Help! I think I might want to change DS's name...

I love Zachary, and Zack. Very strong, masculine names in a tree surgeon, artic explorer kind of a way.

Don't let anyone put you off the name you have chosen, least of all your parents/PILs. They had their chance at naming babies when they had you and your DH. Now it is your turn.

I took a while to get used to DD's name, I kept calling her the German version of the name, as we were living in Germany at the time. The Scottish version of the name that we had chosen was so difficult to get used to. My MIL said that she could not get used to the Scottish version and would just call DD by her German name. BIL was great and said to her that since had given up her fab Scottish maiden name, the least she could do was learn to pronounce her DGD Scottish name correctly.

I also found it more difficult to bond with my second DC. I think that with my PFB DD I just had more time to concentrate on her. I had time to sit and look at her and just think, "WOW". With a second child, this time is not there, you are too busy trying to keep everything running smoothly.

Don't panic, don't worry. It will be ok.

Oh, I love it! Zach is one of my favourite names.

Hi ilikeyoursleeves, there is another thread at the moment here, with people in the same position - maybe it will make you feel a bit better to realise that you're not the only one in this situation?

I'm a bit reluctant to publish DS's name here in case it gives my identity away (on the off chance anyone I know stumbles across this thread)

I am beginning to feel a bit better about it though. I still think about changing it, or using his middle name (DH would prefer to not use middle name though ) - but it doesn't seem quite as important as it did. For now anyway...

Ilikeyoursleeves - I don't think Zach is chavvy at ALL!

I think i worried about what other people thought of mine but now i hardly think about it at all (Although i am still obsessed with name forums and still sometimes think, ooh you could have been an Oscar!)
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Oh Daisy I feel for you - its such a hard decision - come and let us know when you decide!

I tried to have a Luca day when I called him Luca but it just felt weird - maybe you could try that?

I'm glad you have decided to stick with it... it's a lovely name and not chavvy at all

I'm still unsure. I need to come to a decision pretty soon. I wish we had gone for a different name to start with, but I can't change that now. My husband really likes the name we have now (that's why we went with it), but has been great and is willing to change it. So its up to me really, and at the moment I'm changing my mind on a fairly regular basis. Even I think I'm bonkers (always been pretty level headed before - maybe its all just my hormones)

lol at the high school musical printout I am glad you are keeping it, as like you say, you like it which is what counts. I was the same with DC1 and DC5, their names seemed to be the sort that were loved or hated (usually no comment!!) MIL especially refused to call DD it and called her 'baby' for at least 6 months!! People all get used to the name after the first few months but maybe people can pick up on our insecurities and that is why they go on at us thinking we will change it? (Maybe with someone very confident they wouldn't?) Just a thought.

Hi ilikeyoursleeves - are you feeling any better about this? Have you and you DH come to a decision?

Oh my first son's middle name is Alexander. Lovely name choices!!

My second son is called Zack, and I wish I'd called him Zach - which I think is slightly less harsh looking when written down. I wish I'd registered him as Zachary infact.

Zach is a gorgeous name, he will grow into it, as my little boy has - he's two now, and really is a ZACK!

Enjoy your baby! And don't let other people make you question your choice of name.

your parents and MIL need to get over themselves and think about their grandson. we dealt with this too and were basically talked out of the name we had chosen because we lacked conviction - it was outrageous. let them know his name is Zach and their opinions are no longer welcome on the matter. I finally had to tell my extended family that "voting was closed" and this was three weeks after he was born.

our 8 month old is Zack, we called him something else for the first few hours, then changed it to Zack.
I love his name and he really suits him, I can't imagine him being known by the other name now.

It took me til nearly a year to get used to both dc's names. It helps to have a family name you like as a middle name so you know you could call them that if you really wanted to. But I'd just stick it out - you've only just met your son, of course you are getting to know him (congrats by the way)

My favourite little boy (who isn't DS ) is Zach - no way is it a chavvy name!

PS, I was just thinking, as he's not yet a year old, maybe if there was another name you had in mind you could put it on the birth cert as a middle name, and then he could be known as it later IF you decided to change.

HAlf my family is known by their middle name.

I really like it, and I have zero tolerance for chav names.

OK, some names deserve harsher criticism. Zebedee, Montana, Phoenix for eg, and chardonnay and Diesel and other names I'll admit to having been a bit mean about on this board.... but some names that have come in for criticism on this board have also shocked me. Just becaue a name isn't Tarquin or Prudence doesn't mean it's chav.

Zachary is, when all is said and done, a bible name.. My great uncle was a Zachary. It's not new, it's not pretentious, it's not made-up!

Stick with it. It's a great name. I also agree with the posters who say that it can take a while to look at your 8lbs of mottled baby and 'merge' their name with their personality... Harder still before they even have a personality! that will come, honestly it will. I had this wierd surreal feeling, how weird that my daughter is a *Maggie, she's only a Maggie because I said that. It seemed to random, to uncertain.

People who insult your children's names (to your face! I'd rather they said it behind my back tbh) are very rude. SOmebody said my choices were "very conservative" and then sniggered. They weren't in the top 50, so they were fairly conservative as in not very 'omg' but still, they don't seem to share their names with anybody in our circle.

I have 2 boys, and with both children it has taken ages to get used to their names, despite choosing them because I loved them.

I think after 9 months of thinking about "the baby" or "bean" or whatever name you used for the baby, it is really hard to look at the scrumptious little bundle and call it by an ordinary name, no matter how lovely the name.

It took me ages to call DS anything but "the baby" and I am finding the same with DS2. In fact, I keep calling DS2 by DS1's name.

I am sure in time Zach will grow into his name, particularly when he leaves the baby stage behind and starts to toddle around.

Zach is a lovely name, by the way.

Hi, I'm sorry you are feeling this way. I think it is actually quite common to have baby name remorse. There is another tread about this at the moment, and I am also feeling the same way with my DS and am very upset about it.

Please don't let other people ruin the name for you. I doubt there is a name out there that everyone likes, and plenty of people love the name Zach. If both you are your DH love it, then it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. My sceanario is slighly different as my DH has always loved the name we chose, but I have always been unsure.

At only 4 weeks it is easy to change a name, but I think you need to be really sure. Does he have a middle name you could consider? Perhaps you could call him by both for a while (as if they are hyponated), and see which one you feel happiest with

I don't think Zach is a chavvy name at all by the way

Don't listen to those very rude people - you chose the name because you liked it, if they don't then stuff them, it's none of their business!

it's soooo not chavvy.