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Is this a logical reason to change a baby’s name?

219 replies

MongerNoLonger · 27/06/2026 11:19

My DH is from Spain, so we decided to give our child a name that is common in Spain. The problem is that I’ve noticed that people intentionally try to avoid saying her name. I believe it is because they’re worried that they’re going to mispronounce it or feeling self-conscious that they’re going to sound strange whilst saying it (because it doesn’t sound as natural when said with an English accent). Even friends and family will call her the baby or little one instead of saying her actual name (whereas my nephews have always been referred to as their actual names).

She’s a few months old, and I think that it would be wise to change it now (before she becomes aware of her name). I really don’t want my child to endure a lifetime of people going to great lengths to avoid saying her name. Our first names are such a core part of our identity. What are your thoughts?

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StationJack · 29/06/2026 08:44

Your family should learn her name or attempt to call her by it even if not quite the correct pronunciation.
Nearly right often sounds worse than something else.

British people could just try a bit harder and not be so bloody weird about other languages. 'British' people is unfair -there are plenty of British people who can speak languages with non-English sounds.

there are some sounds that some people can’t say depending on the language they’ve been brought up speaking and no matter how hard you try it’s just not physically possible.
This

you just need to teach people how to pronounce it and they’ll get there eventually.
Not true. Some will, most won't.

rainbowstardrops · 29/06/2026 08:41

Why do some posters ask for your thoughts and then don’t come back to comment on said thoughts? So irritating.

AnonyMumAuDHD · 29/06/2026 08:40

I wouldn’t change it, but say it a lot in their presence, probably by directly saying it to my child: Ximena/Beatriz/etc, darling, shall mummy change your nappy? Is Ximena smiling at mummy or do you have wind?

Lots and lots of repetition will mean baby recognises her name and it will eventually sink in. You love the name and chose it for that reason - don’t let other people’s obstinacy shape your decisions.

JMSA · 29/06/2026 08:36

I’m not French but chose Madeleine for my eldest. My Glaswegian father could say it fine, but had real difficulty with the spelling. I taught him a rhyme to remember it by!
I’m guessing you didn’t go for a straightforward name like Ana or Maria!

Nothavingagoodvalentinesday · 29/06/2026 08:35

As someone who has had their name mispronounced all her life I can tell you that you are setting her up for a life that is at best awkward and at worst psychologically damaging. Our name is our identity. Fgs do not deliberately make life more difficult for your daughter. Change her name or find a shortened version everyone can pronounce.

BoredZelda · 29/06/2026 08:32

catsflorafauna · 29/06/2026 08:25

My niece is 3 and I tried many times to pronounce her Arabic name correctly. But I am corrected every time but I am English and very northern so it is never going to sound right as someone who’s native in that language. So since she was about 3 months old I have called her a different name entirely that I can pronounce.

Which sounds can’t you make? Your vocal cords are the same as any other human, surely you can learn to do it? Why wouldn’t you?

BoredZelda · 29/06/2026 08:29

People are so hung up about pronunciation of non English names and how it must be absolutely correct and nobody should ever get it wrong. It’s seen as an insult that people won’t get it exactly correct and how dare they. I have an English name, it is pronounced so many different ways depending on where in the country I am, and also when travelling abroad. English accents vary greatly in how they pronounce vowel sounds, just the same as how names are pronounced in different countries. I worked with a woman called Evelyn. She used to get so worked up if people called her Eh-vlyn “it’s eeevlyn” which was strange to me because two other people I knew were Eh-vlyn. My surname is a relatively common one in the U.K., but is a non English word. When I go to other countries, particularly the country is it from, it is pronounced entirely differently. In all these cases, I know what they mean when I hear it so I answer it.

Both my names have about 3 different ways of spelling, I get annoyed when they are spelled incorrectly, consistently, particularly when it’s right there in my email address and signature, that’s just rude. But pronunciation is not an issue.

When British people refuse even to try foreign sounding names, there is usually more to it than a simple reluctance to get it wrong, because the people with those names generally couldn’t give a toss.

Glowingup · 29/06/2026 08:28

Tryagain26 · 29/06/2026 08:04

Definitely this.
One of my grandchildren has a Spanish name starting with a J . It hasn't been an issue.
No one should feel they have to ignore half of their heritage just because some people avoid trying to say their name.

A lot of British people move to Spain and some British names are difficult for Spanish people to say. But I doubt they would even think about changing their name to one that is easier for a Spanish speaker to say.

Yeah but you’re talking about a child here who has to grow up in this country and will want nothing more that to fit in. Imagine that every time you say your name people are like “what?” or they avoid saying it altogether.

Sheila and Ian who move to the Costa del Sol as pensioners don’t give a shit about fitting in and can’t even be arsed to learn Spanish so that’s not comparable. You can’t compare a child being saddled with an unpronounceable name with someone moving to another country as an adult.

SlightlyTerrifiedButPolite · 29/06/2026 08:28

Hard to comment on without knowing the name, but there are certainly a lot of Spanish girls names that are easy to pronounce internationally. My friend’s wife is Spanish and called Elena. I also know a Carmen and a Mia

catsflorafauna · 29/06/2026 08:25

My niece is 3 and I tried many times to pronounce her Arabic name correctly. But I am corrected every time but I am English and very northern so it is never going to sound right as someone who’s native in that language. So since she was about 3 months old I have called her a different name entirely that I can pronounce.

LaPerruque · 29/06/2026 08:23

BreatheAndFocus · 29/06/2026 08:11

No, it’s not a logical reason. People can pronounce many English names wrong too! I suspect that many of the people avoiding saying her name misheard you when you told them, so aren’t saying it because they think they might get it wrong. My neighbour had a little girl, I admired her and asked her name, but I didn’t quite catch it. I then asked another neighbour and she said she wasn’t sure either! (It sounded a kind of mix of Nahla/Nayla/Mahla/Mayla/Nyla/Myla).

Just repeat the name to people, spelling it out, and promouncing it slowly in syllables. In my example above, say the child was called Mahla, you’d spell it out, emphasing the ‘M’ at the beginning then saying something like ‘Mah’ like calling your mum “ma” then ‘luh’ at the end.

Dont change her name. It would be silly to do so IMO.

Edited

Yes, or simply that it takes people (often including the parents) ages to start referring to a new baby by its name, after it’s been ‘the baby’ or some in utero nickname throughout pregnancy. DH’s nephew and his wife have a baby of about two months old and I don’t think I’ve heard anyone call her by her name yet.

watchingthishtread · 29/06/2026 08:20

I am someone who has had to endure a lifetime of people struggling to pronounce their name. It's a total PITA. If you've noticed it's an issue already then yes, change it. I don't use my real name when booking restaurants etc because it's just not worth the hassle. When asked for my name I actually have to think about what's the easiest option here.

StationJack · 29/06/2026 08:13

cauliflowercheeseplease · 29/06/2026 03:33

Both mine have Italian names as my DP is from Italy. People always mispronounce DS2 name so we just correct them and teach them how to say it properly, it’s no big deal

Most of the sounds in Italian can be achieved by an English speaker but that's not the case with Spanish.

BreatheAndFocus · 29/06/2026 08:11

No, it’s not a logical reason. People can pronounce many English names wrong too! I suspect that many of the people avoiding saying her name misheard you when you told them, so aren’t saying it because they think they might get it wrong. My neighbour had a little girl, I admired her and asked her name, but I didn’t quite catch it. I then asked another neighbour and she said she wasn’t sure either! (It sounded a kind of mix of Nahla/Nayla/Mahla/Mayla/Nyla/Myla).

Just repeat the name to people, spelling it out, and promouncing it slowly in syllables. In my example above, say the child was called Mahla, you’d spell it out, emphasing the ‘M’ at the beginning then saying something like ‘Mah’ like calling your mum “ma” then ‘luh’ at the end.

Dont change her name. It would be silly to do so IMO.

Barney16 · 29/06/2026 08:11

I wouldn't change it but I'd shorted it if possible or a nickname.. I have a very long first name which has always been shortened. My daughter has a perfectly ordinary first name but we often use her nickname which rhymes with her name, no idea how that came about.

EagerBeaver3 · 29/06/2026 08:09

I would guess Ainhoa (Basque). Very popular name in Spain. My husband is also Spanish and we gave our son an English first name and Spanish middle name to avoid frequent mispronunciation. Maybe you can use her name in the immediate family and use an Anglicised nickname more widely (like Annie, if her name is Ainhoa)?

Error404FucksNotFound · 29/06/2026 08:06

I wouldn't change the name but maybe theres a nickname that you could use that might be easier?

Tryagain26 · 29/06/2026 08:04

BauhausOfEliott · 29/06/2026 00:26

Most people can at least approximate the sound, which is usually enough. Most British people manage to have a stab at saying eg ‘Jose’ by saying it with an H instead of a J. It’s not the perfect pronunciation but most Spanish speakers would expect an English person to say it like that.

I work with a Javier and he doesn’t expect everyone to master the Spanish J sound properly. He would correct them if they pronounced it with an English J, but he’s fine with being called ‘Havier’.

Definitely this.
One of my grandchildren has a Spanish name starting with a J . It hasn't been an issue.
No one should feel they have to ignore half of their heritage just because some people avoid trying to say their name.

A lot of British people move to Spain and some British names are difficult for Spanish people to say. But I doubt they would even think about changing their name to one that is easier for a Spanish speaker to say.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 29/06/2026 08:04

Cant tell without knowing the name

Ethelspagetti · 29/06/2026 07:50

Really depends on the name. If you can give it then you’ll get more honest feedback. I had a French friend name her baby katja. Some people said it correctly but said it wrong. She ended up changing it to a phonetically spelt version.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 29/06/2026 07:38

Don’t change her name but find a shortening /nickname that sounds English and you like that can be used instead.

some names just cannot be said properly by other nationalities and it can make it awkward to use the name

Inmyuggs · 29/06/2026 07:36

Teach them or ask if they need help to pronounce it.
Maybe the little one etc name is because thats what some people call young babies.
I often will google pronouncation for some names.
Im forever being told i miss pronounce our countries cultural names...people are quick to claim its racist which piss me off...nah im not.

Overworkedandknackered · 29/06/2026 07:31

There are many many Spanish names that are also commonly used in English, why didn’t you pick one of those? I suspect you’re just a bit sensitive to it so you’re noticing more but many people do call children ‘little one’ or ‘poppet’ instead of their name, maybe you’re just sensitive to it because you having second thoughts about the name?

Glowingup · 29/06/2026 07:30

notacooldad · 29/06/2026 07:26

Surely in a few years she’ll be able to say her name herself so it won’t be a problem then?
If people are struggling now it will always be a problem. She will have to correct then instead of the op as she gets older.

Exactly. She will start to dread introducing herself or any situation where she needs to say her name. It’s entirely different if you move to a new country as an adult because you already have your identity as an English person (or whatever) and having a name from your own culture is fine. But this girl will undoubtedly identify as English if she grows up here because kids just want to belong (even if they later embrace their mixed heritage as a teen or young adult) and by giving her a foreign and difficult to pronounce name, you’re consigning her to feeling different.

notacooldad · 29/06/2026 07:26

Surely in a few years she’ll be able to say her name herself so it won’t be a problem then?
If people are struggling now it will always be a problem. She will have to correct then instead of the op as she gets older.

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