My sweet little boy (2nd child) is almost 5 months old. We didn't know the gender and looking back, didn't discuss baby names enough. We had a shortlist, but once he was born we quite quickly individually vetoed each other's choices. The only name left was Finn (my partners first choice) but I had a funny relationship with (on one hand loved it as it seemed to suit him perfectly, but was apprehensive about using an Irish name).
We however settled in Finn at 2 weeks old, but before telling everyone his name I had a real wobble and decided I couldn't call him that. Eventually we came up with a compromise name (Jack), and registered the birth at 6 weeks as Jack.
However it never sat easily and we constantly discussed changing it (to Finn or something else). I have since realised that I've perhaps not been in a great headspace. There is nothing objectively wrong with Jack, but I can't shake that it was such a last ditch selection.
I feel sadness looking back that we never got to positively announce his name as it was a real source of anguish for me. I feel I failed in the one simple thing a parent should do when they bring a child into the world! I loved my daughters name, and sad and embarassed I couldn't have the same experience for my son.
As an additional complication, I told my extended family at 3 months old we were changing it to Finn but never followed through.... so now people know him by two names!! Yikes, what a self created conundrum.
Should we change his name? If so, whats the best way to announce it? Middle name is Alexander.