Parents in law mispronounce daughter’s name

Soon she will be old enough to pointedly tell them herself (if she's not already), so make sure she does, every time.

I'd just stop rising to it and reinforce Addie.

It's a nice name but you say 25% of the time, it's mispronounced, so it isn't just them.

Adeline is such a beautiful name.
I think your dh needs to firmly say to them Adeline is her name and they either call her that or Addie and to stop messing about because he is getting sick of it.

One of my DDs has a name that can be pronounced different ways. My MIL would repeatedly use the wrong one. We used to laugh it off, and DD still talks with fondness of how her granny couldn’t pronounce her name correctly. I can’t say it really bothered me because I chose a name that would possibly be controversial.
‘My other DD has a name that can be shortened two completely different ways - think Margaret shortened to Maggie or Peggie. My dad called her by the shortened version that was different to ours. He said it suited her better. As she got older, if she gave him a card or gift she would always sign it with his version of her name. She still has birthday cards off him where he used that name. He died 10 years ago but she knows he loved her to bits as she did him.

They will get over it soon enough. Perhaps pull back from them for a while

Based on my own mother struggling with DS’s name for quite a while after he was born (it would have been ongoing when he was the OP’s daughter’s age certainly), no, not necessarily!

To her it was an embarrassing, unusual ‘old man’ name from her childhood, and as it was habitually mispronounced where she was from (‘th’ dropped, one syllable pronounced with a different vowel sound, and the emphasis on a different syllable), and she just couldn’t manage it for years. Think pronouncing Adeline, not the way the OP wants it, but ‘Hay-de-LEEN’ or something.

I think it was a combination of genuine confusion, knowing she was getting it wrong and panicking every time she said it, and, possibly entirely unconsciously, a wish we’d called DS John or a ‘nice ordinary name’.

And a great song to teach your daughter!

Lovely name OP.

My daughter is about to turn 28. I made the stupid mistake when pregnant thinking sharing our short list was wise.
Maybe it was. Naming...pronounced Nay-ome-me was our top choice but PILs weren't keen on ot, voiced thier disapproval and kept saying Ni-om-ee instead.
It drove me insane so we opted for something different. Can't imagine her being Naomi now!!
No help, but an appreciation of understanding how bloody annoying it is for you and frankly rude, now your daughter is here living with her name.

This is brilliant 👏

Stop being polite!! They’re doing this on purpose as a way of controlling and upsetting you. They’ve had nearly 2 years to get it right.

Tell your husband to grow and spine and tell his parents that he knows they’re doing this on purpose to be nasty and they’re no longer welcome into your home.

I would also stop visiting them with Adeline too. I wouldn’t even give them the option of using a nickname. His parents clearly don’t like you very much so I’d stop making an effort to see them.

edit - your pronunciation is how I would pronounce the name.

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Sing to the tune of ‘happy and you know it’, on repeat, every time they get it wrong:

My name in Adeline it rhymes with fine, My name is Adeline it rhymes with fine, ‘Add-eh-lin’ can get in the bin,
Add-eh-leen’, you’re being mean,
My name is Adeline it rhymes with fine!

Yeah I’m not convinced that your way is how you’re meant to pronounce Adeline… I’m with your in-laws pronunciation. I think you and your daughter are going to be fighting this battle everywhere she goes for the rest of her life! I’d change it

I’d ignore it.

My lovely dad pronounced my daughter’s (common) name differently to everyone else: he sort of swallowed the middle syllable. I’ve no idea why he couldn’t get it right. My daughter did comment on it but in a “that’s interesting” rather than “I’m offended” way.

Have they got the same or different accent to you? I love the name Adeline but I'm well aware that in my accent it takes an effort to say it properly and that might sound different to how it would slip out in normal conversation.

Please give this book to you MIL for Xmas!!

I get that it can be confusing to keep names straight with acquaintances you see from time to time. But if the Sophia in question was your own grandchild, you seriously think you wouldn’t remember!?

My mum really struggled saying my nephew's name for far longer than you'd think. But she got there in the end.

I genuinely don't know if she was being a dick about it (she has form) or it was hard to get her head round as it was a little unusual (also has form - she couldn't remember whether my friend was Sara or Sarah and it was always 50:50 whether she'd get the right one).

Eventually your daughter will join in the corrections, and I suspect that will work better than anything.

They are so rude. I love the name. I read a book recently with the main character called Adeline: The Invisible Lives of Addie LaRue if interested.

Don’t be baffled. They’re affronted that their son’s wife doesn’t accommodate how things should be in their life. It’s an irritant to them, and they WILL put it right within the limits of their control. They can’t change your name by deed poll, but they will jolly well call you what they think you OUGHT to be called.

Same goes for your DD. They don’t like the name so they won’t use it. They can’t very well call her something completely different, but they can call her something other than the name they don’t like.

If you were me they’d be playing with fire 🤷🏼‍♀️

It’s my relatives who keep addressing cards to me as Mrs Husband’s FirstName Husband’sSurname!

OP, is it not just possible that there’s no malice, and they just have a mental block about the name (which is lovely) because there are multiple pronunciations and they haven’t got the correct one properly embedded, and are now nervous about it because you correct them a lot and they sense you’re annoyed? I’ve been guilty of similar with a Sophia/Soph-eye-a.

Luckily for you your child will start talking soon. I've no doubt everyone has already decided what to call GPs but now you can really piss them off. If she wants to be Granny you can say to DD 'say goodbye to gwan gwan' or meemaw or some other version they don't like. Or a dumb version of her real name, if she is Sarah call her say say etc. This is of course very petty but also satisfying.

If their names are Tom and Jane, refer to them as Toom and Janey, until they get the message about correcting how a name is said.