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Help! 6 week deadline is here! Is it a problem to use DD1's middle name for DD2???

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Missybaby · 10/06/2008 09:03

Gave DD1 our two favourite names in case next child was a boy. Next child was a girl, so.... want to call DD2 DD1's middle name. Do you think this is a problem? DH thinks they will argue about it in years to come. Please tell me what you think. Got the appointment with registrar later today and our 6 weeks is up (yes, we have been arguing this point for several weeks....). Really don't know what to do!

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Twelvelegs · 11/06/2008 20:36

Wrong thread

Twelvelegs · 11/06/2008 19:07

PS I saw someone with a Mutzy the other day, a twin (one on top of the other) does anyone have one???

2point4kids · 10/06/2008 15:24

How old is your first DD? If still very little and has no idea what her middle name is....

Could you change her middle name and give it to DD2 and then give them both new middle names?

hanaflower · 10/06/2008 15:16

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AtheneNoctua · 10/06/2008 15:15

I think you made the right decision. I changed my name to a nickname of my middle name when I was 20. My parents thought I was crazy, but I did it anyway. And I'm sure they never even consisered I might do such a thing when they chose my first name. So now both of your girls will have more options as they each will have their own two names.

2point4kids · 10/06/2008 15:14

Missybaby -
Long story but I nearly changed DS2's name AFTER I had registered him. I looked into if you could do it and how and its really easy.
You can change the name any time within 12 months of registering for free.

So register as your name choice and a 'stand in' middle name and then change the middle name when you have decided for definite!

AtheneNoctua · 10/06/2008 15:13

name please? Come on. Everyone announces the name when they are tiny.

sweetkitty · 10/06/2008 15:12

come on tell us the name now so we can come up with a good middle name?

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Missybaby · 10/06/2008 15:08

hanaflower, that's interesting. can anyone indeed confirm?

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EffiePerine · 10/06/2008 15:08

Now we can find you a middle name . Any requirements?

Buda · 10/06/2008 15:00

Yay!

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Missybaby · 10/06/2008 14:58

OK everyone I have decided not to 'steal' DD1s middle name as it suddenly occurred to me that she may want to use it herself for some other purpose (I don't know, but say she wanted to start up a clothing line or be an artist but not use her own name, she could use her middle name etc etc). So, I cancelled the appointment, literally when parked outside the registrars and have decided to call DD2 the 'popular' name choice but need to find a middle name that works. Have noted comments re. 'popular' names below and that makes me feel happier about using this name, ie doesn't mean there will be 10 of the same name in her class. This was the name we could both agree on that works with our surname. So, now we just need to find a middle name.
I am embarrassed to have taken so long to name her but finding the time once DD2 was born has been difficult (never get a moment's peace, don't you know!)

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mamabea · 10/06/2008 14:53

Missybaby...did you do it?

Friendlypizzaeater · 10/06/2008 14:50

I have an Uncle Paul and his kiddies are called David Paul and Paul David ....

ChippyMinton · 10/06/2008 14:45

Please don't do it. Speaking as a middle sister, it's bad enough having to always be second in line, without having a hand-me-down name too. I'm deadly serious BTW. Terrible idea.

stinkybear · 10/06/2008 14:45

My first name is my sister's middle name. It's the name of my mum's fave saint and when she had my sister she didn't think I'd be coming along 8 years later in need of something saintly!
I've never really minded to be honest, and found it pretty funny as it does sort of prove I was an 'afterthought' and it is something to tease my mum about! The only thing it occasionally caused mix-ups with was official documents and letters, and me opening my sister's letters / bills when we shared a house! But I wouldn't say it was ever a problem or an issue -- maybe because of the age gap?

ELR · 10/06/2008 14:44

ignore everyone and call her what you want

ELR · 10/06/2008 14:42

i would if its the name you like its a sort of tribute to dd1

hanaflower · 10/06/2008 14:41

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glaskham · 10/06/2008 14:36

there must be some girls names you like... and what if it is in the top whatever of popular names... my dd has a fairly popular name, but i've never met another little girl with the same name yet!! Just because its popular doesn't mean everyone is called that!!

we have very different names for our potential 3rd dc than either of our 2 now!! none of the names were even mentioned first time around!!

is there no other women in the family you can name them after?? grand mother?? aunty??

clumsymum · 10/06/2008 14:19

Oh no, please don't. I think it seems like you couldn't be bothered.

Actually I can't believe you have had nine months & 6 weeks to sort this out, and still haven't decided.

Sidge · 10/06/2008 14:13

There are literally thousands of names to choose from.

Are you really telling us you can't decide and agree on one name for your child?

I think that's quite sad to share names between your children, it's as if they aren't special enough to have their own name.

sweetkitty · 10/06/2008 14:12

I have 2 (nearly 3 DDs) and I don't think I would do it either sorry.

DD1 got our girls name then when we found out DD2 was a girl we had a completely different set of names, the name we shose for her I would never have thought of before but I love it now.

DD3 has a name we both like

Theres so many beautiful girls names out there surely you can find another one you love?

endymion · 10/06/2008 14:12

Also, dd's name is in the top 10 but I have yet to meet another Lucy of her age - out of her year at school, no other Lucys.
I know 4 Olivias out of school, and yet there are none in dd's school year.
What I'm trying to say is that a popular name in terms of statistics doesn't mean that your dd will be one of x number of Emilys or whatever.

endymion · 10/06/2008 14:09

So what if a name is in the top 10 names, if you and dh both like it and it will suit your dd.

TBH using a name already given to your first dd suggests that you aren't choosing a name that necessarily suits your dd, but rather one that you like regardless IYSWIM.