SIL nicked my baby name!

I would feel miffed too even though I would know that I really had no right to. You haven't said you know the sex so maybe you will have a boy and then it wouldn't have been an issue anyway? (Unless something neutral like Ashley, I guess)

OH God, I have just been gripped by a horrible panic that one of my pregnant friends will 'steal' my favorite babies name! I've got 7 months still to go and there are about 5 babies due before mine.
Aaarggghh. Panic.

Sorry, that's not helping is it.

Oh poor you. I'll be honest and say if my SIL had done that unknowingly I'd be really upset even though she couldn't possibly have known so I can empathise. (Pregnancy can make little things feel so much more out of proportion).
But at least she didn't 'steal' your name on purpose and you can definitely spend the next 3-4 months coming up with something nicer, more original and more 'you'. Maybe you're having a boy anyway? And if not, I'll bet you any money that by the time your baby arrives you'll be delighted with your new choice and your old favorite won't seem quite so nice as it once did. And anyway it will have 'become' your neice's name by then.
But I must admit, I would love to know what the name was???
Please start a new thread and we can help you find something even nicer?

sister has dd with a name i love,i mentioned it on holiday and she said she wouldnt mind at all if i called another dd of mine it.of course i wouldnt but i thought she was being very generous.
sure you will think of another lovely one, good luck.

I would be gutted too. I remember telling DP cousin a name I liked whilst we were at a wedding. Anyway, she got pregnant and used the name. I was gutted and even though we NEVER see each other, its a name I would never use now. You can't help how you feel!

This happened to me with my SIL.

I had always said I wanted Ben for a boy. My SIL had boy before me and named him Ben.

We opted for Daniel (my husbands choice) which I now love. He looks like a Daniel and not a Ben iykwim so correct decision all round!

Plantsitter, start a new thread with a new name, and say "looking for something in the same style as x, but it doesn't go with our sur name".

I remember how I felt when my cousin called his dd Lydia just before I had my baby. That was my #2 name, and it would have been her middle name. I just could not believe it. I knew I couldn't use it. They would never have believed that I'd already selected the name on my own.

But in reality, even if names aren't in say, the top 30, I think similar people (people you mix with and are related to) are drawn to the same twenty or thirty names over and over again.

All my friends/sisters seemed to at least consider many of the same names I had considered! although none of these names are exactly popular eg, Eliza, Juliet, Annabel, Georgina, Beatrice, Eve, Lucinda, Clara, Flora, Eloise, Lydia, Rosie...... These same few names were cropping up on the lists of all of my 'circle'. Name statistics are issued in a MACRO perspective, but in our own micro world it can be a different story entirely.

Does this make sense, and make you feel better?

no one has copyright on a particular name.anyway the real deal is a new baby

not tutting about name chosen.smile say nowt

congratulations on your pregnancy

It is likely your hormones getting you worked up - do you and your SIL get on ok normally? Cos it will be much easier to overcome your feelings of disappointment if you do.

My mum always wanted to call her son David. I was born first (I am not called David she wasn't that mad!) and her 2nd preg was a boy who died a few hours after c-section at 6mo (bad deformity, incompatible with life). By the time she had my bro and sis (twins), my dad's bro had called his son David and so had my Dad's cousin on the Isle of Man. So she felt she couldn't use David again - having 3 male cousins all about the same age with the same name would have been too much!

I'm sure you'll come up with a new lovely favourite name and then it'll probably turn out to be a boy anyway and it won't matter !

it would be different if she knew, but she didnt. Find another one, you have a few months yet

I would be a little pissed, but you got a few weeks to go, probably would have changed your mind anyway. And yes you will be lovely to her when you see her, it will pass, congrats on your pregnancy and your new neice.

That's so true about how rapidly the moods change. When pg, I was forever happily in the kitchen ramming cake in my gob as DH would creep in, visibly terrified. "What's up with you?" I'd mumble, spraying crumbs.

"Don't you remember?" he'd whimper. "Five minutes ago you said you hated me and were filing for divorce with immediate effect."

I'd hardly remember!

I'd be gutted too!

I hated the pg hormones. I'm vv hormonal anyway, and both pgs have turned me into a demon.

Agree with Swampster - as soon as you hold your lovely LO, you'll think of a name that's perfect, and will completely go off the one you like now.

Less 'now' that is to say. If two members of the one family independently select the same name, by chance, then the name must be a bit predictable??????

Please tell us the name! We'll suggest one in a similar style, but just a bit further hidden around the fashion curve.

You don't own names just because you like them.
They are there for anyone to use.

Well, your SIL obviously has good taste in names then!

You're only 20 wks pregnant, you'll get over it. Chances are you would have changed your mind and found another name by the time of the birth anywy.

It probably means the name was a bit more popular than you thought, especially in your circles!

We will help you find a new and better name!

if she used it knowing it was top of your list, then that's rude and lacking in any kind of tact.

If she didn't know then I think you are being Unreasonable.

Get a grip for Christ's sake.

Completely undertandable reaction. I had my heart set on Ellen, after my grandma, SIL got there first, as it turned out I never got to have a little girl to worry about. Actually my gran hated Ellen and was always known as Joan, but that's not so fashionable.

Nothing to stop you using it for a middle name. My dad's middle name is his younger brother's first name .

Suggest you tell your SIL and say she owes you a bottle of wine (after due date of course).