So today my Mum told me if I call my DD the name I like it will not be allowed at her house .

I quite like Violet Grace Elsie, not that its any of my business but all three are lovely names

violet is a lovely name. my mum said "can't you call him something like james?" when she heard our suggestion for ds name.

then later she said that she'd thought about it and vnormalgirlname gdd and unusualboyname gds went very well together. gdds (there is a new one with fairly exciting name now) are my brother's children.

We had said all through pg that dd2 would be Charlotte or Jessica (middle name Alice after dh Nan as like you noone had used it) anyway night before dd2 arrived (elective csection) dh was looking through baby name book and said Harriet, I liked it but loved Hattie. When dd2 arrived we both looked at her and said Hattie. I phoned my Mum (who was looking after dd1 so couldnt be there) and said she was in SCBU (few breathing problems) and we had called her Hattie she just did a huge inwards suck of air and said 'oh well I dont like that' anyway couldnt stay on phone.

Mum and Dad came to visit at teatime (when my brotehr went to their house to look after dd1) and Mum kept going on how she looked like a Charlotte and Hattie wasnt even a proper name etc etc and then dh (who is very chilled out and never ever answers my Mum back) just said 'her name is Hattie get over it' first few weeks she called her baby, sweetie etc then started using her name, she stilldoesnt like it but admits that it suits her (shes 2 now!!)

I think your mum has completely overeacted and am not surprised the rest of your family thought her behaviour odd.

I like Violet and know uber cute twins (2 years old) called Violet and Rose. If you like it then use it.

I also doubt that your mum will follow through her threats and if she does well shes the one that will miss out.

BTW I found that the best strategy is not to divulge names until your DC is here...I'm pretty sure my MIL would have been negative about both my DDs names had I told her them before they were born. Once here and owning their names its much harder to be negative IYSWIM.

I love Violet - it was my dear grannys name and I'm hoping to use it one day myself.

That is a really weird reaction btw.

Nothing wrong with the name. Your Mum's being a loon.

But this is why you should never tell people the name you've chosen before the baby is born (except on MN of course ).

I think you'd be nuts to use the initials VEG. Mind you, my surname is Tibbles so maybe I am just sensitive ;)

Call the baby the name you want to call her.

Your mum will come round.

What about flipping the middle names, Violet Grace Elsie?

And, it is a lovely name and she is being insania and must being ignored.

I would just laugh and if she does it in front of family again ask her if she is having another of her hot flushes. Which would be a teensy bit mean but you know, sounds like she needs to wind her neck in a bit.

Bollocks to her! Your baby, your choice.

Tell her fine, you won't bring the baby to see her if that's her attitude. And give her the outfit back!

• You need to set the boundaries RIGHT NOW!!!

I know a tiny Violet - Vi for short. Why is she so against it?

It is a lovely name.

Ignore your mum, i bet she feels stupid now.

If the VEG thing bothers you at all, you could always have Violet Grace Elsie instead.

Your mum sounds like a total loon. Is she often like this? Maybe there is bad history that you don't know about between her and your grandma? It's the only explanation I can think of for her reaction.

She's mad - violet is a really pretty name.