Help I don't like any boy names

SometimesIcantsleep · 2026-03-11T20:20:34+00:00

Just found out today I'm having another boy, I'm gutted not to be using my girl name as I was convinced this was going to be a girl. I have both a girl and boy already, and really struggled last time, I ended up just letting my partner choose his name because I didn't like any of the thousands of names I looked at. I didn't love the name he chose, but it has grown on me and it suits our little boy and everyone loves it. I don't like anything that comes up on the naming websites or google searches; looking for uncommon/unusual but not weird/made up names

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WittyTaupeLion · 13/06/2026 18:38

Name him when he’s born. Rather than thinking of name before see what he looks like when you hold him!

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SometimesIcantsleep · 17/03/2026 11:30

Dee51121 · 17/03/2026 09:11

That sounds like a sensible idea,@SometimesIcantsleep, I really hope it helps. Some people can be very dismissive of gender disappointment - I can see both sides, but ultimately you can't help the way you feel and talking through your feelings with someone may help process them. Wishing you all the best.

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Thankyou, I appreciate your response. I actually really hate the term gender disappointment, because it makes it feel really shallow and superficial when the reality is for me especially it is so much deeper than that. I wouldn't actually say I've felt disappointed at all, the feeling is much heavier than that. Since I posted this I've felt so many different emotions, it's bought back lots of feelings that I had when I found out my second was a boy. I won't go into it too much, but along the lines of struggling to accept it was even my baby inside me, everything felt wrong. It's actually really hard to put into words. It's a hard thing to admit because you are opening yourself up to a lot of judgement too ❤️ thankfully I couldn't love either of my kids any more if I tried so I know this feeling will pass as soon as they are here, it's just hard navigating it with all the other hormones too ❤️

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SometimesIcantsleep · 13/03/2026 14:04

Just wanted to update and say thank you to those who have given their thoughts; unfortunately I still can't find anything I remotely feel anything towards. I have decided to book myself in with the perinatal mental health team after a discussion with a family member as I/they think much of this is down to severe gender disappointment and never feeling like I am a boy mum and now I'll have 2, it seems to be much deeper rooted than just picking a name. Thankyou again, hopefully some of the suggestions may help others that are stuck on names too ❤️

That sounds like a sensible idea,@SometimesIcantsleep, I really hope it helps. Some people can be very dismissive of gender disappointment - I can see both sides, but ultimately you can't help the way you feel and talking through your feelings with someone may help process them. Wishing you all the best.

AlwaysRightISwear · 17/03/2026 08:22

Jasper
Anselm
Horatio
Lysander
Isambard
Isidore
Julius
Rupert
Crispin
Edmund
Ludovic

PermanentTemporary · 17/03/2026 07:52

More votes for Bruno, Darius and Lysander.

Maximilian
Gavin (overdue revival imo)
Trip

Bellybellas · 17/03/2026 07:44

Fabian
Quentin
Caapar
Magnus

LoudPlumDog · 13/03/2026 14:06

Jacques
Kurt
Kalman
Ayrton
Wade
Quade
Trey
Torin
Vance
Reeve
Kale
Uriah
Lincoln
Dayton
Wyndham
Durward
Regan
Conlan
Cobin
Brady
Cecil
Jarvis
Landon
Drazik
Jye
Lovis
Braxton
Everett
Avery
Kip
Fox
Geordie
Dwight
Kahn
Chad
Zayne
Abbott

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SometimesIcantsleep · 13/03/2026 14:04

Just wanted to update and say thank you to those who have given their thoughts; unfortunately I still can't find anything I remotely feel anything towards. I have decided to book myself in with the perinatal mental health team after a discussion with a family member as I/they think much of this is down to severe gender disappointment and never feeling like I am a boy mum and now I'll have 2, it seems to be much deeper rooted than just picking a name. Thankyou again, hopefully some of the suggestions may help others that are stuck on names too ❤️

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ByZingyMauveReader · 13/03/2026 12:00

I love the French name, Remi.

KimuraTan · 13/03/2026 01:41

Christopher and Kit for short ? Apologies if it’s been done.

Florian
Felix
Fabrice

Gluedtogether · 13/03/2026 01:25

Just use a unisex name like Robin.

Calliopespa · 13/03/2026 00:35

What about Emil?

user1492757084 · 12/03/2026 17:31

Ideas ..
Max
Clive
Giles
Wilbur
Tate
Rex
Lloyd
Angus
Nigel
Victor
Sandford
Craig
Justin
Benjamin
Otto

HighburyHope · 12/03/2026 16:59

Bruno

Silverbirchleaf · 12/03/2026 16:52

Lorenzo - came across one recently. Although sounds Italian, thought it was a great name.

NigellaDelia · 12/03/2026 16:08

I read a monthly Amish-Mennonite magazine which includes births, marriages & deaths

Looking through the most recent one there have been baby boys named

Bridger

Lincoln

Thaddeus

Wyatt

Weston

Beckett

Flint

Fletcher

Zander

Tristyn

Calliopespa · 12/03/2026 12:45

SometimesIcantsleep · 12/03/2026 11:30

Someone I know who had their baby 3 weeks ago used the name Lando! It was one my partner liked

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I like it short for Orlando too.

If you like that, do you like Marlo?

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SometimesIcantsleep · 12/03/2026 11:30

Babsandherwabs · 12/03/2026 08:02

Lando (there are at least 2 of these locally, so fits the ‘uncommon but not too uncommon’ theme!)

Joel

Nicholas

Gus

Victor

Hugh

Jackson (don’t actually know any but masses of Hudson, Harrison, Greyson etc)

Laurie

Liam

Someone I know who had their baby 3 weeks ago used the name Lando! It was one my partner liked

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moonstarsuns · 12/03/2026 10:34

Hector is a nice unique boys name

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SometimesIcantsleep · 12/03/2026 10:27

puddingandsun · 12/03/2026 07:32

Sebastian

I think you need to stop overthinking it. Most names are fine and you’ll be focused on the child and love them with any name. No such thing as perfect until it’s been picked.
Have some checklist ie initials shouldn’t spell anything funny, spelling should be easy/ obvious, etc and let your partner choose his favourite if you genuinely don’t like any.
Also, how can your girl name be outing when it hasn’t been used or shared with anyone? People just really want to help you on here.

My entire family know if I was ever to have another girl it's the name I'd choose it's never been a secret, Ive never been one to be bothered if others don't like the names I pick, if I said my other kids names along with that it'd be very obvious, I have pregnant family members as active users of mumsnet, maybe I will come back and update when I have
told them, planning on it this weekend 🙂

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SometimesIcantsleep · 12/03/2026 10:23

ThankFuckTheSunIsHere · 12/03/2026 08:10

What kind of name are we thinking? Old fashioned? Quirky? Strong? Poetic? Long? Short? Ethnicity linked? Give us something to go on

I honestly don't have a type, it just has to be right, the only think I would say is I don't like "traditional" as in the kind of names you find in the monarchy, I love them on my friends kids and love them for their family, but not for me or mine

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PickledElectricity · 12/03/2026 09:13

Call him Jonathan.

GriseldaandMike · 12/03/2026 09:12

Do you have a favourite book, film or TV show with a male character you like? My DSs are both named after men in books I love. Their names gave me a warm fuzzy feeling because they reminded me of stories I love. Now I love their names because they are theirs.

Krakinou · 12/03/2026 09:11

Haha Zebulon is the French version of Julia Donaldson’s Zog. I’m adding it to my shortlist!

I know exactly how you feel about boy’s names OP - so hard. My favorite names of boys I know are: Thiago, Pau, Lysander, Rodrigo, Mario. I think Shakespearean characters have great names. Or you could try looking at top 100 lists around the world to just throw things wide open. I know a little Icelandic Baldur and a Dutch Chendo.

Calliopespa · 12/03/2026 09:05

Ambrose
Dustin
Monty
Sven