Could you use the name of a serious ex-boyfriend??

Ds is named after my FIL, but it is also the name of my first love, and although it was wierd at first, it soon became DS's iykwim.

Nooooo... it doesn't help that we have an awful nickname for my ex, who still lives round here, so if I used his real name I would still always think of the nickname.

I found out my DH's ex named her first born son his name - I raised an eyebrow, but DH didn't think it was weird at all!

Personally I think James is a classic enough name that it should be ok provided your DH doesn't have any worries about it. If it doesn't sit right with you though, then don't.

Um, I don't think it is too weird. I seem to be the only one though! James is a really popular name, if it was Horace or something it might be different (i.e. your ex was the only one you'd met).

Yes, it would definately be weird - you just cant!
But I do sympathise, I would have loved to use my ex's name for my DS (its a fab name too), and it would have really suited him - but there was just going there!

My husband kept suggesting the name of one of my ex-boyfriends for our bump (unknowingly). I do like the name but couldn't tell DH why I didn't want to use it and as I am still in touch with the ex it would have been embarassing to announce the birth and name etc.

I used the name of an ex-boyfriend for my DS. It was the only name DH and I both liked! DH doesn't mind (ex-boyfriend came out of the closet a long time ago ) I am still in touch with him over Facebook and have fond memories of him. but I don't think about him when I call DS by his name IYSWIM.

If you really like the name, your DH doesn't mind and you aren't secretly pining for the ex in question then use the name!

I love the name Peter - it's my BIL's name. Annoyingly, it's also my ex's name and so I feel that I can't use it.

My ds shares the name of an old boyfriend of mine. Dh loves the name (it is also a family name for him) and I liked it (and not at all an unusual name, anyway). I can't see the problem, really.

I think James is fine actually common enough that you might be able to get away with it.

Just heard of a friend who called her daughter after her very serious ex's BROTHER's name - it's both unusual for a boy and a girl. So very weird.

I did. But I'd split with the BF as a teenager - DC in question was born a good 15 years later. And BF was always a bit of a tosser - but he did have a great name.

Good God no I couldn't do it, if my DH even dared suggest naming our baby after his ex he would lose his testicles. Luckily I don't like the name of my ex so it isn't a problem and I don't like the name of his ex, not just cos it's his ex's name though, I hated it before I knew him.

I love the name of someone I had a MAJOR crush on as a teenager, moreover, I love the nn he had from it, but I'd worry so much about bumping into him and introducing my DS with that name. Not that I've seen him for 12 years and I still fancied him then!! (also I don't have a DS) I saw his wedding pic in my parents paper a couple of years ago and, although happily married to my gorgeous DH, I still swooned!!

I was on a course a year ago with a girl who's sisters and her were all named after old girlfriends of her fathers!

I think it depends if it's a popular name or not, a bit. You should tell us what the name is so we can comment properly! Go on- what name are we discussing here?

My youngest son's middle name is the same as my exes (my eldest sons dad) first name!

(I am married to youngests' dad)

BUT it's also my hubbys (deceased) dads name ,which is why we used it as a middle name

otherwise definitely not!

Ooh don't know...It would be a little weird (for you your dh and indeed the ex shoud he ever come across your ds in the future)...so best not i guess

Nooooo! How would you feel if your DH suggested calling your baby after his ex?

Better not I think.

I wouldn't do it. I do like my ex's name but

a) it would be weird for DH

b) wouldn't want ex to hear about it and think it had anything to do with him

No way! I think someone at college whom i was with for a couple of months would be fine, but i had one major relationship before i met dh that lasted for years and i could never use his name - which is a shame because it is Felix and i quite like it!

I wouldn't. My ex has nice name and there is NO WAY I could suggest this to DH.

Silly really as it is just a name, but connotations and associations are actually important to me.

You could and ultimately if you and your OH are fine with it then its no one elses business is it?

Personally I think its a rather odd/insensitive thing to do and bound to make people a bit.

There a websites out there with thousands of names on them, im sure you could find one you liked.

i called a cat after an ex-boyfriend. lol ,but i wouldnt call a baby after an ex- would seem like i was pining after him or something!