Would you compromise on your childs name if it would annoy your mother?

i'd choose a name TO annoy my mother if I could
but nah......don't compromise

Also DS1 was named after his paternal great grandfathers, as was DH's wish. Nobody in DH's family commented on this. I thought the IL's could have at least said, how nice to name him after our fathers. Grrr.

Totally needs to be your choice. If your Mum doesn't like it tough. We kept names to ourselves both times. My Granny has said to my DB that she will never get used to DS2's name. Cooper for those that are interested. This was a Granny who said she could get used to Sam for DS1. Get used to it, its not exactly out there with the wacky names, but she's old.
Most of our families didn't like Cooper but we did. We don't care.

I misread the op and was going to post that I would happily compromise on a name in order to annoy my mother

stick to your guns. if its what you want then tough. my mother hates my ds2s middle name (my fathers name) cos she hated my dad so much in the end, but i dont care. im proud he has got that name.

ChipMonkey, now that I think about it, she might be a little older than 26. Not sure though. Her sur name is unusual and begins with U.

Oooh Iklboo - Piddlebum. That's pretty!

Yes, I probably would and in fact did. One name we seriously considered I ruled out because my mum didn't like it... but then her comments were very perceptive. But the key thing is I am very close to my mother and I respect her opinions and they mean a lot to me, so I wanted her to be involved iyswim! But on the other hand if it were my mil.... would be a very different story!!!

She doesn't get a say - call her Esmerelda Frogmella Piddlebum if you like

Well it depends on how similar the name is exactly and what the family history is: I mean, there could have beensome awful family rifty that lays behind her strong feelings.

However, with names, it is really up to you and yourhusband/partner.

My MIL deliberately mispronounced my child's name for about the first 3-5 years of his life, to make a point, I believe, about her dislike of his name.( and of course, her ever existing lack of respect for me at all).
My DH never would speak to her about it though.

I think if you are naming your child after someone else in the family (or using a family name) then it is likely that other people who knew that person might have an opinion. My dd is named after two grandmothers, dh's dad's mum, and my mum's mum. Neither of them actually liked their names (apparently) and my mother was quite upset when we told her dd's name. I'm not sure whether this was because she didn't get on well with her mum, or really to do with the name. But we had already registered dd, and in any case it is her middle name, so she won't actually be called it. dh's dad didn't say anything that I recall, so I've no idea how he felt about it. I think it would be a little unkind to call your child after someone who close family hated (and why would you want to anyway) but otherwise it is your responsibility to choose the name. I agree with others, I think it is unwise to tell anyone before the baby is born.

You pick the name that you want. Her baby-naming days are over. It is your turn now.

My mother hates ds2's name because it was my late FIL's name and she thinks we are showing unfair favouritism for 'that side' of the family.

If DD3's name isn't like by my Mother or MIL all the better

It's your baby your choice of name, I also believe in not revealing the name until the baby is born. I'm sure if we had told our family about DD2's name prior to her being born there would have been some raised eyebrows and comments.

Unless it's a saints name MIL doesn't believe it's a proper name, my mother is just twisted and nasty.

We have sort of the same situation. My mother did not like my dad's mother. She was basically horrible to her. Her name was Rose. My brother mentioned it as a middle name and my mother was really upset. I tried to tell her that she won't see it as her MIL's name, but instead the name of her granddaughter. In the end they didn't go for it. I actually like the name as well, but don't think I could do that to my mom. Maybe if my mother's emotions were unfounded, but it's true my grandmother wasn't a very nice person.

We have sort of the same situation. My mother did not like my dad's mother. She was basically horrible to her. Her name was Rose. My brother mentioned it as a middle name and my mother was really upset. I tried to tell her that she won't see it as her MIL's name, but instead the name of her granddaughter. In the end they didn't go for it. I actually like the name as well, but don't think I could do that to my mom. Maybe if my mother's emotions were unfounded, but it's true my grandmother wasn't a very nice person.

Mum thinks I should call my daughter to come Ella, MIL suggested Liberty and FIL Miranda. Well, I ain't calling her any of those things, I am not telling them the names I have in mind until she is born and shall politely make it clear that, though they are of course entitled to their opinion, negative remarks are to be kept to themselves or expressed in private, away from mine and DP's ears. I am ashamed to say I actually gave a bloke a physical shove when I said I was considering Isadora (I am not now, and DPs vetoed it anyway) and he spat out his drink and said "Pooh, Isa-shitter, More like!"

my choice everyone else can eff off

and have been in the situation where no one liked the name i chose becuase it was "gay"

fuck 'em all i say

Your mother had her babies and chose their names.

Now its your turn to have babies and choose their names.

That's the thought process I followed anyway.

Don't take any notice. My parents were a bit funny over DS having 2 middle names (thought it was pretentious) and because they weren't keen on one of them. Hasn't been mentioned since. People get very uptight over names when you're pg. but when the baby's there it tends to fade into the background

(esp true for first borns. And DS was the first male grandchild which made it worse)

We never discussed names with either set of parents before we named our boys, but down my dad's family the oldest is a Joseph in each generation for ages back and i would have loved to call one of ours that but my parents are divorced, and to say my mum is still bitter about it nearly 40 years later would be an understatement so we just didn't use the name as it would really have upset her, I still think it's a shame though.

We think DM did not like the names we chose, she said nothing (wisely as I would have chosen names she really hated if she had commented) but I think they have grown on her.

MIL said that she didn't like them and we should call DD after her and the DSs Roger instead.

Yeah, right, Roger.

No

dh chose both dd's names and all his family hated them to the point that his nan still won't call them by their names.

it took 2 years for his mum to call dd1 by her name and not a sortened stupid version.

Number 3 will be called whatever we want and bollocks to anyone who doesn't like it.