Husband is trying to back out of naming agreement

All the names are nice - both the ones he has already chosen for your first DD and would like to choose for your second, and the ones you have chosen. I thought one or other choice would be outlandish or the style would be totally incompatible.
I said he should be able to veto but since all the name choices are really very reasonable, I think he should stick to the agreement after all.

Me too. I know 3 people with a little girl called Olive, and all I see is this...

I know old names are coming back - that girls were named in the 1920s and 1930s, (like Nora, Hilda, Ada, Mabel, Agnes, Nancy, and Florence, and many of them are fine,) but Olive is just a bit............ meh...

I don’t agree. Some kind of homogeneity within a family works for me.

Olivia and Francesca would have worked well.

I guess you could say Mary-Kate and Olive-Elizabeth too.

I agree.

Each to their own. Olive is a ghastly name.

I definitely think DH should honour the agreement however I know it doesn’t matter but I think it didn’t make sense in the first place :( why have a name the other one doesn’t like?
just don’t think I could deal with a whole pregnancy and labour then name the child something I don’t like. however, now this has happened and DH happily chose a name you didn’t really like for baby #1, definitely okay for you to choose name for baby #2.

They're naming a second child, not a pet. The names don't need to 'go"

Suggestions that might go with Olive, either for sounds or similar vibe:

Cleo
Cecilia
Hera
Maud
Molly
Penelope
Hebe
Thea
Dolly
Dotty, Dorothy, Dorothea
Romilly
Hermione
Maria
Katharina

You both sound really immature to even come up with this arrangement. Of all the names in the world you couldn't agree on one between you?

What a toxic cruel thing to do to that child!!! That kid knows their name. It's a lovely name. Renaming a child, just because mum has decided shedoesnt like it, is abusive.

Olive
Olive is a very normal, and common name. Have you been living under a rock? Mary Kate is a very southern American, annoying twit sounding name.

A friend's parents did this. Friend's dad chose her name, close variation of her mum's name. Friend's mum hated it and the shortened variation of it. They sadly lost their second daughter, don't know who'd chosen her name. Or who chose their 3rd daughter's name.

I’d have have not had another if ye hate his boring names.

Francesca and Cici as a family name is great OP.

He will have to suck it up.

Have you seen ‘Little Miss Sunshine’ (Olive)?

OP, I think this is the way forward in your discussions with your DH.

Tell him that you compromised on names last time and now it is his turn, and he will find that he starts to see the child, not the name, and it will all be OK.

If course he will try and turn that back on you and say if that is how you feel you will be able to overlook it again, and you just stick to your guns and say you have done your fair share of overlooking and now it is his turn.

He is being wildly unfair and unreasonable.

It’s also pointless and irrelevant pages of MNers chipping in with their view on the names. None of the names are Amityville Nesquick or Panty-Mae Murf and everyone has different subjective preferences. What matters here is the OP havjng as much say as her DH given the situation they have found themselves in.

Is there any possibility that he will attempt to go and register the birth and name without you?

I think you need to come up with a fake name he would hate even more Chardonnay Rose’, Penelope Pittstop, Marlboro Red, and refuse to discuss any further with him.

I know exactly what you meant. I don't think it's a daft statement, I stand by it. No business having children together when neither of them can agree or compromise and both will willingly choose a name they know the other hates. They clearly don't respect one another. Disaster waiting to happen and they should have learned their lesson the first time.

Where you wet wrong was doing this agreement in the first plan. As grown Adults you should be able to agree! Let's hope Olive never realises the way her name came about and more importantly you don't like it!! Mad the pair of you.

Sorry he’s bu you went along with his so he has to go along with yours now otherwise he’s just another controlling man who needs to get his own way.

@Digdongdoo i meant that your statement was daft - to ask why they’re having children when they can’t agree on names.

the person who has pushed this child out of her vagina should get to decide what to name it!

It's not daft. It's just too late. Doesn't bode well if they can't even agree on this...

Well that’s daft. Most people start thinking about names when they’re already pregnant.

It really is irrelevant in the long run. I have a friend with Hermione, Augustus and Leonidas. I hated every name but very soon the name became associated with the child and ‘normal’. Hermione was later made more everyday due to the Harry Potter books and very soon the other two became Gus and Leo.

He essentially tricked you into allowing your firstborn to have a name you hate by future faking. He’s beyond selfish.

Then more fool Op for agreeing to a name she hates.

It does sound as if he is a bully though so that it's easier to give in.

Hopefully not as Op decided to have a 2nd child with him.