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What do you do when you love a name but dh hates it?

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mosschops30 · 11/09/2009 14:27

Its a name Id always loved if we ahd another boy and initially dh liked it.
He's now changed his mind and says 'no way'.

But I love it, I like the meaning, I like that it goes with the middle name weve chosen (dh's middle name), i like that it goes with our other childrens names and that
its biblical like ds's name.

I have jokingly told dh that after giving birth for the 3rd time I will call baby what I want, and that I'll be registering anyway, but I know it should be a joint decision.

The other names I liked, one just doesnt seem right for this baby and havent mentioned the other to dh yet in case he loves it and it finally overules my 1st choice

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lumnag · 11/09/2009 20:57

My parents had completely different names for me until I was about 5 yrs old.
Old photos carry the name my father chose. Weird
Happen to dislike both of my names.

seeker · 11/09/2009 20:30

What particularly rankles is that my father's choice for me is a seriously GHASTLY name, and my mother had chosen one of my favourites!

Wonderstuff · 11/09/2009 20:21

seeker
My great gran told my great great gran to register my gran (you keeping up?) youngest of 5 in 1932, great gran didn't have a name, left it up to great great gran, gran hated name and never forgave her mother.

seeker · 11/09/2009 20:06

My father agreed our names with our mother, then went and registered us as something completely different while she was in hospital. 3 times!

I am AMAZED that they had another child after the first!

dogonpoints · 11/09/2009 20:00

You find another name

simplesusan · 11/09/2009 19:57

I don't think you can use a name that your dh hates.
You will have to find a name that you both like rather than a name that only one of you loves.

HarrietTheSpy · 11/09/2009 19:53

Zelma Ines was another possibility. Sought advice on here too. DH's grandmother and great grandmother's names. But DH LOATHED it.

This was before I became passionate about Clementine. I do understand really loving a name, it's hard, but if DH had forced Phoebe on me...would have been super sad and cross.

HarrietTheSpy · 11/09/2009 19:49

I wanted Clementine. He wanted Phoebe. We have a Verity.

FiveGoMadInDorset · 11/09/2009 18:52

Find something that both of you love.

WhingeBobShitPants · 11/09/2009 18:50

discard it and keep trawling until you find one you both fall in love with

it's a pain, but I couldn't live with knowing he didn't like the name as much as I did - it had to be perfect [OCD]

Wonderstuff · 11/09/2009 18:49

We could only find one girls name we both like, don't know what will happen if we have another!
I sulked and stropped, but to no avail. I wasn't sure about the first/middle name comb, he (unwittingly I'm sure) had me agree just post birth when I was a bit spacey on the old pethidine and general post birth, everything is fab kinda thing. Then told everyone. Shes nearly 2 still not convinced they go..

shootfromthehip · 11/09/2009 18:48

Another one that thinks that you both have to love a name or it's the wrong one. Why don't you have a shortlist of 4 name (2 each) and then when the LO arrives, have a look at him and then decide. DH and I were both certain on one name each and both took one look at DS and called him a name we'd rejected. Still a bit sad that he isn't a Tobias but more pleased that we called him a name tha suited him and that we both liked.

Everyone else hated it right enough

MamaLazarou · 11/09/2009 18:43

You both have to love the name, unfortunately.

DH loves Ivy for a girl and Dashiell for a boy - YUCK

I like Oak and Ladybird, but he doesn't.

So we are not having Ivy, Dashiell, Oak or Ladybird!

janeite · 11/09/2009 16:34

I agree - you have to find a compromise. Neither of my children have names that dp or I loved because we compromised with names we both liked, even if not passionately.

bronze · 11/09/2009 16:22

We had the same problem but for me it was Elijah. We settled on Isaac. I still feel sad about it but now used to it hes 5 months

Scorps · 11/09/2009 16:19

My ExDP didn't like the name i wanted for our son. So i write his name on post it notes, and stuck them in his shoes, car, lunch box, bed, clothes drawer, bath things... it took about 2 days

DH & I are disagreeing on dd2 name - well I'm having what i want, cos he owes me big time.

AtheneNoctua · 11/09/2009 16:17

Obviously, you have to find a name you both like. Even if it one that neither of you loves.

scattercushion · 11/09/2009 16:10

nearly die giving birth and he'll come round, like my DH did
Bit drastic though...

PuppyMonkey · 11/09/2009 15:40

Imagine if he was insisting on a name YOU hate....

Firawla · 11/09/2009 15:37

unfortunately if dh hates it you just have to not use it, should be a name you both atleast can tolerate

MovingOutOfBlighty · 11/09/2009 15:00

For DD, I loved Margot. DH hated it.

For DS, He loved Matthew, I thought it was so dull it made me want to weep.

So we founds something else we were both happy with.

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mosschops30 · 11/09/2009 14:59

lol @ btp

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blametheparents · 11/09/2009 14:57

Mmm, now Noah is a lovely name.
Perhaps that emotional blackmail after giving birth might be in order after all!

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mosschops30 · 11/09/2009 14:45

dh likes lots of chavvy names

I like Noah James, but he likes James, which I find a bit bland.
My second choice would be Owen
I did like Isaac but gone of that now, doesnt suit baby if that makes sense

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