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Original poster

Baby girls name picked 3 years ago but brother-in-law just left his family for woman with same name?!

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Zacksmummy · 08/01/2009 23:08

What would you do? - stick with the name you both liked/imagined using if you had a girl or would you be put off by the pain caused within the extended family by "the other woman" of the same name?! Brother in laws wife and children don't yet know about the other woman for definite yet or her name, she lives abroad and we have never met her.
Hubbies attitude is that if we like the name then we should stick with it regardless (I'm a bit more sensitive so I'm worried!)
(Baby due in 8 weeks but don't know if boy or girl....)

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Littlefish · 09/01/2009 06:55

Eloise is beautiful.

twentypence · 09/01/2009 06:31

Can you go with Lucinda and then shorten when either everyone accepts her into the family or they split up and everyone forgets about her?

lavenderbagg · 09/01/2009 04:56

I agree with you would be insensitive to use it.

snice · 08/01/2009 23:49

I think Louisa is prettier than Louise

ninedragons · 08/01/2009 23:47

Back to the drawing board, I'm afraid.

I like Northernlurker's suggestions of Lucinda or Louise - they both have the same pretty, classic vibe as Lucy.

Northernlurker · 08/01/2009 23:43

Or you could spell it Lucie which I think is very pretty too - she would spend a lot of time correcting other people though!

Northernlurker · 08/01/2009 23:24

Lucy is a lovely name - if she really looks like Lucy then maybe you should go with it - or you could try Lucinda or Lucia or Louise. Susie is rather similar sounding and sounds nice with Zach.

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Zacksmummy · 08/01/2009 23:18

The name is Lucy. Also thought of Lisa as it's similar as Northenlurker has suggested. (I confess I posted another thread a couple of days ago for names to go with "Zack" but as I didn't get a huge response I thought I should explain why I'm having a hard time choosing and see what others think!)

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CatchaStar · 08/01/2009 23:13

I personally would go with a different name as the association would always be there.

It sucks, but is there a close second that you like as much?

Northernlurker · 08/01/2009 23:10

Tricky - but I would pick a name thats similar but different - you could brave it out - but you'll always associate the name with this sad thing thats happened. Do you want to say then name and then we can suggest alternatives?