Etiquette re choosing same name as a friend's baby...

I think you should have the name you want to have. It might be a bit 'socially awkward' but in the grand scheme of things what would that matter.

You and your ds will make lots of new friends along the way, first day of school, joining cubs, high school, going to work. He should have the name that you want him to have. Being a baby is only the very, very beginning of his life. He might go to school and become best friends with a boy with the same name as the new name you pick.

I have moved to the other side of the world, joined a forum for British people, met up with a woman who lives really close to us in Melbourne, in the next suburb. Her 2 year old has the same name as my 2 year old. We just look like two English loons in the park.

yes he has a brother hallux Vagus.honestly there have been too many to count threads like that

i was going to call my bubs brachial plexus,but my caaaaw of a mate copied me. i want to bash her

lol scottishmummy, I see what you mean. And Gluteus Maximus is such a lovely name

tidey,im not specifically talking about OP.im musing opinion that some think you have dibs on a name.and it shouldnt be copied

tis a MN perennial, always get folk going
i was going to call my baby gluteus maximus and my sil copied me. the cow

The OP doesn't sound like that at all. She has accepted that her friend is definitely having a boy and calling it Finlay, all she's asking is if it seems weird for her to use then name too.

If it was her friend posting in a few weeks: 'My friend says she wants to use my son's name and I don't want her to', THAT would be unreasonable and spoilt.

if some chose same names as me,no biggie.
dont get this precious my name,anyone use it i will hurl.it smacks of little princess unreasonable

so no one pick the same name?what would you do when you rock up at school and meet another finlay etc?throw a hissy fit and demand they leave?

I dont think you need to find a different name, you might not always be friends with them and if you do have a Son they might not grow up with your friends son.

If you are 100% you want the name I would leave it until you are nearly due and then talk to your friend about how you already had the names thought out for your baby.

Personally I wouldnt mind in the slightest if a friend of mine used one of my childrens name for their kids

there is no etiquette,no one has dibs on a name.if you like it use it

finlay is a name featured on popular lists,not some unique to her name.

I would definately try to find something else.
Personally, i would find something totally different, but maybe Finnian is a nice alternative?

Agree. If they are people you only see once in ablue moon, you could probably still use it, but if they are close friends, you really shouldn't. If you're only 16 weeks you don't know what sex yours is yet anyway. I would try having another think and a look through the name books.

If they are close friends then it will seem strange. I would try to think of a different name.