Husband is trying to back out of naming agreement

So maybe then still give him a choice (which sounds like more than he gave you for DC1) - Francesca or Mary-Kate? He has to pick, and “I don’t like either” isn’t an option. None of your or his name choices are awful - Mary-Kate and Calliope are probably the more unusual (so personally I’d lean towards Francesca in terms of “fitting in” - although in style Mary actually fits really well with Olive as a sibset imo, both short, sweet and retro!).

It's a ridiculous agreement tbh, it would have been better to end up with a name both of you weren't overjoyed about rather than one parent hating one child's name.
We couldn't decide on a name for our first. In the end he wrote down a few names he liked and I picked one. Luckily the name was one I loved as soon as I saw it and was one I hadn't even thought about before.

I know Olive is not a Greek name, but it does have an association in English (olives) and with Athena and Calliope thrown in the mix I think it’s a fair question to ask if he is Greek or of Greek heritage.

But they are all lovely names And great combinations. Stick to your guns.

Calliope is a Greek name. I believe so is Athena and Theodora. Weird name choices unless he is Greek.

How does he feel about just Katherine Mary? You could shorten to Kate, Katy.

Lose the Francesca it just doesn't roll off the tongue.

FWIW I also think Olive is an ugly name

Could you compromise and let him pick the middle name?

Your names aren't my favourite but they are fine. As for his choice, personally, I dislike Olive (Olivia/Livia both fine) but it's not awful and I think is increasing in popularity.

I quite like Theodora. Don't like Calliope or Mary-Kate.

It doesn't matter though because it's your child and your chosen name doesn't fall into the "fgs think of the children!" category.

He agreed to let you name this child and he needs to stick to his word.

Tell him you'll let him choose your second child's name when he agrees to change your first child's name. I.e. never.

Wtf, there is NOTHING extreme about those names 😂I was thinking it would be something ludicrous.
YANBU

Olive is not Greek. In Greek it’s Elia.

(olive I quite like though)

He's a sore team player and loser.
So tell the buttercup to suck it up.

(Also your name suggestion is much better than his but that's beside the point.)

Not the point though. They had a deal.

Oh god no that’s awful. Your choice is fine. He needs to accept it.

As long as the name isn’t Donald Trump or similar I’d say crack on.

I’m lucky enough DP didn’t care to much about names, he was too excited to be a dad, also his surname is a bitch to match with most names. I picked DS because it’s a name I’d had in my head since I was about 15. He didn’t offer any suggestions so I chose both DS first and middle name. With dd, I couldn’t decide between 3 first names, middle name was set in stone, so I left it up to DP. TBH I may get flamed for this but I feel the woman should have overall say (if you can’t decide) considering we carried them for 9 months and in most cases they have the fathers surname.

He’s being a dick! For what it’s worth, I think Olive and Francesca sound lovely together so I would use them that way round. I’m not a big fan of Mary-Kate myself but it feels like those names have some meaning to them, I prefer Francesca Mary alone.

So weird that you let him name your child a name you didn’t like, I can’t get over it, he sounds absolutely awful

Yes, I also like the name Olive and think posters need to remember this is the name of OPs first born.

A) I like Olive 🤷‍♀️ b) I get that she's already compromised, and that "they made a deal" but I also think it was a weird deal, and I'm not surprised that he's struggling to keep his end of this bizarre bargain!

Could you shorten Olive to Liv or Livi? Most children have nicknames of some variation… just find one you like and start using it- it’ll soon catch on!

She named her child OLIVE. Shes already compromised.

Scrap my message!! Pulling a u-turn.

YES NAME YOUR BABY THAT! It goes nicely with sisters name too actually! Is your eldest named Olive and not Olivia? Are there any nicknames like Liv or Livvie?

Calliope is horrendous. Theres also about to be part 2 of the sandman released in which she is a character repeatedly raped. I’d hate that association tbh.

Isn't Calliope a type of organ? I've never heard it as a name.

From a utilitarian point of view I kind of get that it makes more sense for one person to love the name than for both people to kind of like it. But I can't imagine agreeing to call my child a name that I didn't like - I think it was very unusual that you went along with that, and not unsurprising that when push comes to shove he's not able to do the same.

I think it would be fair for you to write a list of 10(+) names that you like, and let him pick from your list (or vice versa if you'd prefer. Or do it both ways round, but then you get the final say)

I like Mary-Kate Francesca, it has a nice flow to it. Olive Athena and Calliope Theodora are nice too. Sounds like he likes Greek names.

Your names are perfectly reasonable assuming they're not, like, the names of his hated ex or something. It's not as if you've chosen something offensive or Yoonique. He agreed to it and got his chance to name a child. He needs to suck it up imo.