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Massively struggling to pick a girl's name!

117 replies

goldenlabby · 12/09/2025 20:05

My husband and I have very different taste in names, and are really butting heads over what to name our daughter. We also have a long and unusual surname to consider.

Here is the full list, some are his favourites and some are mine so I'm keen to get some unbiased responses to them.

Daphne
Octavia
Tamara
Celine
Helena (Hel-ee-nuh)
Dorothy
Vera
Beatrix (Bea or Trixie)
Catherine (Kitty)
Clara
Tabitha
Margaret (Maggie)
Penelope
Maud

We are really struggling and as such have gone a bit off-piste in a desperate attempt to find something we can agree on.

Thanks in advance.

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StrictlySequinsandStiIettos · 12/09/2025 21:26

#Daphne - Du Maurier/Frasier/Scooby doo (Feels dated)
Octavia - Jilly Cooper
Tamara - I quite like this
Celine - Dion
Helena (Hel-ee-nuh) - not that pronunciation
#Dorothy - kids from Fame/ hate Dot/Dotty
#Vera - Feels dated
Beatrix (Bea or Trixie) - I quite like this
Catherine (Kitty) - I quite like this
Clara - okay
Tabitha - cat's name
Margaret (Maggie) - okay if you can get past Thatcher. Prefer Marianne
Penelope - Pitstop/pig
#Maud - Feels dated

From pp, I like Martha.
I also like Nancy.
I like both Tamsin and Tasmin.
Greta
Verity
Vita

userhallball · 12/09/2025 21:22

What about Elena (pronounced Ellen-na) i knew someone with this name snd its beautiful

Havetoagree · 12/09/2025 21:20

Clara

lemoncrisp · 12/09/2025 21:19

Love them all except Dorothy, Vera and Maud.

Squishydishy · 12/09/2025 21:19

Vast majority of people will say Helen-uh

Ikeameatballs · 12/09/2025 21:16

Daphne- nice
Octavia -Skoda and just feels contrived
Tamara -ok
Celine - nice
Helena (Hel-ee-nuh) -nice but dull, I know too many Helen/Helenas
Dorothy - I’m not keen
Vera - no
Beatrix (Bea or Trixie) - nice
Catherine (Kitty) -like Catherine, kitty is ok
Clara- lovely
Tabitha -ok
Margaret (Maggie) like Maggie
Penelope -love this
Maud- not keen. What about Maeve?

DaisyBeatrice · 12/09/2025 21:12

Tabitha

Gulliver88 · 12/09/2025 21:11

Maud is my favourite with Maudie as a nickname or just go for Maudie as a name .
What about Maeva or Martha ( Mattie for short)

SpringingOn · 12/09/2025 21:06

Daphne - not my taste but ok
Octavia - not keen
Tamara - not keen
Celine - not keen - prefer suggestions of Selena, Celeste or I like Sylvie
Helena (Hel-ee-nuh) - OK
Dorothy - love
Vera - really like actually
Beatrix (Bea or Trixie) - prefer Beatrice
Catherine (Kitty) - prefer Katherine, like Kitty
Clara - ok
Tabitha - love
Margaret (Maggie) - I am a Thatcher's child so still can't bear. Like Peggy as nickname for Margaret.
Penelope - ok
Maud - OK but prefer Martha (where I live lots of little girls called Maud or Martha)

My favourites are Tabitha or Dorothy. Also going to suggest Constance which I love.

Airbnbhelp2025 · 12/09/2025 21:01

Beatrix (Bea not Trixie)
Kitty
Penelope
Maggie

Have you thought of:

Nancy, Lydia, Esme, Hester, Frances

IcyIvy · 12/09/2025 20:58

I like Beatrix, Clara & Penelope. I quite like Maggie but not Margaret.

Advocodo · 12/09/2025 20:49

I like Maud and especially Maudie when she is little. Or how about Maisie or Grace but Gracie as a baby. Can you tell I like names with ie esp as a baby.

Montereyjaaack · 12/09/2025 20:42

I’m going to be cheeky and suggest names that seem like your list but aren’t your list.. and hope perhaps it assists a bit:
Clara - Cara, Cora, Dora, Clarissa (ps love Clara!)
Tamara/Tabitha (which seem similar to me) - Tess/Tessa, Talulah
Helena - Helene, Helen, Henrietta
Maud (I love it) - Mari, Maureen, Marianne, Maryam (Marry-am)
Margaret - I don’t love Maggie or Mags but it calls to mind those lovely old name like Margot).

Wild card suggestions- Lisette, Julia, Audrey, Felicity, Marigold, Caliope (NN Callie), Amrit, Josephine, Josette, Bernice, Betty, Jess/ica)

butterdish93 · 12/09/2025 20:42

Helen or Helen-a is beautiful.
not sure about hel-ee-na

Louoby · 12/09/2025 20:41

The names I like on your list are Clara and Beatrix. Here are my fav girl names ones in case any are to your liking too.

Ivy
Eden
Quinn
Luna

pistachioandnuts · 12/09/2025 20:40

Helena pronounced Helen a

checme · 12/09/2025 20:40

I like these names, especially Maud.
Clara
Tabitha
Penelope
Maud

Plastictreees · 12/09/2025 20:37

I would swap Maud for Maeve.

SwedishEdith · 12/09/2025 20:37

Daphne - not keen
Octavia - too comically posh
Tamara - possible. Not my taste but not awful
Celine - prefer Celeste
Helena (Hel-ee-nuh) - don't like that pronunciation. Prefer Hel-en-a
Dorothy - like this and Dotty is cute for a child
Vera - like this. Quite stylish
Beatrix (Bea or Trixie) - ok
Catherine (Kitty) - solid name
Clara - popular
Tabitha - love this
Margaret (Maggie) - really dislike. A cold name, to me
Penelope - Penny is great
Maud - not for a child

luckylavender · 12/09/2025 20:37

I love Vera, Dorothy, Octavia & like Helena

ResusciAnnie · 12/09/2025 20:35

Daphne - know a couple, if that bothers you. Not hugely keen.

Octavia - no

Tamara - dated

Celine - nice

Helena (Hel-ee-nuh) - cba with pronunciation variations

Dorothy - mm
Vera - nice

Beatrix (Bea or Trixie) - nice

Catherine (Kitty) - boring

Clara - boring

Tabitha - can’t decide. Know a couple of Tabbys. Don’t really have an opinion either way.

Margaret (Maggie) - there was one at soft play today and I thought, yeah! Maggie. Nice.

Penelope - favourite of the bunch

Maud - love but only if it would suit you yourself OP. Given daughter is likely to look similar to you and have the same vibe. I for example would make a terrible Maud, nowhere near cool enough.

TimetoGetUpNow · 12/09/2025 20:33

My view:
Daphne - no
Octavia - no
Tamara - ok
Celine - hard no (singer)
Helena (Hel-ee-nuh) - no, pronunciation issues
Dorothy - no, yes to Dorothea
Vera - hard no. Yes to Verity
Beatrix (Bea or Trixie) - yes, like it
Catherine (Kitty) - rather dull
Clara - yes
Tabitha - yes
Margaret (Maggie) - no
Penelope - no
Maud - big no

How about:
Delilah
Tasmin
Alberta (Bertie)
Elizabeth (any shortening you like, Betty rather cute)
Clementine
Audrey

Sailawaygirl · 12/09/2025 20:33

Also maybe just have a top 3 ( 2 outside choices) and see what she looks like when she arrives! We did this and DH actually went for my favourite name ( but not his) as soon a he cuddled baby.

CarriMarie · 12/09/2025 20:29

My favourites are Tamara, Celine and Tabitha.

Sailawaygirl · 12/09/2025 20:28

Daphne - not my taste
Octavia -not my taste
Tamara - no ( sounds a bit 'chavy' to me)
Celine - ok
Helena (Hel-ee-nuh) - I like classic and feels strong
Dorothy - due a come back definitely
Vera - ol
Beatrix (Bea or Trixie) - not my taste
Catherine (Kitty) - ok .
Clara - like
Tabitha - in too minds! My favourite dolly was called tabitha
Margaret (Maggie) - too old lady for me
Penelope - just not my taste
Maud - I cans see why people don't like it but I actually think it's my favourite on the list!

What about fleur? Rebecca, Martha