Baby name change

Thank you I will look at the link now.

@DuchessOfNarcissex why does it only make sense for a minor change though? What if it were a total change. It still makes sense. I know the posts, I’ve seen them before so I gathered it was the same woman. I feel sorry for her, she seems to be really struggling. Things like this are extremely hard whilst trying to look after the child night and day too. I hope she finds the support she needs.

@Bridgetjonesheart , I don't think anyone is weird or rigid about changing a baby's name. I know people who have done it. If the name is misspelt, or they want to change the name from something like Xander to Alexander, it makes sense.

OP has started countless threads about this, I think, over several months. She hasn't decided on the new name. The baby is probably 11 months old. Once the baby is older than 12 months, the name change is treated differently.

From what I remember (the posts were from a different username), the baby has 2 passports, so it's a bit more complicated than changing Pheobe to Phoebe or Evie to Evelyn.

I’ve had to Google as never heard of slang Lean.

Just add an a to make Leena or whatever spelling you choose.

Layla is not a nice name anyway.

People are really weird and rigid about changing names. It actually blows peoples mind for a totally unfathomable reason to me. You gave birth to them and will look after them the rest of your life, call them what you want.

If the name is Leen, aren’t people surprised because they think it’s the verb ‘lean’ rather than a slang word for drugs?

FWIW I actually hadn't heard of it (the drug).

I had heard the song sung suggestively for your other choice of name.

But I think both associations will go right over the heads of children.

Well just change it then OP. The A makes a big difference.

But don't leave it too late if you have your heart set on it. It gets far more complicated past baby's birthday.

You go about asking 'Do you know what [slang] is?' ?
They probably think you're a dealer!

@nellietheellie75 , the name is not relevant. OP has probably a few days in which to change the name. She has suggested 3 names.
1 she loves but some of us link with alternative chorus to a popular rock classic,
2 is a name that is basically the current name with an a added at the end.
3 something different.

@CountryQueen , the name is not Lina.
The baby is called [name]. [name] sounds similar to an obscure slang word for a non-class A drug.
OP is trying to choose a new name for [name], and has suggested Lina, Layla or Hannah.

So the kid is called Lina? And someone said it’s to do with drugs?! Weird

Im still none the wiser on the name!!

Change to a completely different name, but check it with this forum first to avoid a repeat of the mistake. You had no way of knowing the slang until you’d named her really, and you have given it plenty of thought.

You are assuming that OP lives in an area with loads of druggies' children who are familiar with obscure slang words, @August1980 .

Thank you! Bless OP. Just go ahead and change it. Don’t worry about other people . Baby will be coming home to you crying if it’s not right and she is being teased…

@August1980 , you probably won't know the name or have heard of the drug. The name is given to 70+ girls a year and is Arabic.

It's nothing like Marijuana.
I'd say it was a bit like Doll. It could be slang for barbs/speed, then OP asking if she should change the name to Dolla, Delia or Hannah.

(The name isn't Doll)

i am so think I can’t figure out the name! So can’t advise on how bad/slangy it actually is.
go ahead and change it op. My friend of 35 years changed her name. I still call her by the name I called her when we were 7. She answers… she changed her name in her 20 ‘s to be cool.

I agree with this op.

And in all honesty the possible (only possible - and ultimately anything is possible) objections to the names under consideration are not really things that children of name-bullying age will be aware of.

I would personally add the "a" because I think it would make you feel better, and because I think it will make little or no difference to the baby at this age as it is similar enough. And you have time. Just.

I wouldn't change to Layla as, like most names, and as discussed on the other thread, it has its own potential for implications.

But none of it is serious. It's not like you are calling her Willy or Regina - and even then plenty of people do and the children survive.

@Sossita Sossita, if bullies target you, they will use your name, voice, hair colour, height, where you live, whatever. Your child will need to rise above it. The bullies stop if you don't react.
Teach your child how to set boundaries.

I don't think your child will get bullied for the name she currently has , which IMO is nicer than Layla.

My concern is that this isn't about the name - once it is changed, you might fixate on something else.

If you and the baby's father are both willing to change the name, then do so before the 12 months deadline.

@Sossita Is your other daughter called Lara?

Yes, I'd get on with it op. You've posted because it bothers you and an "a" will make no difference to baby; she'll still hear her name in it.