtum!
Everyone knows a child whos name they were agast with at first - then the name grows on them, and they find themselves saying the name suits.